8th August: New Steps; Old Mistakes

Hi everyone, 🤗

So I finally got my laptop back today. A LOT happened in the last week and I am sorry to all those people who requested a write-up. Err would it be okay if I umm... don't revisit? *ducks*

Coming to today's episode... very good stuff. It's a new chapter in the lives of our protagonists as they begin to explore new territories with Sona & Ishwari almost equally apprehensive and our Dev babu happily oblivious to the delicacy with which one should handle this change in status quo.

Dev's confrontation with Riya and Nikki was amusing. "Aapne meri friend, ko girlfriend bana liya." 😆 I hope we get a follow up scene about this. There is no way his sisters would let him off the hook so easily. Thank you RR for keeping yourself in check for once and mentioning Sona as the "Doctorni". Smh. How the writers decided to skip a grill session for Sona on the hands of RR today is beyond me. Khuda kare humein aise din aur dekhne ko miley. 😆 Please keep focusing on scenes that move the story forward. 😳 Riya exhibiting a maturity that we hadn't quite seen yet was very nicely done. It's a natural step, what with Neha no longer there... Interestingly a lot of Riya's understanding of her Mother comes from her taking note of everything her Neha di used to say about Ishwari. It was great to see Riya speak out today about Ishwari wanting to go shopping with Dev alone. Will come back to that scene in a bit.

Ishwari and Sona's scene was incredibly sweet. Sona tries to act as if nothing has changed when infact everything has.. How would you address this stuff anyway? Like 'Hi Aunty ji, I fell in love with your son whilst taking care of you and I hope you are okay with the idea of me being your future daughter-in-law. Okay bye!" 😆

On a more serious note, somehow Ishwari addressing Sona directly by her name instead of Nutrition' was as significant to me as the time Dev took her name during the confession. I know it's not the first time but there was something in the tone of her voice, a sort of gentleness maybe that acknowledged the new reality of their relationship more than an open conversation could have. Sona & Ishwari have a certain understanding of their own in this respect. Sometimes Ishwari speaks her heart out to her. Sometimes a few words are enough. Moving on... Ishwari's guilt and her discomfort in communicating the same were very evident. I liked how she struggled to hold Sona's hand initially but when Sona said that it must be due to one of her own faults that Ishwari was harsh with her that you finally see her grasp it. It's like I said... sometimes a few words are enough between these two women to understand what the other wants to say. Sona quietly saying thank you to Ishwari for accepting her and their relationship was beautiful; loved the subtlety of the moment.

And then the bombshell... Sona is to accompany them on this shopping trip. Dev Dev Dev... Go a little slow. It's only been a day since you came clean about everything to your Mother. Lets not overwhelm her with too many things shall we? Knowing her temperament, It really won't end well. The only thing I was relieved about was that he gave a reasonable explanation for taking Sonakshi along instead of being all hum-ho about the idea and expecting his Mother to feel the same. Thank God for Riya otherwise that is exactly what would have happened. Ahh, this Mother and son duo and their over-reliance on the impeccable understanding' they are supposed to share (Ghanta understanding I tell you. Yeah okay sometimes the English language doesn't give me the same satisfaction and I had to use that word. 😆)

It's not easy for Ishwari but you see her try yet again. That look on Sona's face though when Ishwari takes hold of her hand and insists that she come - Awww! The way she just lights up... Beautifully expressed by Erica. You can see how much Sona wants to be accepted whole-heartedly by her and get atleast a little bit of the same love she feels for Ishwari. On a slightly different note, I do hope we see something along the same lines for Dev and Sona's family. I know they already like him but I'd like to see him learning to love the people who are such an integral part of Sona's world too. It would be healthy for Dev to experience things Bose-family style without feeling he has stepped into an alternate universe. And just like Dev wants his Mother to know the woman he is in love with, Sona's family should also learn more about the man their daughter is in love with.

Anyway, enough on that... Coming to the final scene of the day: You see how all three of our protagonists struggle and fail to achieve the real purpose of the trip. Sona, perhaps still too wary about encroaching upon Ishwari and Dev's personal space heads off to take a look at some bedsheets alone. Ishwari, slipping back into her comfort zone, gets busy in the same with her son by her side as always. Mr. Dixit being Mr. Dixit is naturally bored as he has probably always been on all previous shopping trips and decides to go chat up his girlfriend instead which doesn't go down too well with his Mother. What really should have happened is that Sona should have resolutely stuck by Ishwari's side, learning a little about her choices, followed by her and Ishwari fondly berating Dev as he'd receive the inevitable phonecall, the whole thing culminating with Ishwari making the effort to include some of Sona's own likes and suggestions without the feeling of too many changes happening too fast. Instead ofcourse, like I said... Both women pick out stuff individually with Dev being dragged in as the decision maker. This wasn't supposed to involve Dev at all you know? It was supposed to be only about them. I'm not saying Sona should continuously bend herself according to Ishwari's needs, I admire her free spirit too much to suggest that but relationships, especially new ones, are very delicate and building and working on them is far more important than a couple of bedsheets.

Sona needs to understand that she can't hide anymore. She's going to have to be a little brave and take a few initiatives of her own to push her equation with Ishwari forward. It might not always end well but she won't know until she tries right? (Throwback to Sona directly confronting Ishwari about whether she was mad/upset with her and even when she asks her about why Dev doesn't believe in God; she was bold there and it helped) Only with trial and error can there be progress. You can't expect Ishwari to try too much honestly... She gets overwhelmed very easily. Dev, on the other hand, is hopeless. Sona is the more perceptive one. She understands that this can't possibly be as easy for Ishwari as Dev believes it to be, her job therefore is to help Ishwari settle into these changes with a little more ease. Sona isn't the enemy or the competition here. She's to become a part of this family and add to all that's missing within them. She's yet to see how big a role she can play here... It's natural ofcourse, this is all very new to her as well and today was only the first day. That's why this scene was particularly symbolic... It depicted a situation where everything could have gone a lot more smoothly thus showing us how far there is still to go for these characters when it didn't.

BTW I am also not suggesting that all the hardwork should ultimately come down to Sona, Dev should be right in the middle of it too and he will be but the problem with Dev is, the moment he senses that everything may not be as perfect as he thinks it is and Ishwari might not be entirely happy, his first instinct is going to be to keep the two women away from each other. Dev doesn't realize that things will need to get a little ugly before they can get better. He's protective of both Sona and Ishwari and will fail to understand that in this instance, they don't need to be protected from each other. They need to communicate to sort their differences out. All three of them do.

Coming to the precap: Dev.. Family photograph? Really? Technically speaking, you aren't even engaged yet. Aishh... This guy. First he was taking too long to tell everyone, now he's rushing into everything. It's sweet ofcourse, for him Sona has been a part of this family for a long time but Dev... Take other people into count too. Okay I'm reminded of one of those signs on the road... Speed kills. 😆 Bad joke I know. 😆

Let's see what happens tomorrow then. On a final note, feels good to write on this show again. I missed it. :)

Until later! 🤗

Originally posted by: ...Maham...

Hi everyone, 🤗

So I finally got my laptop back today. A LOT happened in the last week and I am sorry to all those people who requested a write-up. Err would it be okay if I umm... don't revisit? *ducks*

Coming to today's episode... very good stuff. It's a new chapter in the lives of our protagonists as they begin to explore new territories with Sona & Ishwari almost equally apprehensive and our Dev babu happily oblivious to the delicacy with which one should handle this change in status quo.

Dev's confrontation with Riya and Nikki was amusing. "Aapne meri friend, ko girlfriend bana liya." 😆 I hope we get a follow up scene about this. There is no way his sisters would let him off the hook so easily. Thank you RR for keeping yourself in check for once and mentioning Sona as the "Doctorni". Smh. How the writers decided to skip a grill session for Sona on the hands of RR today is beyond me. Khuda kare humein aise din aur dekhne ko miley. 😆 Please keep focusing on scenes that move the story forward. 😳 Riya exhibiting a maturity that we hadn't quite seen yet was very nicely done. It's a natural step, what with Neha no longer there... Interestingly a lot of Riya's understanding of her Mother comes from her taking note of everything her Neha di used to say about Ishwari. It was great to see Riya speak out today about Ishwari wanting to go shopping with Dev alone. Will come back to that scene in a bit.

I always thought she is the most sensible one among Dixits , good thing is unlike Neha she doesnt have any baggage which prevent her to openly speak for her mom when she realizes Dev's behavior may hurt her mom.

Ishwari and Sona's scene was incredibly sweet. Sona tries to act as if nothing has changed when infact everything has.. How would you address this stuff anyway? Like 'Hi Aunty ji, I fell in love with your son whilst taking care of you and I hope you are okay with the idea of me being your future daughter-in-law. Okay bye!" 😆

On a more serious note, somehow Ishwari addressing Sona directly by her name instead of Nutrition' was as significant to me as the time Dev took her name during the confession. I know it's not the first time but there was something in the tone of her voice, a sort of gentleness maybe that acknowledged the new reality of their relationship more than an open conversation could have. Sona & Ishwari have a certain understanding of their own in this respect. Sometimes Ishwari speaks her heart out to her. Sometimes a few words are enough. Moving on... Ishwari's guilt and her discomfort in communicating the same were very evident. I liked how she struggled to hold Sona's hand initially but when Sona said that it must be due to one of her own faults that Ishwari was harsh with her that you finally see her grasp it. It's like I said... sometimes a few words are enough between these two women to understand what the other wants to say. Sona quietly saying thank you to Ishwari for accepting her and their relationship was beautiful; loved the subtlety of the moment.

I loved how writers always made Sona to act so sensibly when it comes to Ishwari , she knew Ishwari was struggling with the guilt but made the situation lighter without making it more hard on her . Reminded me of the situation where Sona came back after Ishwari misbehaved and was struggling to say sorry . And that hand holding said a lot more than words ... If you remember the scene in which Ishwari giving earring to Sona and the conversation that follows , the eye talk between them , after Ishwari said I know she is not a kid , thats one of my favrt Ish-Sona moment . And todays Ishwari's gesture was close enough ...

And then the bombshell... Sona is to accompany them on this shopping trip. Dev Dev Dev... Go a little slow. It's only been a day since you came clean about everything to your Mother. Lets not overwhelm her with too many things shall we? Knowing her temperament, It really won't end well. The only thing I was relieved about was that he gave a reasonable explanation for taking Sonakshi along instead of being all hum-ho about the idea and expecting his Mother to feel the same. Thank God for Riya otherwise that is exactly what would have happened. Ahh, this Mother and son duo and their over-reliance on the impeccable understanding' they are supposed to share (Ghanta understanding I tell you. Yeah okay sometimes the English language doesn't give me the same satisfaction and I had to use that word. 😆)

Oh tell me about it , I even made a post last week regarding this . The good thing is Sona is very much aware of the implications of this . As per the character sketch of Dev , he was supposed to do the damage control after knowing he was the reason for his mother's irrational behavior ,just like halwa incident . I really felt it was rushed , and the photo frame I really felt it was out of character of him saying the photo is not perfect since Sona is not in it, that too in front of his mother . As u said they are not even engaged ... I think last week's Sona's behavior really shook him , he couldn't even tolerate the thought that she doubted his love , so now he is trying to overcompensate. .

It's not easy for Ishwari but you see her try yet again. That look on Sona's face though when Ishwari takes hold of her hand and insists that she come - Awww! The way she just lights up... Beautifully expressed by Erica. You can see how much Sona wants to be accepted whole-heartedly by her and get atleast a little bit of the same love she feels for Ishwari. On a slightly different note, I do hope we see something along the same lines for Dev and Sona's family. I know they already like him but I'd like to see him learning to love the people who are such an integral part of Sona's world too. It would be healthy for Dev to experience things Bose-family style without feeling he has stepped into an alternate universe. And just like Dev wants his Mother to know the woman he is in love with, Sona's family should also learn more about the man their daughter is in love with.

Anyway, enough on that... Coming to the final scene of the day: You see how all three of our protagonists struggle and fail to achieve the real purpose of the trip. Sona, perhaps still too wary about encroaching upon Ishwari and Dev's personal space heads off to take a look at some bedsheets alone. Ishwari, slipping back into her comfort zone, gets busy in the same with her son by her side as always. Mr. Dixit being Mr. Dixit is naturally bored as he has probably always been on all previous shopping trips and decides to go chat up his girlfriend instead which doesn't go down too well with his Mother. What really should have happened is that Sona should have resolutely stuck by Ishwari's side, learning a little about her choices, followed by her and Ishwari fondly berating Dev as he'd receive the inevitable phonecall, the whole thing culminating with Ishwari making the effort to include some of Sona's own likes and suggestions without the feeling of too many changes happening too fast. Instead ofcourse, like I said... Both the women pick out stuff individually with Dev being dragged in as the decision maker. This wasn't supposed to involve Dev at all you know? It was supposed to be only about them. I'm not saying Sona should continuously bend herself according to Ishwari's needs, I admire her free spirit too much to suggest that but relationships, especially new ones, are very delicate and building and working on them is far more important than a couple of bedsheets.

Sona needs to understand that she can't hide anymore. She's going to have to be a little brave and take a few initiatives of her own to push her equation with Ishwari forward. It might not always end well but she won't know until she tries right? (Throwback to Sona directly confronting Ishwari about whether she was mad/upset with her and even when she asks her about why Dev doesn't believe in God; she was bold there and it helped) Only with trial and error can there be progress. You can't expect Ishwari to try too much honestly... She gets overwhelmed very easily. Dev, on the other hand, is hopeless. Sona is the more perceptive one. She understands that this can't possibly be as easy for Ishwari as Dev believes it to be, her job therefore is to help Ishwari settle into these changes with a little more ease. Sona isn't the enemy or the competition here. She's to become a part of this family and add to all that's missing within them. She's yet to see how big a role she can play here... It's natural ofcourse, this is all very new to her as well and today was only the first day. That's why this scene was particularly symbolic... It depicted a situation where everything could have gone a lot more smoothly thus showing us how far there is still to go for these characters when it didn't.

Oh you perfectly described how it should have been . I loved the look on Dev's face after his phone call looking at the two women he luv the most , and feeling content , totally oblivious to what was brewing inside Ishwari ... I really hope during these days we would get some good Ish -Sona moments , but from SBS segs and spoilers , looks like Dev is being so reckless and pushing it so far ...

BTW I am also not suggesting that all the hardwork should ultimately come down to Sona, Dev should be right in the middle of it too and he will be but the problem with Dev is, the moment he senses that everything may not be as perfect as he thinks it is and Ishwari might not be entirely happy, his first instinct is going to be to keep the two women away from each other. Dev doesn't realize that things will need to get a little ugly before they can get better. He's protective of both Sona and Ishwari and will fail to understand that in this instance, they don't need to be protected from each other. They need to communicate to sort their differences out. All three of them do.

Coming to the precap: Dev.. Family photograph? Really? Technically speaking, you aren't even engaged yet. Aishh... This guy. First he was taking too long to tell everyone, now he's rushing into everything. It's sweet ofcourse, for him Sona has been a part of this family for a long time but Dev... Take other people into count too. Okay I'm reminded of one of those signs on the road... Speed kills. 😆 Bad joke I know. 😆

Let's see what happens tomorrow then. On a final note, feels good to write on this show again. I missed it. :)

Until later! 🤗

Thank you once again for a wonderful analysis , looking fwd to read more ...