Ishwari: How close to reality OR a messed up character?

Hi guys...

I was thinking a lot in this direction...
And I feel, Devakshi break up would have been far bearable had Dev's family been a little supportive or rather should I reframe it as, Had Ishwari not been so indifferent and manipulative...

But she is, and a mere glimpse of her one scene leaves a bad taste in the mouth feeling...

I tried contemplating a lot about Ishwari... Real mothers like her do exist... I agree... But to this extent? I have asked N no. of times the same thing, and people have vouched to have seen such mothers..

Insecurities, breaking their son's married life, it has been seen in reality as well... but those mothers try and make their son's life a little better... But I don't see anything from Ishwari's side... I find her more and more lethal to her own son day after day...

At this point of time I doubt if such a mother like Ishwari exists or is it another messed up and butchered down character with no redemption at all...

Do you all think is there any point of recovery for Ishwari's character?

Of course there are mothers like Ishwari that exist. But those mothers are probably somewhere in a mental facility. 😆

I think there is a point of recovery. If she recognizes that Dev's happiness is in Sonakshi, and does everything to get them together, then I would say she has redeemed her character. But Ishwari shows no initiative in doing this.

Most mothers I know of are hellbent on marrying off their sons (atleast mine is). Ishwari is a special case.

Honestly, I do think that such mothers exist...else the word ' mother-in-law' would not have so many negative connotations !😆

I have a sad story to share in this context how such mothers give a brutal end to their own son's life...

I know of a mother like Ishwari who married her son and brought a daughter in law...
And the same tug of war game began, with that son having absolutely no say... He would never stand up for his wife, though he should have...

One fine day, the wife, who was heavily pregnant with twins, decided to leave the house, never to return... She said nothing to any of them... Just packed her stuffs and told she is going to her mother's house for delivery...

She never came back, though they all visited her after her twins' birth... She was just so done with having no one to stand up for her..

The husband started dissolving... He tried getting his wife back, but she never returned... He visited her multiple times... But no benefit... He was sandwiched between his mother and wife... slowly he stopped laughing and smiling... and eventually started ignoring his health. ..

That guy knew he was suffering from cancer, but told nobody until his family tool notice of his pain... They tried moving heavens and earth to get him treated... But too late... He had lost all wishes for life, and finally succumbed to a tragic death...

THIS STORY IS WHAT SHAKES ME FROM WITHIN SEEING DEV'S CONDITION... I literally beg before the writers to shape the characters up to realize before it gets too late for Dev...

@enness: Very well said. I second your thought. Supriya pilgaonkar is doing such a great job that I can't imagine any other actor portraying ishwari. Ishwari is a very complex character so one can't have a clear and definite opinion about her. She has mind related issues more than physical ailments that's why I always feel like she needs a psychologist instead a nutritionist.

a lot of mothers fear loosing control of their sons, or they feel that their sons may listen more to their wives after marriage. i think it is the innate competitiveness among women to want to feel the most special. the ek Mayan me do talwar nehi re sakti applies to only women and not to men.

Ofcourse they do...we only want to beleive what we have seen and known bt the real word is a much bigger place than the one we feel we live in.

1. Parents can never think or do wrong for their kids...yes we hear dat everyday ..atleast the pArents think so..
It won't b wrong here to say thAt the intentions of majority of parents are clear..very few exceptions...bt clear and good intentions do not always mean that the decision they take around it right or in favour of their children. They refuse to understand thT...humne duniya tumse zyada dekh rakhi hai - which is a straight and clear way of saying we can never go wrong in our decisions especially when it comes to our children...
Who knows whats gonna happen tmrw? Do they know? R they sure? Such decisons dnt come with Guarantee...dey always come wid tumhari bhalai k liye...we have lived our life..y wud we do something wrong to urs??

Ishwari also apparently doing something for her sons bhalai..she refuses to accept she can think or do wrong ti her son.

2. In her case, she has been a single mother, weak financial background, 3 daughters and one son's responsibility in the Age where many dnt even get married. I can say so coz she is 50 and dev is 27. She got married in her early twenties and no husband by the time she turned 30.
So ever since then she has only seen her Son doing everything she wants. She has seen times which many people wnt even have heard of..I remember the very first episode whre Dev asks ppl how much time dey took to reach their new house and they sd 15-20 min and he sd it took his mother 20 years to reach there.
She has seen all bad times in her life..all problems were related to money, there has never been any other issue in life apart from money issues. For her the only problem one can ever face in life is problem related to money. And same goes for the entire set of family as per her. So now dat they hv money, no other problem can make her or her son weak, if they can come outta the most severe and biggest problem in this world acc to them, rest of the issues are certainly small. No financial problems also means everything in life is fine and can b dealt with.
But here comes an issue which is non- monetry.. An issue she has never heard of, never faced but yes one thing is for sure, her son can deal with it and come outta it..if he can face that struggle..this is just a small petty heartbreak..it cnt do much harm to him. Thats wat many parents also think. And the best and oldest excuse of all to give urself and others..time will do the magic.. Time k saath sab bhool jaate hai and sab theek ho jata hai.


3. Dev has in a way pampered her..she herself sd once..when with dev I feel he's the mother.
Her love for Dev is more of a habit...she's addicted to this habit of him being there all the time, no anger no grudges nothing wen it comes to his mom. Dey say Old habits die hard. So how can she let dat habit of him being around always go like her. She saw a change coming there wen sonakshi entered Dev's life..she cudnt accept that change...the small things matter the most..n Dev did all those small things which indicated a big change..a change not to her liking .. We all resist change..dnt we? And when we are sure its not for the good..we refuse to adapt.

Iswari!Too close to reality . but no one become deewana like dev in real or may be.