Okay... I have been a silent reader on India Forums for the last couple of months, simply because I have come to adore this wonderful show... Which is currently going through a not-so-pleasant track...In the past few days, I have read a lot of posts regarding Ishwari's or Dev's behavior as well as Sonakshi's sudden change in her behaviour... And, like all of you, I am also worried and surprised about these changes in her...
Anyways, I tend to watch this show with my parents, simply because, it tends to air around the time that we have our late night conversations... I am in my early 20s and I have neither been in a relationship nor have observed such kind of behavior in my home.. For that, I thank my, fairly modern family...
So, while I couldn't relate with most of the scenarios, but I am fairly observant reader/ watcher of books/ shows... I always have my own interpretations or analysis of the actions/ behaviors of the characters...
Anyways, moving onto the topic of this discussion after watching today's episode...
I agree with the original post that Sonakshi is creating trouble for herself by trying to be the perfect 'bahu' and getting lost in following all of this rituals or traditions which she doesn't herself believe in (or, in my opinion, most of the current generation, including myself)..
And, while everyone in this discussion has acknowledged this fact, but I am surprised nobody is trying to probably see from Sona's eyes.. I don't know much for sure considering CVs mind's work in their own unique fashion but in my opinion,
The reason for Sonakshi's recent behavior is because she is afraid and confused...
I know, it sounds incredulous but in my opinion, it makes perfect sense... Sonakshi's is a strong, independent and a mature individual... She is the anchor of her and Dev's relationship, even Dev accepts that and appreciates her for it.. But, sometimes, I feel that we are so used to her being 'always right' that we sometimes, forget that she, too, has flaws in her character...
The only reason we do not tend to see them is because, unlike Ishwari's, Dev's or GKB's flaws, hers are a little subtle and needs to be spotted... We can easily see the mistakes made by others in the show but in all of this, we tend to ignore Sona's minor flaws..
We have to remember that she is the same woman who said to getting engaged to Rithvik after having a heated argument with Dev (in his office)... She didn't realize that she loved Dev till after their engagement was broken... She is the same person who after yelling at Dev for being his mother's puppet, accepted his mother's plea to accept his son's hand for marriage...
I feel that while Sonakshi brings the much needed emotional stability and companionship in Dev's life... Dev is the only person who accepts her without any condition and is the constant in her life who knows her better than anyone, including herself...
Remember, her first date with Rithvik which was organised by Dev.. He clearly told her hidden emotions and thoughts, without any hesitation.. Whatever his flaws were and are, one thing that's certain is his belief that Sonakshi is the constant in his life which will never change... According to him, she is already perfect...
But, I feel I like I am getting sidetracked from my main two points: fear and confused... So, let me elaborate on them point by point:
1. We have to realize the fact that their wedding happened 3-4 days ago, according to the show's timeline... And, apart from few moments here and there (which I absolutely love), they have barely spoken with each other...
On top of that all the taunts and criticisms that she needs to face, from Dadi Bua, to GKB to Ishwari, it's going to take a toll on anyone... We know that she is strong... She is already proven that when she answered to GKB after the muuh dikhayi( or whatever it was called) rasam... As well as had an argument with Dev on their wedding night where she took all of her doubts/worries on Dev...
But, after the first night, due to Ishwari's stupid insecurity regarding them consummating their marriage, they have barely spend some intimate moments with each other where they had a heartfelt conversation with each other...
Plus, we have to realise that this is a much bigger change for Sonakshi... She was her family's beloved daughter/sibling/granddaughter... Now, she is someone's wife, someone's bahu, someone's bhabhi... These are new roles for her...
All of her life, she learnt to be independent, to stand on her two feet.. To take responsibility of her actions and learn from her mistakes.. But, now her every mistake/ flaw, no matter whether they are small/big (or, even, she is responsible or not), she is being criticized... Now, her every mistake is a reflection on her being her husband's choice...
From being responsible for oneself, her whole life has become connected with that of her husband.. Her every action has become a reflection on her husband's choice...
From a daughter who knew nothing but happiness and comfort in her father's home, she has become a wife who has to continuously prove herself... Not to her husband... But, to her mother-in-law (GKB and others)...
And, the one person who understood her is absent... Dev is only present at home for a few hours, but even then, she has not been able to completely spend time with him... This is just adding to her anxiety and frustration. Just because she doesn't speak, doesn't mean that she is completely at ease..
She is confused at the jumbled mess that has become her life.. She knows how to be Ms. Sonakshi Bose but it will take her some time before she could come to terms with being Mrs. Sonakshi Dixit.
2. As for my second point, Fear.. I am not exactly sure about this.. But, there is a part of Sonakshi's mind which realizes the fact that Ishwari has only allowed Sona to enter her son's life because it was his whim/desire.. Not because, she has accepted her...
We all complain about the fact that she said to Ishwari very easily... But, we have to realize that by Ishwari's acceptance, her desire to spend her life with Dev became a reality...
During the separation, the main reason why she was angry with Dev was not because he had left her but the way, he had left her... They had made all these dreams about their forever that she was convinced that he was her eternity... For her, he became everything... She was finally living her dream and in a blink of an eye, her dream was shattered due to a simple but unsaid 'no' by Ishwari...
All her dreams, all her aspirations, everything was snatched in an instant... Dev didn't even look at her twice.. Yes, he was in agony too and she understood it, but that was the end of her love story...
How could she ever forget that heartbreak? How could she ever forget the agony of losing your forever? She might be strong but in the end, her biggest weakness and vulnerability is Dev...
Just because, she is now married... Does it mean, she should forget her sorrow? Her biggest nightmare is that what if Dev leaves her again? She sees a mother who is all smiles on her face, but on the inside, is in turmoil (the same way, when Ishwari first appeared to be happy but on the inside, was angry at Sonakshi for coming into her son's life).. Dev might not see it but Sona has already seen the autonomy that Ishwari has on her son's life and actions and faced the consequences...
After all, Dev only decided to marry Sona after his mother (supposedly) accepted her... And, now when she finally has a shot to achieve happiness... The only person who could ruin and turn her life into a living hell is Ishwari.. And, she recognizes this fact..
The things which we are finding disgusting and creepy, are able to intimidate Sonakshi to thing that 'the only reason, she is in this house, is because Ishwari wants it.. But, her husband will always will be Ishwari's son, first and foremost.' And, if she needs him to be part of her life, then, it will be according to his mother...
We have to realize that it is the same Sonakshi, who once stood upto Ishwari but at that time, she had already lost everything... And, now she can't do afford to that again, because she will lose everything...
"The pain of losing something hurts us, but the pain of losing the something after finding it again, shatters us."
And, finally my explanation comes to an end... I know it sounds irrational... But, it is true... After all, a marriage is a relationship that is meant for a lifetime and it takes months and years, for us to trust our partner to truly become our partner for life...
So, I don't expect Sonakshi and Dev's journey to be smooth nor do I expect them to learn lessons which are meant for life in a matter of days or weeks...
But, I know one thing the answer to the above two points lie in only one person: Mr. Obhodro... He is the constant in her life.. I am sure that once he finally sits down and have a conversation with her... And, simply be her husband, who has to realize that communication is as or more important than their pending Suhag Raat (which I am also waiting for), then his Ms. Khargosh will finally be back to normal (only God knows, how long will the CVs will continue this track,.. Hopefully, by the end of this week)...
As for her fears, only time and Dev's actions will reassure her that their relationship is stronger than someone's insecurity...
Till next time,
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