Weekly discussion- Joint family in KA - Page 3

Originally posted by: sweetviolet

rocking topic sheen 👏
KA need to live on their own..
i dunno when i can write my essays 😆
btw yeah aroo's siggy is cool so nicely done 👏 😊 i saw urs GC..its very nice too 😊

aww thanks tinoo😛
yeh ka should move to the amazon rainforest or sumwhere where the nandas cant disturb them😆😆 and if pammi comes then a monkey can eat her up😳😆
tinooo hope u write an essay...will be fun to read😃

Originally posted by: Groovychick

yea..i woz wonderin y😆

villians..full of them ekta's serials..ok..moving bak 2 ka😆
i h8888888 ekta sooooooo much😡🤢😆 but seriously..kavya is grown up now, he doesn't need his mother telling him wot 2 do, 4 god's sake(ok i promised my frend i won't take god's name in vein hehe..oops) he has his own bussiness and he set it all up himself..no thnx 2 his mum!! that..that..🤬stupid woman..i'm tryin not 2 b rude here so plz bare with me lol
so basically i don't think its coz of d fam but his own mind, he has a mind of his own, his mum can tell him nethin but its up 2 HIM if he decides to take her advice or not..

yea..now i jus need 2 b bothered 2 actually make 11 lol hehehe😛

of course u no re..u make gr888 siggy's huni!! me lub dem 2 bits👏

lub ju loadsssss

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lol i keep taking god's name in vein...it's bad!😭😭 bad shireen!😭😆
Yeh whenever kavya does try to think for himself then his mother manipulates his thoughts and confuses the poor baby😆😆
kavya should parcel nitya off to santa claus...and next year santa can give that parcel to sumone as a christmas present😛😆😆

hailaa my siggies are rubbish....😆😆 but thanks anyway gc🤗

Originally posted by: Supergirl7

lol i keep taking god's name in vein...it's bad!😭😭 bad shireen!😭😆
Yeh whenever kavya does try to think for himself then his mother manipulates his thoughts and confuses the poor baby😆😆
kavya should parcel nitya off to santa claus...and next year santa can give that parcel to sumone as a christmas present😛😆😆

hailaa my siggies are rubbish....😆😆 but thanks anyway gc🤗

i know and my friends always shout at me 4 that😳
b4 there woz mean gals..mayb now there should b bad gals😳😆
yea..poor baby😳😭he is brainwashed with bad thoughts and things agains anjali..argh..i h8 nitya 4 brainwashing him n i dun lyk kavy 4 actually listening 2 her!!! think..use ur own mind..think wot u want nd not wot ur mumma tells u 2!!

lolzzz😆😆😆parcel her off...HELL NOOOOO...wot if she cums 2 me..it'll b my worst christmas gift ever😭😭😆 oh v could tell santa 2 post it off 2 the bad gals😆😉

ur laffin?? ur siggies r gorgeous re...me lub them..u should open ur own shop..more than sparkly n designy stuff...ur siggy's r nyc n creative😛so that's y i lyk them soooo much👏

meri jaan i lub ju sooooo much!!!🤗

xXxTinaxXx

👏 Shiroo interesting topic and i'm sure you'll get many of us biased fellows saying the Nandas ruined KA's relationship, coz it's true Nitiya's influence was the reason for thier failed marriage! However, a joint family does have it's pros and cons...you've summarised it in your first post! 😃

If you think about it, in all of Ekta's serials the joint family is portrayed as close-knit and well bonded but then they are the same relatives who change thier colours in rough times and point fingers! 😕

In reality, when a man gets married then that's when thier greatest challenge begins because it is never so easy trying to keep the peace between your wife and your family. Even if your wife is nice..she comes into the marriage with her own hopes and dreams of what her new life will be like and in many cases a joint family can stifle those expectations!

Thus, i come from the perspective that a married couple should live separately, so they have the room to understand one another and start thier own family! 😉

Although, that doesnt mean completely disconnecting from the family, but it's better to just come together on special occasions, as you value those precious moments so much more! 😃 They should be there as your support system but not to interrupt in your decisions..Nitiya make's all of K's, even the one to marry A was egged on by her! 😛

Big families are hard to live in as each indivual needs the space to develop and perosonalites can clash and sometimes there is always the rivalry that one person gets more attention then the other e.g. Jai's jealousy over K!

Ok, i will stop there! 😳 I realise i have presented a one dimensional arguement from a pessismistic view but as i have not experienced the positive of an extended family coming from a family tht lives separately to cousins etc😳..so someone else can comment on tht! 😆

nice topic Sheen 👏 😉
lolz sheen kavya took just 1 decision on his own 😆 😆 i.e marrying najali 1st tym 😉 😆
btw im missing the funny & amazing esaaya of Uzi 😭 😳
well I think they cud hav saved their marriage..if they were livinf separately..but this is just impossible in ekta's serials 😆 😆 ...
also baujii deeda & bebey cud save KAz marriage..thye cud make kavya understnd the situatiions but they didnt! 😡 😕 😭
if KA get married 2nd tym..i wud suggest them to buy a sweet home 4them..& live happy sweet life by their own 😆

Heh, I am an expert on this topic from experience, having lived with both a nuclear and extended family and now my girlfriend for over half a year.

It is critical for a new relationship to have space and time alone. I cannot imagine living with my girlfriend and having family live with us. There are so many things that cannot be said and done openly in that kind of situation and in terms of KA, a lot more cute scenes, more communication and definately less misunderstandings would occur if KA lived away from family.

Besides, the Nanda clan is full of "namunes" like Nitya said 😆; they are all dimwits and have their own personalities that clash often. KA don't need more problems around them to compound their own but it happened quite a lot in their marriage i.e. the Yug-Arpita, Vansh-Arpita, Jai cases etc. Worst family to have around you for sure. Not to mention Nitya Nanda...

Anyway, that was my short two-cents.

ekta has always shown joint families in most of her serials becoz it is normal in indian context. well, i dont have any experience as i've never lived in a joint family.

As for Ka, the elders had always have their say i mean what the elders say the young ones have to listen. Kavya really loves his family that's why anjali has always come after his family although he loves her sooo much. the misunderstandings between KA were never cleared i mean the elder ones never tried to sort out the problems.. they listen only to nitya. now pammi is doing all these nonsense and bauji and bebe forgive her or praise her. so u see in a joint family, smetimes the elders make mistakes by giving wrong advice like when anjali left their house they never took a step to make kavya understand his mistake and now when pammi is wrong they are bent on making k and p's wedding a success.

maybe if KA lived separately from the nandas, am sure they would have still been together.. i mean sort out all problems.. no nitya, no pammi and no yug. maybe they would already have 2 babies by now(no kidnapping) 😆

this time if they get married again, anjali must bcome kavya's first priority then his family. he must love his family but also give importance to anji and communicate more and dont let a third person to come in between them(even if its nitya).

😆 ok be warned am going to write a short essay 😉 😆..

ok well ive also experienced both living in a joint family and in a nuclear one too..grew up in a joint family and spent the last 10 yrs or so in a nuclear one..
I have to say that there is def alot more "ronak" when theres more of you in the house 😆 , and alot more many laughs. 😛 .but it does have its cons..there will always inevitably be some interference even if its not deliberate. I think theres a certain amount of give and take if you want to live in peace as part of a joint family..but then you can argue that in any environment its important to have some give and take.. well like kavya 😳 whilst in a joint family i didnt grow up with both my parents..so i can understand the love and affection that he has for his grandparents and the rest of the family..he feels that he owes them alot in terms of "emotional payback" because of the love they have showered him with...so at every turn in his life before he does anything its his "family" that has to come first for him. Many will argue that its wrong to do or very naive to put so much at stake for his family. I totally understand why he feels that he is obliged to put them first but there needs to be a cetain cut-off point..after all you need to realise that when you feel alone and your family cant fill that void then perhaps you've made a wrong decision.. i.e. Anjali..If he hadnt have reacted so many times to the whole nitya-anjali tug of war and then his hasty decision to "please" his mum and marry pammi he wouldnt be where he is now i feel.. thats not to say that he does not have an independant persona because he sure does..its just that hes an emotional person can be easily swayed. Ive not focused on nitya's "evil" influence because she is ultimately an evil woman and so instead have concentrated on other family members 😳 😆

Moving to my views on a nuclear family now, i feel that in such an environment there is more scope for you to learn to understand eachother..
Kavya and Anjali would still have had the same probs as they did whilst living with the Nanda's.. there were certain flaws in both kavya's and anjali's characters and i think it really doesnt matter what the living arrangement was..but what im sure of is that the misunderstandings would not have escalated to the extent that they have now..had they been living alone at one point or another they would have had to thrash out certain issues..

ok thats my two-pennies worth..
everyone khush now? 😳 😆

👏 Uzi di, tht was another classic Uzi style essay! 😃 It was a very balanced argument based on personal experience and i agree with all your points! 😊 K needs a cut-off point when it comes to taking on board his elders' views and that KA's misunderstandings would have still arisen if they lived alone but they would of had the space to sort them out privately! 😊

Khaytee and Vj bro loved reading ur views as well..thoroughly enjoy weekly discussions..every gets so philosophical and demonstrate thier amazing insights! 😳 😃 👏

Interestign topic hun. Great views all.
👏 👏 Will add mine soon