Toxicity of Dev-Ishwari's Relationship - Page 2

You make some very valid points Saumiee...

The show is depicting this and I think the mother-son symbiotic relationship will hit an all-time low in coming weeks. Worse than it was during the break up track. Because then Dev had a lover, now he has a lawfully wedded wife.

Of course its over the top. This is television. We expect some drama.

Originally posted by: romanticgurl070

yeah Dev worth in his house is only as a money making machine and nothing else. In the Dixit family, no one knows him as Sona does. She actually knows him in and out.. Remember what Sona told Ishwari days after their break up when she came to inquire about Dev condition. Each and every word of hers was so true. Its just that Ishwari didn't want to believe what she said.

Originally posted by: saumiee

Caught up with last two episodes very late so could not make the daily posts guys this is just a rant, so please bear with it😆

Ishwari's behaviour has been surprising us off late. This lady does not treat Dev as an individual identity at all, he is just her son. .His identification is limited to that.. earlier she used to be vocal about her opinions and left it on Dev to follow those advices or not, but suddenly she has turned so assertive and orders Dev rather than talking to him about his decisions.

But the situations then and now are different, Sonakshi's presence making all the difference. Earlier Dev never thought about the advises given by Ishwari from a different perspective so by default, he may have unquestionably done whatever Ishwari wanted him to. Ever since a girl who understands the complexity of emotions and situations better than him came to his life, the perspective of vision widened.

Sonakshi's advice sometimes resonated with Ishwari sometimes it did not. In the initial days, she did not notice. .as time progressed she brushed off the topic.

But, now they are married and Ishwari cannot digest the fact that her slave makes a decision on his own.Yes, I am using the word slave here because Ishwari's affection is what a master has,for maybe, his most important worker, nothing more. She no more keeps his emotions or sentiments in mind, does not consider his individual needs, heck she does not even think Dev owns his own business.

She owns every right to change his decisions because she thinks Dixits have reached this stage because Dev worked hard for her. .for her family.

She cannot see Dev having a brain of his own, having a heart of his own. He cannot take any decision for himself.

Every dialogue of Dev makes sense now,

"I need you for myself"

"Tum sirf meri ho"

"Mai tumhe kisi se share nahi karna chahta"

Because whatever Dev has done, it is for his family. He was irritated when even after marriage, he has to share Sonakshi with the family so much so, that Sona couldn't spend time with him. He can see Sonakshi being consumed in the Dixit family.

Imagine he has to call his wife out for a date in the car for spending some time with her.

Dev and Ishwari share such a toxic relationship. I read a post on the forum a few days back on how this relationship is purely based on obligations. Ishwari the master controller and Dev being the slave, who keeps obliging his master for her favours.

I feel so sorry for him, he cant have a life of his own Whenever he tries to have one, he is made to feel guilty.

And I am sure Dev would never realise how sabotaged he is in his own house, how he is being treated as a money-making machine only because He has been brought up in a situation where he has seen his mother struggle and after his father's death, all the responsibility comes on his fragile shoulders. Dev never acknowledges that his childhood was also lost albeit he knows.

And for Ishwari, Dev is her favorite, I believe not because of her love for him, but because he helped her sail through the tough times. Because he ensures her family is protected.

With Sonakshi's arrival, she can not see him diverting his attention to someone who is not a part of her family. She has not accepted Sonakshi as her family, bahu yes, Dev's wife yes, but not his family, not her family.

It is so heartbreaking to see Dev being caged in this shade of love, where he is indefinitely trapped between obligations, responsibility and his mother's obsession.

Mind you, Ishwari's obsession is not with Dev the son but Dev the provider.

This is why she never hesitates to keep the newly wedded couple away, disregarding his emotions. . Or directly questioning him about his wife's influence but she is careful not to let go of Dev the provider by giving him that object of affection (Sona) without whom Dev cannot live.

Ishwari doesn't give a damn about Vicky, it is her own control she is worried of. If Dev doesn't follow her, Bhaiya-Bhabhi sochenge mera beta mere haath se nikal gaya?

It is her way to check if Dev still blindly follows her when it comes to family.

This is why she wasn't bothered about how Rhea was a trainee and started from scratch but is too worried about the most undeserving person in Dev's office, vicky because it is a matter of her respect, her control. Even of Dev's business suffers from losses, be it. . because Ideally Dev should give up every thing, every molecule of oxygen for his family if needed.

I hope Dev understands that he is stuck in a very toxic relationship with his mother where addressing the issue with affection can only reinforce Ishwari's behaviour.

Sonakshi will have a big role to play. And Neha's entry can be used in a transforming way to open everyone's eyes about Ishwari's hypocrisy.

P.S I hope Dev Sonakshi just move out of this house together, the only time they both smile these days, is when they are together❤️

Edited:Typos