Why do you think Ishwari is unable to accept any girl in Dev's life? - Page 2

Originally posted by: sjain

I personally cannot think of any other reason other then .."change" ..she is not able to accept change in her life ..and since her world revolves around her son ..so any change in his life will lead to disturbance so may be this could be the reason ..but I would really like to know the real reason :)

Change.. Yes, may be she's resistant to change to some extent.
But not fully...
She accepted some changes eventually... She accepted a change of someone ruling her eating habits, she accepted the change of her diet, she even accepted someone correcting her children's diets, until she suspected of Sona's relationship with her son... She accepted the change in her house after her brother and his family came, she accepted changes in Neha's life... She was accepting almost a lot of things...
Until it came to Dev... Though again, she accepted her son's busyness if it was work... She never minded if he ate outside if he had a meeting, she never minded if her son was giving more and more time to his work.. Until it came down to love...
This is what is gnawing inside me... Why is this change being so hard on her... And that Is what I want to learn about...

Originally posted by: Aazeen02

Hahaha... Funny... Waise, I was thinking, how come Ishwari has no relatives from her Sasural? I mean even at her husband's death, it was Maamaji who did the rites of the body...
Can it really be that Ishwari snatched her hubby away from his family?

Koi toh logic hoga... I trust the writers to not close Ishwari's behavior on any stupid note... She's one lead of the show...

Originally posted by: Aazeen02

This partner thing toh I too have analyzed multiple times, and feel it to be 100% true... No doubt...

But how do you think she will realize this? Introspection or Confrontation with Dev? What's your say?

Originally posted by: OmNaMaSteOm

She subconsciously thinks Dev is her husband and she Dev's wife. She is stuck in the illusion that Dev is young and she is running in the home in poverty. Ishwari has not come out of it. On the outer side she knows Dev is her Son, but she has somehow replaced the son as husband that is where the problem arises. Ishwari herself does not know she thinks like that.

Additionally Dev has nurtured this mis - understanding unintentionally, he does not even know he is doing what he did. He has no idea that his mother thinks like that.

Her actions clearly indicate what I said above. Its not from Dev's side, he thinks normal.

Originally posted by: spacenoxx

That's an interesting contradiction you have there. Either she considers him her husband or he us a child.

Let me try to put your point in a different way.

She was probably used to being the most important in her husbands life and after his death, she found that in Dev. Having depended on that bond for so long she now is scared of not being the most important person in Devs life anymore.

Originally posted by: Aazeen02

I do feel your point to be highly valid... But the thing is, what's the solution? A smart son if in case, how does he solve this? To seek treatment, the basic rule is the willingness to get treated...
In the case of hiring a nutritionist, it was for the sake of her son and the hefty amount he had paid, Ishwari finally gave in... it was not for herself but for the love of her son...
But to seek a psychiatric treatment, when you realize that your son is doing this to live a peaceful life, would Ishwari be willing to be treated?

Well I can only say Ishwari needs some kind of counselling. She needs to be told that a mother has a unique place in her child's life and vice-versa. She needs to come out of her insecurity and accept that she is important and needed by Dev and he will always be there with her.

I agree with all above responses.

there is nothing to reveal about ishwari's characters...such mothers exist in real life who want that they will be the only women in their son's lives...

All she wants is to cook for dev, wash his clothes, after washing press it etc. Dont want another woman to do that. If that's the cse, they can fire kichu kaka and ishu mama can happily take his place.