Ishwari's subconscious thought of being Dev's partner- MY VIEW

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Aazeen02

@Aazeen02

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Posted: 9 years ago

Alright, there are quite a few people there in Suta di's thread about the promo asking what my analysis was about Ishwari subconsciously thinking herself as Dev's partner...

Honestly, I made no analysis like I did today; on this topic... But whatever I have written in the past as my comments about this partner thing on the other threads, I am rewriting it.

Since Dev's father expired, Ishwari was the sole earner of the house... There has been no doubt about the fact that she has worked really really hard for bringing her children up...

Dev, being the eldest; right from the start has seen his mother working hard to earn their livelihood, and instead of studying, he too wanted to work to help his mother. But his mother has constantly motivated him to study, because that is what is needed to become a big man... (Source- Ishwari explaining this to Neha the next morning of her Roka getting cancelled...

Another source- Dev telling this to Sona when she met with an accident, and also the proposal day)

Dev understood this fact that he needs to study really hard, but he still knew, he needs to help his mother as well... So he did jobs as well study (night tutitions)...

So a teenager boy began earning along with his mother... They were earning the livelihood for the family... "Bohot jaldi bada ho gaya tha mera beta..." these were Ishwari's words when she had explained about Dev to Sonakshi when she had refused to take the new phone...

He matured rather quickly, and was taking similar responsibilities as of Ishwari... Becoming her equal in breeding the family...

I have mentioned this time and again, that Dev was the FATHER of the house... He fulfilled every responsibility of his father, which his father would have done had he been alive... Not just earning the money, but buying a shelter to all of them, to providing for everyone's needs, to spending time with Ishwari, to even doing the Kanyadaan of Neha... ALL those things that Ishwari's husband should have done...

Doing all these responsibilities for about two decades, Ishwari's mind has been cemented set that Dev does half of her works and responsibilities, which complete when they two do that together...

Though of course she is not romantically involved with Dev, to call Dev exactly her partner... Her conscious mind understands him to be her son, but her subconscious mind has fitted him to be a partner (Like a partner in crime... They do everything together.) In her own words-"Baat meri buddhi tak toh pohonch gayi hai, par dil tak pohonchne mein waqt lagega" Though her mind knows that he is her son, but that equation has still not reached her... She unconsciously thinks him as her partner

Here I will also mention one of Supriya ji's interview during the launch... She had said- "Ishwari apne bete se bohot pyaar karti hai... Kitna karti hai aur kis hadd tak karti hai, jab usko iss baat ka ehsaas hoga toh wo khud bhi shocked ho jaayegi... Wahan se shuru hoti hai wo journey ek maa ki jo apne bete ke jeewan mein aayi aurat ko apnaati hai... Kaise apnaati hai, ye kahaani hai Kuch Rang Pyar Ke Aise Bhi ki..."

Toh shock usko mil raha hai... And in her shock and depression, is that suicide attempt... But guys, can you see the silver lining here... There will begin her journey to become a great mother in law... Kaise hoga, ye toh main bhi nahi jaanti... All I can just do is give you all hope that all will eventually get fine...😊

THANKS FOR READING😃

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sujata

@GoodyTwoShoes

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Posted: 9 years ago

You wrote quite well..👏

She obviously consider hona Sher life partner emotionally..no doubt about that..

I would prefer she learn to be better mother first to all of her kids later she can be good MIL.she has failed as mother IMO giving that emotional stability in her kids..be it Dev, neha, and with no bond with riya and Nikki...so first step for her would be be a better mother because unless you become good mother ..you can not understand daughter of another mother..good MIL needs to be good mother ..they don't need to put extra effort..

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Aazeen02

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: GoodyTwoShoes
You wrote quite well..👏
She obviously consider hona Sher life partner emotionally..no doubt about that..
I would prefer she learn to be better mother first to all of her kids later she can be good MIL.she has failed as mother IMO giving that emotional stability in her kids..be it Dev, neha, and with no bond with riya and Nikki...so first step for her would be be a better mother because unless you become good mother ..you can not understand daughter of another mother..good MIL needs to be good mother ..they don't need to put extra effort..

Again quoting Ishwari's lines- "Dhoop tez thi, mitti ko toh sakht hona hi tha... Ismein mitti ka toh koi kusoor nahi hai na?"

That wet mud wasn't just Dev, it was Ishwari as well... I don't know how far you will agree with me here, but to fulfill one work, the other work has to be neglected... Ishwari had multiple responsibilities as a single mother to fulfill at that time, that she had no time in the day to sit back at home and bond with her girls... That responsibility came on Neha's shoulders... Just like Dev was father to all of them, neha was the mother to them in their mother's absence, and that is the reason the sisters bond so fairly well...

I have no two doubts about your statement as well, that she should first become a better mother then a MIL... She has all the time in the world now, but the thing is girls have grown up now... The clay has already moulded the way life wanted it to be... She cannot reshape them, but just polish it...

But again the same thing, she remains so preoccupied with Dev's thoughts that she can give lesser thought to the girls... With no doubt she is a partial mother... I dont say that she doesnt loves her daughters, or loves her son more... I would rather say, she loves her FIRST child more than the others, that anyhow is partiality...

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Aditi

@adoremevirgo

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Posted: 9 years ago

very well explained about the partner thing...they r exploring ishwari's character so well...her kind of psychology is very complex but it is very real too...

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fatima rukia

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Posted: 9 years ago

What an amazing analysis. 👏You describe perfectly the ishwari situation. 👍🏼 and feel great too.😆

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Soapoperasrfun

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Posted: 9 years ago

Again, very nicely written. I am not familiar with all the dialogues because I have not watched the show in its entirety, but life has been hard for all of them, and it is understandable.

Environment, circumstances, upbringing, values, cultures and traditions - each one of these contributes in equal measures to make or break a human life. But humans are so individualistic and unique, that the same situations can make or break people differently. Dev, Ishwari, Neha, Ria and Nikki went through the same circumstances. But each one of them has adapted to the constant changes in their lives so differently.

Frankly, Ishwari was facing so many challenges in her life that she needed an anchor. The unfortunate aspect of it is that she "chose" Dev to be that anchor, and Dev has had to live up to that expectation every single day of his life. True that Dev wanted to help out his mother. But I don't know if it has been shown that the other children did not want to help. The younger ones may have been too young. But Neha? She didn't have to help either. But she has helped just as much as Dev like you said. Yet, it is Dev that Ishwari always looked to for anything.

She may have done it subconsciously, but it is still unfair on Dev. He lost more things in his life than most of the others, even in his own family. And now, he is losing something yet again. The other thing is that he is convinced that he knows his mother well, and his mother knows him well. If recent episodes are anything to go by, Sona knows his other better than he does. She can understand her unease while Dev cannot. The day he realizes that he completely misunderstood his mother will be the biggest blow to him.

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KK84

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Posted: 9 years ago

Well written and valid point! It is just the shock of now becoming 'secondary' - yes it's in her head but when Dev has been the 'man' in her life for so long, she will have insecurities. Dev is the one who has giving his mum Bhagwan status and now suddenly she feels that my son who used to worship me is also just as crazy about someone else.

Many are taking her love the wrong way but I don't see why a mother's love can't be this intense. It doesn't mean it is wrong or that it's gross. It's pure. It doesn't mean she loves him like Sona loves him. End of the day a son's first woman is in his life is his mother and that's why many say that many men end up marrying women who are very similar to their mums.

I get Ishwari's insecurity and possessiveness. And she will also overcome it but it will take time.

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Sutapa

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Posted: 9 years ago

Loved your analysis 👍🏼

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Aazeen02

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: adoremevirgo
very well explained about the partner thing...they r exploring ishwari's character so well...her kind of psychology is very complex but it is very real too...

Thank you... Yes, basically they are exploring in detail the various shades of Ishwari's character... A very disturbing and complex psychology, but real and true as well...
All I wish and hope is that in their exploration of Ishwari's character, they don't lose the essence of Dev and Sonakshi's characters as well... 😊