Mother's Perspective

Originally posted by: Jade0001

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="3">Today's episode was the break point for Ishwari</font>

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="3">She firstly fails to realize her son is no longer a small kid he has grown up . Ishwari's flashback on the memory when Dev just wanted his mother was sweet but she needs to realize her son is not leaving her , he is just wanting a soulmate .</font>

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="3">Her expression when Dev called out Sonakshi's name was horrendous it was as if she had found out her husband is cheating on her , true Dev have not spoken to his mother and sure from her POV Dev betrayed that trust but she is carrying on like a lover instead of a mother.</font>

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<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="3">Precap _ Ishwari tells Sona not to trouble Dev or cook for her children and that is normal as mothers are allowed to get a bit selfish it's because they are known as protectors for their family</font>

I feel the expressions were awesome and much apt guven that her son never once hid anything from her . Up until now dhe was thinking sona was pushing him to do things and trying to trap him. But now that she realized that he loves her too and he did not tell her abt it hurts her bad. She feels betrayed not becuse he loves sona but the fact that he didnt tell her or even take her opinion on if sona is right girl gor him. She always thought her son will not cross her lakeer. So it is a combination of hurt ego, hurt heart, trust lost, insecure and possesiveness

Why did Ishwari decide to make Halwa for Dev, not because Dev liked to eat it or she liked to feed him to make him happy, but She felt Dev is going away from her and she wanted to bring him back by making his favourite dish. Common this is plain wife's possessiveness for her husband and not love for a son. And yes she failed to understand why Dev refused to eat the Halwa in the evening (it was due to health concerns but only thing she remembered was Sona asked him not to). Stupid isn't it.

At the moment she knows even Dev is in love with Sona, but she would try snatch away that happiness from her son. A mother might be unhappy with her son for a while but taking away the very reason for his happiness is being selfish. A normal mother would show her displeasure by talking to her son instead n making her concerns heard. It has nothing to do with letting go. She never wanted any girl (see the initial epi's) nor she wants any girl now in Dev's life. He whole idea of Sona taking away Dev and Dev being innocent was proven wrong yesterday. But she is still in denial mode and would punish and make Dev feel guilty. Now which normal mother does that, seriously.

Originally posted by: dlavanya

I feel the expressions were awesome and much apt guven that her son never once hid anything from her . Up until now dhe was thinking sona was pushing him to do things and trying to trap him. But now that she realized that he loves her too and he did not tell her abt it hurts her bad. She feels betrayed not becuse he loves sona but the fact that he didnt tell her or even take her opinion on if sona is right girl gor him. She always thought her son will not cross her lakeer. So it is a combination of hurt ego, hurt heart, trust lost, insecure and possesiveness

In reality Dev has never shared anything personal with Ishwari till date. Simply because she wasn't interested in knowing Dev as a human being. She loves talking or getting praises from everyone on how much she has done for Dev and her family after her husband died. But was it just her or even Dev and Neha who had sacrificed a lot to reach the place they all are now. She has only considered Dev as someone who would earn money for them period. She has always made sure that he just has his mother or sisters to think about and no one else not even him.

Originally posted by: mena_k

Why did Ishwari decide to make Halwa for Dev, not because Dev liked to eat it or she liked to feed him to make him happy, but She felt Dev is going away from her and she wanted to bring him back by making his favourite dish. Common this is plain wife's possessiveness for her husband and not love for a son. And yes she failed to understand why Dev refused to eat the Halwa in the evening (it was due to health concerns but only thing she remembered was Sona asked him not to). Stupid isn't it.

At the moment she knows even Dev is in love with Sona, but she would try snatch away that happiness from her son. A mother might be unhappy with her son for a while but taking away the very reason for his happiness is being selfish. A normal mother would show her displeasure by talking to her son instead n making her concerns heard. It has nothing to do with letting go. She never wanted any girl (see the initial epi's) nor she wants any girl now in Dev's life. He whole idea of Sona taking away Dev and Dev being innocent was proven wrong yesterday. But she is still in denial mode and would punish and make Dev feel guilty. Now which normal mother does that, seriously.

Precisely she is not an average mom. She is different and moms like her do exist. It is just that they r showing every single feeling under magnifying glass we think it is wrong. She is not perfect but she is a mom and she loves her son and her son adores her. If her son had treated her as a mom instead of like a kid then she wouldnt be this way. So now she is confused if her dev gets married- will he be bringing her a daughter in law or a step mother. Hahaha nice thought. I think it should make a post abt this perspective..

Originally posted by: dlavanya

Precisely she is not an average mom. She is different and moms like her do exist. It is just that they r showing every single feeling under magnifying glass we think it is wrong. She is not perfect but she is a mom and she loves her son and her son adores her. If her son had treated her as a mom instead of like a kid then she wouldnt be this way. So now she is confused if her dev gets married- will he be bringing her a daughter in law or a step mother. Hahaha nice thought. I think it should make a post abt this perspective..

Is it a sin to love your parents immensely and care for them. no na. Then why Dev's care and love is considered in this way. Yes he loves his mother a lot. We all do. I do too. But its the maturity level of a parent to understand difference between a kid and an adult. It is true a child would remain a child for parents forever but that doesn't mean a mother would remember how her child held her hand as a child and not ready to let go or saying she is the only one who can heal him when in pain and not think about the needs of her child as an adult.

Didn't Ishwari loved her parents. Why did she marry a man and have kids then.

BTW I liked your idea of DIL or step-mother. Would be waiting for your post on this. 😃

There are very few mothers who accept their sons girlfriends initially and it is worse for single mothers...some how the mothers start nit picking but those feelings are not express to the girlfriend and the ill mannered behaviour as well are not shown to the girlfriend as a matter of fact the mother's even though the don't like the girlfriend they pretend to like her for their son's happiness...but in ishwarie case dev has not told her anything and she always thought it was sona who was instigating dev but little did she know it was her son who also loved sona deeply and immensely that he was not willing to share with anyone else not even his mother...so as they say in my country parents are the last one to know...hence ishwarie insecurity yes she is upset hurt and betrayed by her son but she is venting on the wrong person...I really like this show and so far all the episode was done to perfection and a tremendous amount of reality but I really cannot relate to ishwarie behaviour... I understand what they are trying to show but I think it is bordering in a obsessive unhealthy relation between ishwari and dev...again maybe it is a cultural thing because of where I live...but ishwari had to rember she as well took someone's son away to...but I don't think there will be a separation track...because dev himself cannot stay away from sona...ishwari will give in when mamas speak to her after dev confess to his mother...I think we will get the marriage track sooner than later but even during all marriage ishwari will still find it hard to digest sona and dev relation... It will be ishwari adjusting to her DIL...so I think the marriage is coming sooner than expected...

Can't agree more with you... 😳

You're mum and my mum sound so similar! My mum doesn't watch the show but I update her with the show...and she says thank god I have two daughters 😆 and she said even if she had a son she definitely won't behave like this whatever the hardships she has to go through...

And she said the same thing about the show turning into a regular saas bahu show & she tells me 'thank god I'm not watching it bcoz I won't be able to relate to her..'!

But but... there are mothers out there who are like this & I guess this story is for them.. !

You and Mum sound like the people in would love to watch the show with! !