You guys call Dev-Ishwari's bond toxic?!

I'm amazed at some of the people on this forum calling Dev-Ishwari's bond as toxic. If anything, there is infinite love between the two. You can get another wife but not another mother. Yes, her behaviour towards Sona is just like how most mother in laws behave like, but that has nothing to do with her relationship with Dev.

yep...not lettingyour son live his life, enjoy his marriage or have sex with his wife is totally normal.

Sure, not acknowledging his marital life, not letting your son having a healthy conjugal life, not thinking about your son's future when you will die, not acknowledging his basic need of rest and sleep, not knowing that your son has started taking sleeping pills to live upto your expectations and to provide comfortable (read lavish) lifestyle to you and your daughters, forcing your decisions on him about a company he ALONE founded, not acknowledging your son's hard work and giving it a name of Duty, not realizing that he can have his own head, his own mind, his own decisions about his life, not being happy in his happiness, not letting him take care of his wife, taking his hard work for granted and saying others kids will not struggle at all and only he will struggle till he dies - really what an amazing divine non-toxic bond 😛

I am also against those people who leave their parents in old age home but when a DIL like sona has to undergo through continuous taunts and made feel like an unwanted person,when I see so much hypocrisy from MIL's like Ishwari then I don't blame if a wife would want to live separately because one just can't live peacefully in such house Respect should be a two sided thing,if a MIL expects respect from her DIL then she sould equally respect her DIL She is not a maid or showpiece who is supposed to Zip her mouth on every injustice thrown at her

Which mother keeps harping on 'ehsaan' etc! Mothers love is unconditional.. It doesn't bind you.. It frees you.. To help you flourish .. To help you feel mature enough to take your own decisions!

This relationship is toxic because it's pushing the child into abysmal darkness and not helping in any way to get out of it! She has made him weak .. Completely imbecile to say the least because of pushing him day in day out and even more now because he got Sona in his life who has the potential to unconditionally let him grow and feel free.

I have never questioned her love for Dev.. He is her pride but the unfortunate part is that she has shackled him with chains of ehsaan n what not! He is the kind of son who would do things for everyone without even labelling it with reasons.. But no ishwari cannot see that happen.. Why?her behaviour is completely unhealthy in every which way.she is selfish. Period.

lets not generalise Coz this ish Dev bond is an extreme case n completely indigestible!

She will fall more because her redemption would be the final showdown.. Where she will see that despite the toxicity she has gotten her son into.. Dev and sona love her the same and would work to get out of the mess she has created for herself and everyone else!

She plays tricks all d time, keeps her son's locker keys n refuse to give it to his wife, shows up in their bedroom anytime with silly excuses, preventing them to get into a relationship ,taunts her DIL in the name f responsibilities n rituals rather than giving a welcoming vibes to her, fumes with jealousy seeing her son n DIL happy together , refuses to accept her DIL as one her family members who can b involved in any of d personal family matters etc etc
What else u call it then ??

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

Sure, not acknowledging his marital life, not letting your son having a healthy conjugal life, not thinking about your son's future when you will die, not acknowledging his basic need of rest and sleep, not knowing that your son has started taking sleeping pills to live upto your expectations and to provide comfortable (read lavish) lifestyle to you and your daughters, forcing your decisions on him about a company he ALONE founded, not acknowledging your son's hard work and giving it a name of Duty, not realizing that he can have his own head, his own mind, his own decisions about his life, not being happy in his happiness, not letting him take care of his wife, taking his hard work for granted and saying others kids will not struggle at all and only he will struggle till he dies - really what an amazing divine non-toxic bond😛

Ishwari truly cares for Dev, so what she has not done anything listed above, but she has made perfect arrangement for her son's post-divorce life so that he can have a hassle-free alimony process and smooth divorced life where inspite of being a father he won't have to take any responsibility of his kids😎

P.S. - If I were a girl, I would have never married such guy who has a mother like Ishwari. And I had a mother like Ishwari, I would definitely put a boundary to define the limits for both of us.😃Anything beyond that boundary would feel Toxic for me😛

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Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

Sure, not acknowledging his marital life, not letting your son having a healthy conjugal life, not thinking about your son's future when you will die, not acknowledging his basic need of rest and sleep, not knowing that your son has started taking sleeping pills to live upto your expectations and to provide comfortable (read lavish) lifestyle to you and your daughters, forcing your decisions on him about a company he ALONE founded, not acknowledging your son's hard work and giving it a name of Duty, not realizing that he can have his own head, his own mind, his own decisions about his life, not being happy in his happiness, not letting him take care of his wife, taking his hard work for granted and saying others kids will not struggle at all and only he will struggle till he dies - really what an amazing divine non-toxic bond😛

Ishwari truly cares for Dev, so what she has not done anything listed above, but she has made perfect arrangement for her son's post-divorce life so that he can have a hassle-free alimony process and smooth divorced life where inspite of being a father he won't have to take any responsibility of his kids😎

P.S. - If I were a girl, I would have never married such guy who has a mother like Ishwari. And I had a mother like Ishwari, I would definitely put a boundary to define the limits for both of us.😃Anything beyond that boundary would feel Toxic for me😛

Cannot agree more!!
Perfectly bang on post..specially d pre nup part.

Which mom thinks of divorce before her son is not yet married.. lol dev and ishwari's relationship is toxic. she is over possessive and obsessed with her son to the point its creepy. And please dont justify the rudeness of mother-in-laws saying that its how it has been for years. We are modern people we shouldnt let people show us down and degrade us just because they are our mom in laws.

whoa.. this is the most self rightous, one sided, arrogant post Ive read on the forum. are you not watching the show and what Ishwari is doing? i am not from "this" young generation u speak of... but I can see toxic relationship. ishwari is a shame to motherhood not some of us who think this is a strange, tosic, disgusting love between mother and son 😡

you say.. she is the kind who would give her life for her son.. which mother wouldnt dear TM? all mothers would!

but in this case.. ishwari to dev ko jeere jee maar rahi hai 🤢