FF-I like the way it hurts-1/11ch17pg58+NOTE pg 59 - Page 7

dat was an awum update seein sanjana's name heer started feelin uncomfortable.....aaawwww.......

Originally posted by: iheartChai

Very intriguing concept you have here 👏

Well, I'm not Indian so I can't say much about arrange marriages even though I'm a product of one...my mom and dad were arranged. I'm Chinese by the way and for most part the younger generations are left on their own to find themselves someone. Of course parents do help but more in a I know so-so has a boy/girl and why don't you meet at a cafe and see how it goes from there.

I'm looking forward to seeing how you go about developing such a relationship from "hello, I'm a complete stranger" to "now we're a married couple" to "maybe we can be friends?" to "I hate these faults of yours but like these strengths of yours" to "I think I may actually like you" to "I respect you" to "the possessiveness of being together" to "maybe I think we can actually be together" and to...hopefully "I love you" 😆

So in short I would like to be added to your PM list

hey Grace, I know you're Chinese...I read your FF 😳 I'm an Indian but I've never lived there so even I don't identify with the totally arranged, never met kinda marriages but I know they happen all the time back home...and I then some of these totally arranged people {mind you, only some of them} actually fall in love with one another and I wonder why? Actually, how? 😆 trying to explore how that happens and the comments help a lot 🤗

Originally posted by: moon_mine

it ws simply superb!!!!!
i like ur idea of using facebook into ur ff as we all knw how convinient we r wid it!!!!!
i like the way ur ff s progressng......
n m sorry if i seemed rude to u 😔

why'd you sound rude? 😕

Originally posted by: brainychild92

Okay...time to vote people! I'm kinda confused about what happens next...should they meet before they get married? Or should they interact on Facebook and not meet? Or should neither happen and they married as virtual strangers?

personally i think they shuold meet but to make it juicy.. facebook eachother.. i mean i remember when my uncle was going to get married he was in canada and she was in pakistan and they'd chat.. once i na while we'd sneek up and say a thing or two while he was gone!lol i dont believe the whole marriage as virtual strangers even tho that kinda happened with my parents.. i think thats last gen thiing and it shuold never ever happen again.. before mariage u should atleast talk to him..on the phone..internet..or in person.. watever's acceptable. cant wait for u to move on.. we have the same opinion abuot love(based on waht u said to tadashi) lol

continue soon!!

hmm, I think they'll meet somehow...most of you seem to think they should. But believe me, as antediluvian the idea of marrying a virtual stranger sounds to us...it happens! That too to educated, forward thinking people...even to those who live in the West...mostly of Indian or Pakistani origin i.e. 😳

Originally posted by: iheartChai

Hmmm...some how I managed to skip over a chapter...lol..the Facebook chapter at that!

As for the voting part of meeting or not meeting...I think it would be nice for them to have a brief meeting and then after that Facebook and then move to the phone? Relationship has to move forward somehow.

the relationship will move forward, but I'm actually trying to decide the level it needs to be at when they get married 😳

Originally posted by: soapsick

thanks, it's weird but what another person said here is true. People who get into arranged marriages just adjust to their circumstances...a lot of people don't even believe in ''someone somewhere for us'' idea. Which is wrong in my opinion. I mean you don't need Romeo to sweep you off your feet for love to happen...in the real world, love happens quite ordinarily...and even though I loved, loved, loved Kis Desh...I don't believe in the karma connection thing they showed in the beginning...you know his finger bleeds when another man puts a ring on her finger...she's dancing so he starts moving...this does NOT happen! So I'll try not to do that here...

Love for me is how it happened to Meet...that's love...opposites who stick together...Preet could've gotten himself a more glamorous girl, yet he settled for Meher...he trusted her, stood by her side and loved her unconditionally in his clumsy yet adorable manner...that was superb!

One of my married friends tells me that love can happen anywhere anytime...she ended up having an arranged marriage but 4 years down the line...they are so much in love with one another that it's hard to believe they'd been virtual strangers at marriage...others compromise...but those two have gelled and HOW! 😃

I completely agree, but I think everyone has a type. Like my type is preet, if i would have married harman or nihaal i think i would learn to love him but i would always have this unfulfilled desire or regret. do I make sense? I also think that girls tend to fall for guys like their dad...my dad is very much like preet so i am always attracted to guys like that. What you said about opposites is true too! My parents are opposites and while they fight they make a good couple and team because they learn from each other so they are never bored. What you said about meher though...that preet could have gotten a more glamourous girl- I dont really like that statement. I don't think preet settled or if he did meher had to settle too. Meher is really pretty( just a little chubby) and her personality was intriguing which is attractive to a guy like preet who got everything he ever wanted. Coming to arranged marriage.. you are right- the whole falling in love after marriage and getting to know each other seems more romantic and exciting. The reason I think that works better is because you fall in love with all aspects of the person because you are immediately living together. there isn't much you can hide which makes it easier for acceptance and love. i love your discussions and your story!!!!! you are a fantastic writer! I look forward to your story everyday! its awesome!

awesome........work yaar

awesome update! They should meet before marraige that would be interesting.

Originally posted by: soapsick

hmm, I think they'll meet somehow...most of you seem to think they should. But believe me, as antediluvian the idea of marrying a virtual stranger sounds to us...it happens! That too to educated, forward thinking people...even to those who live in the West...mostly of Indian or Pakistani origin i.e. 😳

oh ofcourse.. i just wish people would move on from that.. i mean i'm not against ur parents picking a guy for u.. i would to that if i am to marry in the FAR FUTURE..lol but i feel taht the bride and groom have the right to meet eachtoher atleast once whether its in person...on telephone..or internet...