This is a really good question. I think it's all about risk management- Dev is a businessman after all! 🤓 In the case of confessing his love, Dev was indeed on a high from his realisation, but also the stakes were relatively low overall and only high for his own feelings. Realizing that he loved Sona definitely meant that he didn't love Natasha so it made sense to end things with her, and Sona's answer to his confession would just be between the two of them, and by that time he knew her well enough to be confident that she would be kind even if she didn't feel the same way. If she didn't, barring some awkwardness and personal heartache which he hid from his family (what's new?), his life would not be that much altered.
Telling Ishwari about Sona is a much bigger deal in terms of how it will affect him and his entire family. Even if he truly believes with all his heart that Ishwari will approve, revealing his relationship with Sona means that he is letting the outside world into what has been a very private space for just the two of them. As soon as he makes their relationship public, people will start to have an opinion about it, and talk about marriage, class difference, her job, his job, her family, his family will all start to trickle in. And that is the BEST case scenario! 😆
It all comes down the fact that once he tells Ishwari, the nature of his and Sona's relationship is going to change. Sona sees it changing for the better because she is used to being open with her family about her dreams and desires, and knows how this openness can enrich relationships. Dev is the guy who never once voiced a desire of his own to his family, so hard has he worked to retain the image of a perfect, wholly selfless son. In asking Ishwari to accept Sona, he is doing something he has never done before, something he has been tacitly taught is selfish. The time he and Sona have spent since the confession has shown Dev unprecedented happiness, and he's afraid of losing what he already has in the effort to get more, so he is trying to prolong the status quo as much as he can.
Obviously, this is not a sustainable situation and it will come to bite in the bee-hind, but for now, it's hard not to sympathise. 😊
Edited by Samanalyse - 9 years ago
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