Originally posted by: _AmyChoco_
Damn..that was one heck of a writing. It was so good. Loved how Sona drew the differences between her own family n Dev's. And esp the part where she quite fondly thought ...( or is the apt word empathised?) of Dev, who maybe isn't so tough beneath all those layers.Her 'hurt' when Dev acknowledged her like all the other days was palpable. That kiss was a surprise!!
Hmm..on a serious note..do u think a 'surprise' kiss like this would happen in real life? Maybe..but just wanted to know ur thoughts :D
...what does the title mean?
Every family is unhappy in its own way. I read this line somewhere or a variant of it and it has stuck in my head. In this show Sona and Dev's characters have been established through this fact. Shona is a doctor, a middle class Bengali meritorious girl. Its a very real life characterization. She is bold and she talks and she is stable. Her family is very open.. the way her Dadi calls her bahu meri asha or the way sona asked her father do you cry? She believes in love and romance, not in a childish kind of way but as an adult. She has been working with Dev closely in his home environment so yes a level of empathy had to come.
Dev's primary motivators have been his mother, money and protection to 4 ladies in his house. His friend is happy go lucky but not as ambitious or hard working. He serves as a minder. His mama mami and son do not contribute positively for whatever reason. His secretary is efficient. His teachers are role models and society inconsequential. Dev is very repressed. For a person like Sona it is easily identifiable.
The kiss was a surprise but when I see them it can't be in phases. Let me explain better. I am following 3 shows right now. Dahleez, Rangrasiya(Yes i just discovered it and am slowly making my way through youtube and voot) and this show. Adarsh is privileged with a strong academic background and definitely power/ political leaning. He is free of harsh realities like poverty, abuse, social downfall and he reacts that way. There isn't aggression in him. To him love is to be celebrated. He can flirt, say cheesy dialogues and be a aashiq. Rudra is again complex but for him trust factor is an issue and he is very raw with his emotions. Temper tantrum every now and then and physical attraction is the first phase. Dev however, is repressed. He has seen his mother go through things which makes him worship her. But the mother is childish and insecure, she emphasizes on family and relations and kind of what he owes to her. The sisters- one resents him, the other two see him as a protector, someone they do not confide in neither joke around. With Tina the relationship is efficiency and professional.
Sona is the wild card. she enters his home and then layers start coming out. For her, a 27-28 confident feminist woman, the kiss is a celebration, a declaration of her intent for him. She has to fight for him. Her MIL is insecure, uneducated and she is a non vegetarian to boot. For Dev, even if he feels attracted to Sona, he can never make the first step. He is lost. This kiss was needed for Dev to realize that love of a woman can have these layers too. Something which is not to be shared with other siblings, he can be his true self and not play the protector all the time. And he is very logical. He has to be thrown out of his comfort zone. I see it as reverse Knight in shining armour situation.
The title means unbearable pain of loving someone unattainable. It is french and I found it romantic. What do you think?
Edited by c85rie - 9 years ago
