Ishwari's subconscious thought of being Dev's partner- MY VIEW - Page 2

Beautiful analysis Aazeen.👏

Originally posted by: Soapoperasrfun

Again, very nicely written. I am not familiar with all the dialogues because I have not watched the show in its entirety, but life has been hard for all of them, and it is understandable.

Environment, circumstances, upbringing, values, cultures and traditions - each one of these contributes in equal measures to make or break a human life. But humans are so individualistic and unique, that the same situations can make or break people differently. Dev, Ishwari, Neha, Ria and Nikki went through the same circumstances. But each one of them has adapted to the constant changes in their lives so differently.

Frankly, Ishwari was facing so many challenges in her life that she needed an anchor. The unfortunate aspect of it is that she "chose" Dev to be that anchor, and Dev has had to live up to that expectation every single day of his life. True that Dev wanted to help out his mother. But I don't know if it has been shown that the other children did not want to help. The younger ones may have been too young. But Neha? She didn't have to help either. But she has helped just as much as Dev like you said. Yet, it is Dev that Ishwari always looked to for anything.

She may have done it subconsciously, but it is still unfair on Dev. He lost more things in his life than most of the others, even in his own family. And now, he is losing something yet again. The other thing is that he is convinced that he knows his mother well, and his mother knows him well. If recent episodes are anything to go by, Sona knows his other better than he does. She can understand her unease while Dev cannot. The day he realizes that he completely misunderstood his mother will be the biggest blow to him.

I agree with you on all these points... Ishwari chose her anchor... Again her justification being he was the eldest... We can give her a benefit of doubt in this, because a destitute mother finds the most solace with her eldest child coz he is able to understand her the best among the rest of her children... Another reason for choosing Dev and not Neha as an anchor by Ishwari can be Neha's attitude... Right from the start she was a bitter girl, who just doesn't understands...She has her thought process and doesn't budges at all (inherited nature from her own mother Ishwari)... Rest of the two girls were too small to anchor their mother...
As to help Ishwari... It was Dev's free will to help his mother... His mother had not asked her in the first place to earn money...
It came rather forcefully to Neha to give up her studies or rather give up English medium studies and take care of her sisters... So in a sense she didn't want to help, but was forced to...
As to being fair... Nothing was fair to anyone of them... Ishwari almost gave up her personal life to give a life to her children... When her load could have been shared had her husband been there...
Neha gave up her higher studies to take care of the little ones...
Riya and Nikki had to grow up in the care of foster parents... I know their elder brother and sister are not foster, but at the end of the day, they too were kids and can never replace actual parents...
Coming to Dev, he lost as much as Neha... Though he didn't have to give up his studies, he gave up on his innocence, his childhood, his adolescence, his sibling love when they were growing up, he didn't even enter in the love department, since he never had time...

But the sad story is, when all the others are now getting something back in compensation from life, what he got is being snatched away even more harshly... I know he will eventually get it back, but the suffering he has to go through until then is so heart wrenching...

Great analysis.the partner thing is very clear.it will be biggest shock to her.it will take time to overcome.

Originally posted by: KK84

Well written and valid point! It is just the shock of now becoming 'secondary' - yes it's in her head but when Dev has been the 'man' in her life for so long, she will have insecurities. Dev is the one who has giving his mum Bhagwan status and now suddenly she feels that my son who used to worship me is also just as crazy about someone else.

Many are taking her love the wrong way but I don't see why a mother's love can't be this intense. It doesn't mean it is wrong or that it's gross. It's pure. It doesn't mean she loves him like Sona loves him. End of the day a son's first woman is in his life is his mother and that's why many say that many men end up marrying women who are very similar to their mums.

I get Ishwari's insecurity and possessiveness. And she will also overcome it but it will take time.

I must compliment you first... I don't find many people defending Ishwari apart from me...She is not an evil person, is the crux of her character... Just because she is not letting the process of DevAKshi's love story to reach it's consummation in a fast process, all are getting frustrated...
That is what I tell everyone in this context, have patience, she will come through, she is not bad, just little Insecure... Nothing will eventually cost her more than her children's happiness... She since was not that insecure about Neha, so after being satisfied about Ranvir being a nice man, Ishwari needed nothing more than her daughter's happiness... And she got her married...
Let her come out of her insecurities for Dev, she will prove to be an outstanding mother in law...

I can personally relate with this insecure or wary thing with one child and not with the other, coz my mum does that to me and my sister... My elder sister is a matured and straight head girl, who can handle herself easily... My mother lets her be coz she knows eventually all will be fine...
On the other hand, I am the younger one, she is very protective about me... Even at this age of 24 she considers me immature and lets me go very waring... Not in all aspects but in huge ones though... But she slowly lets me go eventually, she gets scared, but does that...

I think with time, Ishwari will also learn to let go... All we have to have Is some patience... I am 100% agreeing with you..

Originally posted by: Sutapasima

Loved your analysis 👍🏼

Thank you Suta di... 😃

Originally posted by: gmgi

Beautiful analysis Aazeen.👏

Agree with u completely. Ishwari have to face her demons one way or the other. If Dev-Sona marriage had happened before her realization they would never have had a moment of peace in their life. Even though heart breaking this had to happen. She is not evil at heart n she is going to redeem herself once she acknowledges what her thoughtless action have done to her kids.

I just hope Sona will be with Dev by the time Khathiri revelation happens. Otherwise Dev will be in a self destruction mode n none except Sona will be able to handle him.

Yeah I too think it is better to go through this phase before marriage than after... Atleast this way Ishwari will realize it in the jeopardy of the situation that what wrong she is doing, and will get her son married to Sona...
But if it had been after marriage, it would keep on going until Ishwari's last days when her wisdom would strike and until then Devakshi's lives would have been horrible...

As to the Khatri case, I don't know if it will come back, but if it does, I don't think Dev will misunderstand his mother... But again it's an Indian show, kuch bhi ho sakta hai,, so Sona will as usual be his solid support system...

Originally posted by: bhagyathara

Great analysis.the partner thing is very clear.it will be biggest shock to her.it will take time to overcome.

Thank you so much..

And the partner in Ishwari is bringing it's head out from the hiding that it went ever since her son's breakdown..

And now she is getting repulsed by the idea of her son getting romantically as well physically involved with the other woman in his life.

The cemented set of her though process is again knocking that she needs to keep them apart...

Again the shield of her innocence is, she isn't doing it deliberately... But unconsciously...

But the hilarity of the situation is, how does she get such thoughts even unconsciously?

Who tries to even check the gift your son has sent to his wife...?
I mean this is insane...
And then purposefully sending your son away when you already are getting hints that they are planning their night...
And then manipulating Sona into fasting and then telling her to keep away for nine days.
What is she upto?
Ishwari Aunty ji, do you realize, you are trying to delay the inevitable?
The more you try to delay this, the more your son is gonna turn insane, and the more he will incline towards his wife...
The more passion is gonna build, and the happiest will be the Devakshians... 😆

Fantastic post on a deeply disturbing topic. Kudos to the makers if they are going this route rather than the usual drama.

Yes. Its a subconscious matter. But not as partner partner. As in girlfriend kinds. But she has 10 steps ahead belongingness to her son than normal levels. Its definitely due to the past they both share. Half the things she does she doesn't realises why she is doing it. She doesn't realises at all the level she is attached to her son, which she will only come to face with the entrance of Sonakshi. It will be a really whiplash for her.