Weekly discussion- Joint family in KA - Page 4

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Originally posted by: white rose

😆 ok be warned am going to write a short essay 😉 😆..

ok well ive also experienced both living in a joint family and in a nuclear one too..grew up in a joint family and spent the last 10 yrs or so in a nuclear one..
I have to say that there is def alot more "ronak" when theres more of you in the house 😆 , and alot more many laughs. 😛 .but it does have its cons..there will always inevitably be some interference even if its not deliberate. I think theres a certain amount of give and take if you want to live in peace as part of a joint family..but then you can argue that in any environment its important to have some give and take.. well like kavya 😳 whilst in a joint family i didnt grow up with both my parents..so i can understand the love and affection that he has for his grandparents and the rest of the family..he feels that he owes them alot in terms of "emotional payback" because of the love they have showered him with...so at every turn in his life before he does anything its his "family" that has to come first for him. Many will argue that its wrong to do or very naive to put so much at stake for his family. I totally understand why he feels that he is obliged to put them first but there needs to be a cetain cut-off point..after all you need to realise that when you feel alone and your family cant fill that void then perhaps you've made a wrong decision.. i.e. Anjali..If he hadnt have reacted so many times to the whole nitya-anjali tug of war and then his hasty decision to "please" his mum and marry pammi he wouldnt be where he is now i feel.. thats not to say that he does not have an independant persona because he sure does..its just that hes an emotional person can be easily swayed. Ive not focused on nitya's "evil" influence because she is ultimately an evil woman and so instead have concentrated on other family members 😳 😆

Moving to my views on a nuclear family now, i feel that in such an environment there is more scope for you to learn to understand eachother..
Kavya and Anjali would still have had the same probs as they did whilst living with the Nanda's.. there were certain flaws in both kavya's and anjali's characters and i think it really doesnt matter what the living arrangement was..but what im sure of is that the misunderstandings would not have escalated to the extent that they have now..had they been living alone at one point or another they would have had to thrash out certain issues..

ok thats my two-pennies worth..
everyone khush now? 😳 😆

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Uzi Di!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Another one of Ur fanytastic essays,took ma breath away yaar!😳😳😳

Khush...bohat khush Di!😃

I was here to post views at this discussion but I hav put off ma Hats when I read this..Treasure!😛

plz plz plz plz plz plz plz plz plz Di!do rite more..plz do post more n more views@!😳😳😳

Itz a request From Ur lil sister!😳😛

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Aap Ki Sammy👏

Originally posted by: pardesi-mem

👏 Uzi di, tht was another classic Uzi style essay! 😃 It was a very balanced argument based on personal experience and i agree with all your points! 😊 K needs a cut-off point when it comes to taking on board his elders' views and that KA's misunderstandings would have still arisen if they lived alone but they would of had the space to sort them out privately! 😊

Khaytee and Vj bro loved reading ur views as well..thoroughly enjoy weekly discussions..every gets so philosophical and demonstrate thier amazing insights! 😳 😃 👏

yeah Pardesi😳,Uzi di ka style hai sab se Hatt ke!😃

Our Sweetest Di is da one and only..Unique and Versatile!😳

Plz di..I hope so U wont deny soo many Ppl's request,do rite more!😳😛

Ok! as every1 is giving up on and sharing the ideas and views of their Mind-Blowing thoughts,Its me here express a bit my clumsy thoughts,hope aint boring or rubbish! 😆 lol!

Wel,as well as I think,living in a joint family has lots of benefits as well as it concludes many personal and professional problems also. 😳 None of Ekta's serials is there in which there isnt joint families.and mostly the Mother in Laws and Devars are the main culprit or bone of contention of the misunderstanding and probs in family! 😳
In KA,the joint family system has given a very bad result to KA's life.They dont hav any time,any idea ,any decision of thei own.There is always sum1 like Dida,Bauji or Bebe interfairing in their personal life 😳 😭 😭 and that is the main cause for the misunderstandings b/w them.Ofcourse when talkin abt misunderstandings so there is always 1 name common..NITYA NANDA! 😡
She is the one categorizing circumstances but if KA lived alone without the rest of the stupid Nandas,they cud probably solve out thier Probs by discussing but coz of the joint family,they even get v.less time to spent together n always sum hatreds like Jai and Arpita were making Kavya feel bad abt his wife. 😭

Acc to me,joint family has both positive nd negative effects but I say that while living in a joint family,we shud always make ione thing sit..lol in our mind..and that is TRUST>>TRUST and TRUST! 😳 😳
this is the reason 4 any relationship's union and splitting! 😳 I hope U better understand wat I mean coz KA's life is a better idol for it! 😳

Sam

hello all u beautiful ppl on IF.......hey guys i really dont have any time to come to IF 😭 😭 😭
this job is taking the hell out of me.......i really miss u all 😭 😭 i miss all my sis........especially uzi, nanu, mel, sam,..........
i know this section is not meant for writing all this.....but i cud'nt find a better place....... 😭
anyway.........i cant give much of my opinion on this topic......coz it is too late!