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This is a lame attempt to understand Dev's mother Ishwari. Chappals n tomatoes are welcome.
Ishwari was young when her husband died and was left behind with 4 small kids who were completely dependent on her. The only person whom she could turn to for emotional support was her own son. Her brother would have been a better and healthier option but with GKB as her SIL the chances were next to none. Her own eldest daughter Neha was already deeply impacted by the circumstances that she had turned bitter. Because her mother asked too much from her. But even as a child Dev had this habit of burying his hurt and projecting a front which made his mother inclined towards him. She let go of her daughters because it was easier being Dev's mother. They were so interdependent emotionally that they felt they were one. Dev was as possessive of his mother as she is of him now. The circumstances were such that it was needed for their survival. During that period if Ishwari were to be married again even to a person as understanding and caring as Sona is, Dev would have revolted. Even if it would have solved a lot of their problems and offered them security, because of Dev she never would have done that. When you face unusual circumstances together the bond formed will also be unusual.
They survived that period. Now all her kids are grown up. She have this fear of Dev going away from her. To rest her insecurities she now acts like a child n Dev indulges her. He acts like a parent and she the kid. It assures her that she is still dear to him. She is secure in the knowledge that Dev acknowledges her sacrifices and is completely devoted to her. For Dev his mother is his first priority. He does everything for his mother n his family because he can't see disappointment in her eyes for him. As long as their dreams remains the same their bond also will remain intact. She believes that no girl can touch Dev's heart because of the position his mother holds in his heart. He has put her on a pedestal. How can any girl reach there when Dev looks upon his mother as his ideal?
The relation ship between Dev n Sona shook her to this extent because of Sona achieving the impossible feat of making Dev sitting for pooja which her never did even for his mother. She understood the hold Sona has on Dev for him to do that. But she doesn't know the why? How can Dev give her that place in his heart that he had for his mother without her doing anything? What has Sona done that equated to all his mother's sacrifices ? How can the bond that they shared for the past 20+ years be weaker than the bond with a girl who came into their lives just 2 months back? She feels betrayed.
She would have been better prepared and may not have reacted to this extent if she was aware of the gradual progress of their relationship. She is prepared for the inevitability of his marriage. But if Dev had listened to his wife after a gradual deepening of their bond she in-spite of her insecurities would have handled it better. Now the truth is glaring at her. She is not the only important person in her son's life and he haven't even confided it to her.
Dev has to lose Sona, for Ishwari to understand what Sona has done for him. She may be possessive and selfish in her love for him. But love she does. Dev will be lost without Sona now that he knows how she completes him. Ishwari won't be able to bear seeing a Dev who is just a pale image of what he is now, without Sona besides him. Just like Sona made Dev understand and accept his weaknesses n faults Ishwari is also going to realize her failures as a mother. Once she learns to be a mother she will learn to accept Sona. From the moment Sona met Dev until he realized his love for her she went through one heartbreak after another. Now from Ishwari's realization to her acceptance of Sona both of them are going to face another series of heartbreak. It will be heart wrenching but as long as they are together the journey will be bearable.
Geet - Hui Sabse Parayee
