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Sona showed some very worrying behaviour today, when she didn't return Dev's apology in the car, sulked through his entire speech, and ended their fight only with grudging acceptance and further defence of her point of view. Don't get me wrong, I am always in support of Sona expressing her anger -- or whatever her feelings might be -- to Dev, but this was something entirely different. As far as we know her, Sona has always been very direct in her opinions. If she had a problem with Dev, she told him to his face and ended it then and there. Sulking and silent treatment were *never* her style. In fact, as much as I hate to say it, her behaviour in the car today had Ishwari written all over it!
Uncompromisingly honest communication (barring the infertility thing, I know), and the ability for each one to really listen to the other and understand their point of view, have been the greatest strengths of Dev and Sona's relationship. After every single fight they had before this, BOTH of them have apologised to each other, because they took time to understand each other's perspectives. Today for the first time I was left hanging when after Dev shared his feelings, I expected Sona to show that she understood how she had upset Dev, and where she might have gone wrong, She completely failed to validate his point of view, even when she knew he had a point (why else would she have hesitated to tell him?). If Sona is not more careful about the changes she's allowing in herself, there is a very real risk of the two losing the very thing that makes their relationship special.
Yes, a lot of the time, Sona has a more mature read on situations than Dev, but he definitely complements her blind spots, especially where her stubbornness to have her way comes to the fore. If Dev loses the prerogative to communicate with her at these times, and puts her on a pedestal, assuming she's always right, afraid that Sona won't communicate with him otherwise, then what makes his relationship with Sona any different from his relationship with Ishwari? And I think we can all agree, Dev does not need another Ishwari. 😕
I know it didn't seem like a big incident today, and that their fight was all patched up, but I feel it's these little things that gradually lead to the emotional distance we see in Neha and Ranveer's case; the very things you loved about a person become cause for resentment. I would be totally on board if Sona got a sharp reality check from her saucy nanad. Nobody knows better than Neha that there's no reward or recognition guaranteed when you sacrifice... instead, no matter how much you give, some people will just keep taking until they take you for granted! You should prioritise those few people who genuinely care about your happiness, most of all, yourself!
Anupamaa
