Frustration of an Ishwari fan :X..

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Pehchaan.Kaun

@Pehchaan.Kaun

Sparkler

Posted: 9 years ago

Sorry but I was a dieheard Ishwari fan when the show started. In fact I remained one till her insecurities got this ugly nails to scratch the beautiful Devakshi love-story..

I can understand her pain for not being informed about her son's refreshing love-life (and honestly, I dont know why children need to hide this from their parents if the parents are so good, be it Sona from her lovely family or Dev from his wonderful mom), but I am not able to relate to her ugliness in this.. I always thought of Ishwari to be a woman with gravity and restrained personality even when she didn't receive proper education.. She had all the attributes of a civil human being who is considerate, thoughtful and forgiving.. I also digested the cruel partiality of her towards her son.. But now when I look back, thanks to her recent behavior I see NOTHING good..

1. She is the type of mother who blindly discriminates between a girl-child and boy-child, which I find pukeworthy (being a woman).. I doubt if Neha were older to Dev even then her psychotic behavior of possessiveness would lie with Dev and not Neha.. I really doubt that the logic of 'first child' applies here.. It's the logic of 'first boy-child'...

2. Now when I look back at the incident from from Neha's first marriage proposal, I see nothing but double-standard that she is ready to get Neha married to that house, but doesnt find the house suitable enough for Dev.. And I doubt even if the girl was sanskaari and all (not mingling with boys too-soon etc etc) then also would Ishwari be accepting it for Dev or not..

3. The blatant and shameless display of over-affection did nothing good to the other kids.. Honestly in real life I would have despised such Moms who are not even guilty before picking a 'favorite' kid from the lot .. 🤢 This is downright insensitive and mean .. And she isn't even ASHAMED of that !

4. Her double-standards are shockingly disturbing.. She gave this statement time and again that 'when Dev will want, he would get married'... And then the next very day she comments like 'When time comes, I will get Dev married'... Both the statements are contrasting to the T..

5. She claims to share everything with Dev.. I doubt if she has shared her 'Big secret' with Khatri.. I dont know if CV will ever bring up this track or not.. But this would be a good time for Dev to know about whatever that is, and to answer back to Ishwari that even SHE hides many things from her.. I am sure there are many such details/incidents which Ishwari has kept secret from Dev, but she refuses to accept the same behavior from Dev's side.. Level 1 Double-standard..

6. In reality, I wont come across a SINGLE mother who would be kicking off/insulting a DOCTOR so badly unless they hold very high value for themselves.. Doctors are worshipped in our country and they demand a minimum level of Respect from everyone, starts from children to elders.. But NO ! And also I have never seen a MOTHER behaving so rudely with a person who has supposedly TAKEN CARE of her child.. From my personal experience, I know for a fact that when such incidents happen, mothers build new relationships with the family of the helper who help their kids in time of need..

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Honestly, apart from keeping her character safe from men, and raising the children with so much difficulty and fulfilling their needs (can't say care), she has done nothing good to them.. Dev has become self-sufficient monetarily very quickly, but had become emotionally paralysed until Sona happened in his life.. (Shouting at everyone even when it's not their fault, but her mom's like it was shwn in Epi#1)... Neha - I am happy she found solace in Ranveer.. We all know what Ishwari did to Neha... Ria and Nicky dont even care much about Ishwari since Neha is their mother..

All kids have become each other's support system and now Sona is an addition to their happy life.. But Ishwari stands nowhere in their 'happiness' now, she is a part of some 1000 B.C. sad life they had spent and still mourning over it.. Zero achievement in terms of raising kids for so much of hoopla..

In real life, these type of mothers are really annoying (if any) and I would love to see in this show that they are really shown introspecting themselves instead of any high-voltage drama where some show-down happens between Son and Mom.. But it would be really disappointing to see a couple in a healthy relationship succumbing to this type of meanliness JUST because she was good in some ancient era.. 🥱 I am really hoping that one day she would be REALLY sorry and will apologize to her 'Nutrition' for all her rudeness, and they wont show these two innocent souls trying to convince her days after days and bearing the brunt of her mean-ness hoping for one fine day for her to come out and give a smile to them like she is some sort of 'devi' who is finally pleased with her bhakts' pleading Really hoping that she would realize it on her own since she is anything but a KID !

Sorry to vent out my frustration like this, but this constant bitter possessiveness really freaked the hell out of my sane-personality.. Please forgive me😭

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Posted: 9 years ago

Oh, I so agree.

Everyone goes through tough circumstances, some more than others, as Ishwari has. However, simply going through a difficult time does not make you strong because there's no choice but to bear whatever life throws at you. Strength is when you come out of the hardships better equipped to handle life.

Ishwari bore her problems but she's become a fragile person, reduced one son to a lonely workaholic, a daughter to bitterness and is quite unbothered about the other two kids. It's Dev actually who has managed to come out of the misery as a strong person to become the bedrock for the family. Neha, I believe, will come into her own with the support of a loving home she seems to have found with her in-laws.

Let's say we forget about the love angle for a bit. Ishwari knows her son had a tough childhood where he had to grow up quickly and take responsibilities - including functioning as a support system for an adult, even with the presence of another adult (Ishwari's brother). Has she ever thought - My son has missed the fun part of childhood and he's been weighed down with the duty of providing for all of us. We're comfortable and we don't need millions. I'd like him to do the things young people do - have some fun, go out, meet friends, travel, date and not be so bogged down with being forever the solemn provider. After all, one is young only once.

Instead, she wants him to spend every free moment with her, share every thought with her and she goes into hyperdrive when she senses there is something other than her that is bringing comfort into his life. That's rather selfish because she's only thinking about herself. She's never thought about Dev's loneliness or challenges.

This is why it's an unhealthy obsession because that motherly concern of aiming for the happiness of a child is overwhelmed by the desire to maintain her exclusivity and position in his life even if it's at the cost of his potential heartbreak. And the other kids can go fly kites for all she cares.

By the way, shouldn't a person who was treated badly by people who hired her be especially sensitive towards people who work for her?

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mena_k

@mena_k

Voyager

Posted: 9 years ago

Excellent post!

Ishwari never cared for Dev's happiness (lets just forget about her other three kids because she herself doesn't care for either of them). She always looks for her happiness by means of Dev and then names it as for Dev's happiness. She is the type of women who perhaps had three more daughters hoping to get another male child after Dev. If she finds him happy for some other reason she gets angry and immediately tries to make him guilty or sorry for why did he smile n make him sad by her lashes of words. She is evil. Always says something but planning something evil in her heart. She is much much worst then GKB for sure. GKB is an angel in front of Ishwari. GKB has but one problem she wants money from everywhere and hates anyone who doesn't have too much money and she speaks whatever is on her mind. doesn't plan anything.

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Shaun

@Jade0001

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Posted: 9 years ago

I always liked Ishwari's character she was always very graceful in her approach her major problem is that she is still living in the past but wanting the luxury of the present .

Proverty certainly did not stop Ishwari from pushing her son into studies and she was strict too because of that Dev could take his family out of poverty which indeed is a great achievement so praising him is good but she fails to praise Neha she had to become an instant mother to her two younger sisters yet she was never told of her efforts .

Ishwari sure loves Dev and during the first few episodes I thought wow Dev and his mum share such a deep bond but the fact is she has always made Dev feel guilty she had spend all her time with Dev so even he had no one else to speak with his mother was his friend his everything but now time has changed they no longer poor neither is Dev a child yes sure he needs his mother but he also needs a partner in his life someone just for him

Ishwari needs to move on from the bitter past she needs to realize she cannot compare adult Dev to young Dev all the time

I don't mind Ishwari can feel disappointed that Dev did not tell her anything about Sonakshi and I'm sure when Dev speaks to his mother he will let her know why he kept it as a secret .

but she overreacting in a way like Dev will leave her surely she knows her son

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Pehchaan.Kaun

@Pehchaan.Kaun

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: skye
Oh, I so agree.

Everyone goes through tough circumstances, some more than others, as Ishwari has. However, simply going through a difficult time does not make you strong because there's no choice but to bear whatever life throws at you. Strength is when you come out of the hardships better equipped to handle life.

Let's say we forget about the love angle for a bit. Ishwari knows her son had a tough childhood where he had to grow up quickly and take responsibilities - including functioning as a support system for an adult, even with the presence of another adult (Ishwari's brother). Has she ever thought - My son has missed the fun part of childhood and he's been weighed down with the duty of providing for all of us. We're comfortable and we don't need millions. I'd like him to do the things young people do - have some fun, go out, meet friends, travel, date and not be so bogged down with being forever the solemn provider. After all, one is young only once.

Awesome post this is. Thanks for pointing it out. She didn't have any other option than to live with their miserable life. I dont know if I should be thankful for her for not killing herself which is illegal, or not sending her children to beg which is inhuman. And anyways she had one rock-solid shelter throughout her life - her brother. 😕

The italic part is applicable for her also. I have come across such people who have struggled throughout their lives and now are in well-to-do condition. But I haven't seen them mourning over that for so long. Instead it's all about embracing the good life and growing some good hobbies when you have such loving children. If not anything else, she can think/work in charity since there is no one who would understand the value of money more than her (supposedly). But no, she doesnt have any hobby/anything to look forward to, neither would she allow her son to have one😕 I have seen mothers who overburden their kids with responsibility (very close observation since he's family) and TRUST me, it does no good to the poor guy. Unknowingly he becomes over-dependent to the love of his life and craves for happy and relaxing times. At one point this excess responsibility even leads them to criticize their own mothers and no matter how much they love their moms, it's really painful when a son has to tell his mom that 'Please I am tired now, I need some space'. Ishwari's unhealthy vibes and expectations are pushing them towards Sonakshi more for happiness.

Like someone mentioned, GKB seems far better person than Ishwari now. From what I have observed around me, craving for money and greed for materialistic things can make someone a thief or loot. But obsession over a person can make you a murderer 🥱 It's far more unhealthy and doesn't do any good to anyone.

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