The reality is.....

I am like Saanchi who has married a guy younger to me by three years so I know what it goes in a girls mind when this happens. I met my husband when he was 21 and as per his age he was carefree, handsome and always smiling. We became friends in no time. As I said that I was 3 years elder to him I used to actually treat him as a bacchha. I remember when for the first time I came to know of his age I really made a lot of fun of him as he was the youngest in our group and with the way he always spoke sense always I could have never guessed his age.

very nice post and I enjoyed reading it

Thanks for sharing your personal stuff with us. really loved your article. In our society when our elders arrange the marriage for their children, they make sure that the age difference between man & woman should exist. Normally they prefer a girl who is at least 5 years younger than boy. Well, in my opinion, relationships are truly two people coming together who have common interests, common goals, common family values, etc. with enough differences to keep it interesting! Relationships are what you make them, and it doesn't matter how old either party is. We all have soul-mates, and I truly believe that as long as two people enjoy one another, age is just a number, isn't it?

well i think people think about the age because usually girls grow up and become mature early then a boy

I never miss this show as the minor minor incidents happening in the show remind me of my own life and I must admit that they are showing it very well...really if the likings, interests and maturity level match then only two people can become soul mates and not because they are of society accepted age brackets. Whenever any person thinks of a life partner how many of us begin counting qualities starting with age...then why so much fuss in selecting somebody for life who has all the qualities except age...that was my husbands point which I am sure one day or the other Dhruv is also gonna make. Really happy to see the forum is all positive about young boy and elder girl being a couple as in this case both have a lot to learn from each other...they are more like equals and both give each other freedom to have their individual say. Also when I see Dhruv or my husband both have a higher maturity level than people in their age group so I do not say that all such marriages would be successful just because the girl is elder...it's only where the guy has grown in maturity although not in years to match up to her level.

Originally posted by: vinee_vinee

I am like Saanchi who has married a guy younger to me by three years so I know what it goes in a girls mind when this happens. I met my husband when he was 21 and as per his age he was carefree, handsome and always smiling. We became friends in no time. As I said that I was 3 years elder to him I used to actually treat him as a bacchha. I remember when for the first time I came to know of his age I really made a lot of fun of him as he was the youngest in our group and with the way he always spoke sense always I could have never guessed his age.

I started to take care of him as an elder, a feeling which came in my mind from nowhere when I learnt his age. Just like dhruv for Saanchi, my husband was falling in love with me each and every day without him or me realising. He started to flirt with me and I responded in flirting back thinking it's just for fun as he is a bacchha so what's the harm. A slightest idea that I am everyday growing more fond of him even didn't cross my mind for even once. The jerk in my life also came when he did reveal his feelings for me which initially I snubbed thinking them to have arisen out of immaturity of young age and I really took it as my responsibility as an elder to get him back to his senses and get off this stupid idea from his mind.

His love story had only one obstacle and that was Me and believe me it's much easier for a guy to accept an older girl than it is for a girl to accept a younger guy. I could not accept him till my mind was in my control, he kept convincing me but somewhere it was such an unbelievable thing for me I could not surpass it. Just as Saanchi has met an older guy, the same way I also met a guy of my age And despite my young friend pleading me to understand his and my own feelings I rejected him only coz he was younger than me. Actually confessing, later I dumped that new guy who was my age as every time when I compared both of them, the young guy won battle of maturity and charm hands down. I realised it very late that even I had feelings for him deep within my heart from the beginning which I could not ever believe to have existed. The feeling of younger boy being a bacchha is so laid down in our minds since our childhood that such feelings of love remain within the heart and mind does let them be accepted.

Since I am seeing the same happening to Saanchi and dhruv I thought of sharing my real life here. Dhruv is a guy and guys by default are rebellious and do not much worry about society made norms so it's rather easier for dhruv to realise his developing love for an elder girl while on the other hand Saanchi is very much liking dhruv from inside but is so bred in customs that she will be shocked at her whenever she will ever face this reality about herself.

Also to mention that I got the best husband in him whom I had considered as bacchha and now after 3 years of marriage I can proudly say that I could not have got a more mature person in my life.

Very sweet of you to share your own story. With Rishi's entry the story will move in similar lines.

Wow such a beautiful story dear👏 May Allah bless both you and your husband🤗