Allright...I am not going to make my points indirectly..I am going to call a Spades a Spades and if I get banned..Hah! I don't care. So the "issue" here is about Shifs not liking Khushi and being against her, she feels KDMHMD forum is "Hers" and Khush and Nans ruined it. I didn't want to comment over the things going on between you three but this topic has crossed the limit. This topic is wrong and degrading to all the months of hardwork that Khush has given the forum.
Let me start with the beginning..Shifs was an awesome mod..she did everything single handedly coz the other DT members left long back, she had no help. Khush had been a DT before for some other forums and so she asked Shifs if she needed some help. Shifs agreed, I dunno why when she felt the forum was hers and hers alone., probably coz she thought she needed help? Anyway, Khush was promoted and since Khush lives in a place where the timezone is +2 hours than India, she was available during the daytime for the forum. She was the one locking the topics, sticking it, discussing the show, posting the caps, etc.
Sadly the forum only began to see the mod who was visible when the forum was the most active, during daytime. The PM's, complaints, etc started being sent to Khushi. Shifs tried to be visible but her timezone didn't help her. She felt she was being ignored and that the forum had begun to forget her. So instead of working with Khushi to make taking care of the forum a joint deal, she infact preferred to sulk and take up other forums for moderating. She rarely ever visited the forum and let Khushi do everything. Can you blame the forum to only see Khushi as the active-st member?
Anyway, the other mods that were promoted, faded away too, slowly..oh they tried to be active but weren't active enough. They posted some weekly post and also did update once a week but nothing else. Khush was stressed out. A DT member has to be active, kind and undersanding. Nans was already helping out Khush in so many things..FM and pic caps and updates and whatnot so what's wrong that she was promoted?
Shifs feels Jaz(I am sorry Jaz but I have to write this) should be the one promoted to DT? Why? She is barely active..she only posts one update a week and does one KDC...she doesnt check all the posts in EDT and other topics, etc that Khush and Nans do. She is not the one who calms down members when they get hyper about the coming track or post a peace topic when Bidaai members start a fight.
Shifs I am truly thankful that you talked it out with Zee, Farru and Raj. Honestly I am but as you can see..they are still ever present and spying on us𼹠Zee in my opinion has no reason to hate our show to the level she does, I still cannot fathom her reason for the level of Hate she has for our forum and show. Raj..well he is ok, he mostly does something when Zee eggs him on over OHMYGOD the Desh fans insulted Bidaai or YRKKH. I mean they insult our show and the actors way more but..khair let it be. And Farru...all Khush did to him was stop him from insulting Bidaai forum and the one person who he is chummy with now. She didn't want another huge fight brewing between the forum and he turned against her and all her friends and also the show he claimed to love and the forum. But he turned against her and went as far as making some truly disgusting topics, but we still accepted him and Raj when they apologized..this is OUR PHORUM. Hmmm..anyway, that aside. (I havent bashed anyone..just stated fact in this para so no use reporting my post as I am sure some will still dođĽą)
Now about Shifs and gangs accusation that Khushi and Nans are biased..pray tell who says so? Only the above people no? Coz as far as I know the old members that we knew left the forum..not coz of Khush or Nans but because they lost touch with the show and stopped watching it. I agree the forum has changed..I was a member since beginning and I have seen the forum changing, yes it's a little more negative than it used to be..but saying the forum is a mess? I don't agree with you at all. You guys are telling me that you would have handled the forum differently? Tell me how..give me an example.
Can we get back the old members? Some I guess....but all? Nope, I don't think so. Does that mean we should kick out all the new members? Definately not. Yes the new members are not as matured and brilliant or whatever as the old members but then the show is not as it used to be too no? But blaming Khushi for the forum is wrong and utterly petty. Some old members who truly do care for the show and the actors are still active. You yourselves are old members no? Then why not participate with the active members and atleast TRY to make the forum what it was before instead of wasting time blaming Khush and Nans? I am sure if we guide well, the forum will improve. Think about it.
Finally I want to say..I am saddened and utterly disgusting with this step you have taken Shifs and gang. Khush was atleast dignified enough to talk to you privately but you actually dragged this matter out publicly by making this very insulting topic. Chee. Don't think I dont understand the games you and your friends are playing..suddenly posting topics that you guys used to before disappearing. Making stickies so that you remain visible to forum members, taking up the job of posting certain topics that nans and Khush used to do so that you get proof that you guys do all the work and they don't? So that you can easily kick them out saying you dont need them? I know all these tricks and more..you have no idea what not I have seen and dealt with. You guys are lucky that you were handling Khush..if I had been in her place..Hah!...... I have faced what you cannot even fathom in your worst nightmare when I was a mod/admin for a very popular site. This little tricks and politics are nothing..nothing to me. When I pointed these tricks to Khush and Nans..do you know what they said? They said they are glad you guys are coming back and maybe now the forum will be more active and matured like we all hope for. and this is how you treat them...Yuck.
Khushi has already given her resignation to the GM/Admin. Let me make this clear..if Khush leaves..I leave and so will many other members, so it's about time you all talk it out and work together on stopping her...and carry out a way to work TOGETHER.
I am truly sad for writing this but Shifs, you have truly disappointed me. I never expected this from you.
Edited by -Triv- - 15 years ago
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