Feminism is a way of life for the Bose fam;

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I've been following KRPKAB since its first ten episodes because Shaheer is a precious eye-candy and that for once in life I saw an Indian soap that was quite relatable. KRPKAB is the third show I am following and while it doesn't really exceeds expectations, It has definitely set a bar for itself which basically pushed me to come out and post here in appreciation for the show.

The Dixits are a family of flawed individuals who are self made and want to see themselves as best in every decision they take and every choice they make. They, as a family validate each other instead of asking for validation or embracing critic from an outside source.

The Bose family on the other hand, always staying behind the curtains in terms of presentation on the show but they are literally what every family should be like. They are an average middle-class family whose strongest tool is not wealth or traditional roots but education and self-confidence. I loved how in beginning of the show Saurabh's lack of ambition was something that Bijoy was not happy about but once he realized and understood that Saurabh in pursuing his goals has chosen an unconventional field that makes him happy, he stood aside and let him continue on. The priority that The Bose family places on is "happiness" and it is so refreshing to see that sentiment translate on-screen, that too a desi-soap opera with so much beauty is wonderful.

The equilibrium between Bijoy and Asha in there marriage and how they let there children grow up is beautiful, subtle and an example of how every other family adopt for being successful citizens and products to the society while retaining there best mental health and happiness.

In past episodes, Sonakshi has emerged as a fighter that her character always has been since beginning and she has stood up for not just her beliefs but her values and priorities and her decisions. From the moment she confided in her father to be reminded that wife is not present in a home to do chores to the moment where she stood up to Ishwari to not just provide closure to herself but also to remind the Dixits that there wealth and there regressive beliefs that have rooted to there insecurities aren't something that hold importance in her own life. For Sonakshi, pursuing something that makes her happy is what holds importance. Her belief in herself and confidence in her abilities is striking and exactly what needs to shown to masses across Subcontinent.

Feminism usually gets a bad rep for god knows what reason but I love how without highlighting women's rights and need for justice, for the first time in history on indian television, a next-door-girl is shown with the basic core belief that she is entitled to all the opportunities and all the decisions of her life just as a man is entitled to. That a man in her life doesn't dictate her journey of life.

I am just very excited in this track to see Sonakshi not wait for a moment to hold anyone but a grown man responsible for his mistake. She didn't hate on Ishawari or tell her that anything that blames her for her relationship with Dev coming to end. Ultimate decision in impulse was of Dev and she held him responsible. She stands on her own feet and continues to face the world because she isn't a criminal for a failed relationship.

I have not been much of a fan Erica till past break up. Sonakshi's character has usually given Erica more room to go along without being an impeccable actress but the track of break up and carrying herself in a emotional wounded state, I have to give Erica two thumbs up. She brought the fighter out of Sonakshi for the world to see that Sonakshi Bose is not someone to be taken lightly.


P.S. She called Dev out on being a stalker and oh my god, THAT WAS SO PERF because if my ex pulls that kind of shiz, he is getting a restraining order from me. Hats off o the writers of KRPKAB. It is an extremely underrated show of this decade. This show is basically above all of Gul Khan's love stories.


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Posted: 9 years ago
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Glad to have the show got you come out and post this wonderful piece of writing.. 👏👏
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Completely agree with you! I've watched many serials, hoping they would have even a speck of empowerment of the women and every time they've failed. And though there still are some flaws in the show, KRPKAB has really raised the bar for serials. It has changed the stereotype of other serials, there's no 'saazishs" or stupid time leaps. It's a normal, simple yet complicated part of many people's lives in India. Not exceeded amount of drama, and a sweet and endearing love story.
And initially I was a little weary on watching a new serial, since past ones have all disappointed me. But then I watched that episode where Sona barges into Dev's office and yells at him for talking with (don't know his name) which caused their relationship to break. And then Dev says that one line after Sona said that he would have let her work, he says "really?! I didn't know you needed anyone's permission to do what you want in life", and I WAS SOLD. That one line made me sure that this show is different and *touchwood* they haven't failed ever since. They don't have huge speeches about feminism or how women don't get equal treatment, but they have those small scenes (like the one with Sona and Bijoy) that make me want to pause the episode and just clap at the CVs. That's how they should make feminist shows, not flashing the word around everywhere but showing it through scenes and lines.
Hope they keep making such empowering scenes ESPECIALLY with Sona. Cuz the Sona now a days is this badass Sona that I'm absolutely loving!!! She doesn't take any insults and she speaks her mind (FINALLY). Can't wait for more badass scenes in the future. And I can't wait how in an empowering way, Sona and Dev get back together.
Great post!!
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Amazing post 👏
Thanks for sharing...
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: Khusharni

Completely agree with you! I've watched many serials, hoping they would have even a speck of empowerment of the women and every time they've failed. And though there still are some flaws in the show, KRPKAB has really raised the bar for serials. It has changed the stereotype of other serials, there's no 'saazishs" or stupid time leaps. It's a normal, simple yet complicated part of many people's lives in India. Not exceeded amount of drama, and a sweet and endearing love story.

And initially I was a little weary on watching a new serial, since past ones have all disappointed me. But then I watched that episode where Sona barges into Dev's office and yells at him for talking with (don't know his name) which caused their relationship to break. And then Dev says that one line after Sona said that he would have let her work, he says "really?! I didn't know you needed anyone's permission to do what you want in life", and I WAS SOLD. That one line made me sure that this show is different and *touchwood* they haven't failed ever since. They don't have huge speeches about feminism or how women don't get equal treatment, but they have those small scenes (like the one with Sona and Bijoy) that make me want to pause the episode and just clap at the CVs. That's how they should make feminist shows, not flashing the word around everywhere but showing it through scenes and lines.
Hope they keep making such empowering scenes ESPECIALLY with Sona. Cuz the Sona now a days is this badass Sona that I'm absolutely loving!!! She doesn't take any insults and she speaks her mind (FINALLY). Can't wait for more badass scenes in the future. And I can't wait how in an empowering way, Sona and Dev get back together.
Great post!!


I totally agree with you on everything. One of the best things so far, imo are the scenes of self-doubt that Sona has as a girl. From the scene you've mentioned that completely sold you to the recent one where Bijoy reminds Sona that marriage is a partnership of all kinds, I love how the influence of society on strong-willed girls raises self-doubt within them for few moments.

Our society in India, Pakistan and Bangladesh is predominant male society and with girls who are very sure of themselves just as Sona is, society makes sure to remind them that they aren't typically suppose to rise above. Sonakshi's character has had those moments but instead of wallowing in defeat and self-[ity of needing a male shoulder, Sonakshi's character is the first character that I've seen to rise above and show that she isn't going to be a stereotype. I love how she immediately tells Dev that he does;t deserve her.

Her character is beautifully sketched and I hope it sticks throughout till the end as it has in first six months.
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A very well written post. Loved your analysis. Feminism is something which is shown very naturally in the show. Sonakshi is the best example as lead, who is independent, strong and no damsel in distress. Loved the way how her character has shaped. But i really wanted her to "move-on" as an individual rather than going with a support system. I remember Dev once said that Sonakshi is a kind of girl who doesn't need support but companionship from her partner (Vo ek aise ladki hai jinhe kisi k sahare ki nahi, sath ki zarorat hai). Really want her to come up as more strong individual; both personally and professionally.
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Originally posted by: areeba_blossom


I totally agree with you on everything. One of the best things so far, imo are the scenes of self-doubt that Sona has as a girl. From the scene you've mentioned that completely sold you to the recent one where Bijoy reminds Sona that marriage is a partnership of all kinds, I love how the influence of society on strong-willed girls raises self-doubt within them for few moments.

Our society in India, Pakistan and Bangladesh is predominant male society and with girls who are very sure of themselves just as Sona is, society makes sure to remind them that they aren't typically suppose to rise above. Sonakshi's character has had those moments but instead of wallowing in defeat and self-[ity of needing a male shoulder, Sonakshi's character is the first character that I've seen to rise above and show that she isn't going to be a stereotype. I love how she immediately tells Dev that he does;t deserve her.

Her character is beautifully sketched and I hope it sticks throughout till the end as it has in first six months.

YES. And the best part of shows that have content like KRPKAB, is that writers of other shows are influenced in a way that they want to show such empowering things also. Showing scenes like those, only help women who are questioning themselves that if they should be going on the path they are on. I hope women realize after watching the show that, you shouldn't have to change for someone if they aren't willing to change for you too, a relationship is the sacrificing and adjusting of both people. Characters like Sona only influence people to understand women in a more empowering and equal way. That you shouldn't feel bad if you don't know how to cook, or clean because you're not a damn maid. And that it's fine if you don't want to get married, or that you should confront people if injustice is happening to you. And that living up to your "saas's standards" (God, I hate that so much) shouldn't be your ultimate goal after marriage. Live your life your way, who cares if people judge, and screw everyone who thinks otherwise.
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Originally posted by: cscs

A very well written post. Loved your analysis. Feminism is something which is shown very naturally in the show. Sonakshi is the best example as lead, who is independent, strong and no damsel in distress. Loved the way how her character has shaped. But i really wanted her to "move-on" as an individual rather than going with a support system. I remember Dev once said that Sonakshi is a kind of girl who doesn't need support but companionship from her partner (Vo ek aise ladki hai jinhe kisi k sahare ki nahi, sath ki zarorat hai). Really want her to come up as more strong individual; both personally and professionally.



I think she is definitely moving-on on her own rather then depending on Rithivk. I think her asking Rithivik to be there with her signified her asking him to be considerate if she is less responsive.

I do remember that line of Dev and that was so apt. That line made me look closer at Sonakshi's character which is one of the most beautiful characters written to date. She is no damsel in distress nor does she want people to see her like that.
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Originally posted by: Khusharni

YES. And the best part of shows that have content like KRPKAB, is that writers of other shows are influenced in a way that they want to show such empowering things also. Showing scenes like those, only help women who are questioning themselves that if they should be going on the path they are on. I hope women realize after watching the show that, you shouldn't have to change for someone if they aren't willing to change for you too, a relationship is the sacrificing and adjusting of both people. Characters like Sona only influence people to understand women in a more empowering and equal way. That you shouldn't feel bad if you don't know how to cook, or clean because you're not a damn maid. And that it's fine if you don't want to get married, or that you should confront people if injustice is happening to you. And that living up to your "saas's standards" (God, I hate that so much) shouldn't be your ultimate goal after marriage. Live your life your way, who cares if people judge, and screw everyone who thinks otherwise.


I SO MUCH AGREE WITH YOU!

I think one of the instances when Sonakshi comes to Ishwar's room to ask her to teach small things like cooking and such was a great example of how Sonakshi displayed that cooking and keeping dishes clean isn't what she is coming into this house for, which Natasha definitely was coming to do. She made it clear that she isn;t going to be responsibility on someone. She is here to share the love and sorrow, nothing else.


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Posted: 9 years ago
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Couldn't agree more.. I SO love the Bose family, and now they are the only reason I am able to continue watching this show.. I like their non-dramatic casual interactions, their day-to-day simple activities without much drama.. And the best thing is, they all communicate and discuss things together and come up with a solution together.. They never try to pounce their own ambitions/thoughts on others, give each other the much needed space, and there is always this precious I'll be there for you feeling which they nurture quite often.
One of the most heart-warming family I have seen in Indian tele.. 👍🏼 Moonmoon Banerjee is a class apart ! And Dadima just brings a bong dadima feeling here with her broken gender-error-filled Hindi 😆

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