Ayesha - What marriage means to her

.... or rather what it does'nt mean to her. This girl had no qualms marrying for the sake of revenge even though she was supposedly in love with Milsi. Having broken away willingly from her former beau now she wants him back, despite the fact that he is happily married.

On the verge of succeeding in the Michi break up, she is all set to free herself from her marriage so that she can get married to Milsi. Just what does marriage mean to this girl? Just a piece of paper which says you have married so and so person?

Maybe the fact that her mother never had a marriage and lived all her life pining for her lover influences how she thinks. But surely she cannot be using that as an excuse all her life to keep flaunting marriage and all the people involved in it.

In the unlikely event she does manage to marry Milsi, would she ever show any respect for that institution? Seriously doubt it. So unless something really drastic happens to her character she will be a thorn in the flesh of any man who has the misfortune of staying married to her. Unfortunately Neev is that guy right now!

This post reminds me of something Ayesha once said on her 'burned' wedding night with Neev in Turkey, Ayesha said she doesnt realise the importance of the sej 'bridal bed' because her mother was never fortunate enough to have seen a 'sej'/bridal bed in her life. Well to be honest, I feel, no institution matters to Ayesha be it marriage or family. Where is the concern gone for her un-well mother for whom she embarked for on her revenge spree?😕 I said this only once before, and I will say it again, I wouldnt wish a person like Ayesha on any poor male soul, be it Neev or Miland. Though I must admit I soo wish to see Neev straighten this girl (Ayesha) out and take her to task! Ayesha is too blinded by her obsession for Prachi 'Shah' that she cannot see simple logic such a maths and biology (mind u all the characters seems to be weak when it comes to simple logic in Kym), so to cut the long story short...I personally feel that Ayesha does not seem to respect immediate relationships let alone respect an institution like marriage!

Hope I didnt offend any Ayesha fans.

Inder, Inder, Inder is the root of all Ayesha's evil. I will always maintain that Ayesha's fight with Prachi really isn't really about Milind but about her father's love that she lost to Prachi. Cos at the end of the day, Inder didn't choose Premlata over Amrita but Prachi over Ayesha. Milind is the only other man who ever had any significance in her life and once again it seems that Prachi has taken him away.

As for marriage, she has no value for it. Given that she is the product of an illegitimate union, it's actually understandable. It was given no significance and respect in her life. If even her birth was not reason enough for Inder to legitimitise his relationship with Amrita, how could she learn to pay the institute any respect. Now, it just a means to an end.

She may feel as if she really wants to marry Milind because she loves him but at the end of the day, it's just her need for revenge and to make sure that she doesn't lose to Prachi again. Cos if you take Prachi out of the equation and if Milind and her had remained together, I'm pretty sure she would have been fine having a live-in relationship with him but her mother's experience would have made her very reclutant to actually marry him. The only reason she is putting any significance on marriage now, is beacuse of the significance Prachi puts on it and that's where she can hurt her most .

hmmmm.....

yes opti at this moment her lack off respect to marriage is shown very clearly....but still I have hope for her to respect it at one point.....and that will be when her heart will be accepting the love off a man..cause then she will respect everything what comes with a relation....

let my explain:

her parents had a big impact on her... her being born out off wedlock even more..that has left her without the respect towards the marriage....

and then when she fell in love with mills she was still living day by day... she never saw a future with him... she only knew that she it was for the moment and till it lasted....so even loving mills... she never opened up her self or gave herself....

at the present...

she is fighting for mills ... why... not for love but for what he stands for in her eyes...he is her past...her secure place...the place where she doesn't have to give much cause nothing will be expected off her.... it's the familiar place were everyone will except her for what she is and will never demand anything...

the moment she will truly fall in love ...she will need to open up herself...in a way that the true ayesha will come out... a little girl who has been gone through a lot off heart age be it by her parents , the society or her first love...and be it her first friend who betrayed her....

In my opinion ayesha is a woman still trapped in her past....look at the way she is behaving....like a kid...who doesn't get what she wants....her mills jap...

oke I dont know if I have explained myself well 😕 ...

I was just wondering that can one jsut blame inder for ayesha's behaviour.

insaan ki apni akal bhi hoti hai..I mean a person has his own thinking/ peer group.

Infact milind's love for her couldnt change her..I dont agree that its just her childhood which has made her so.

She is the way just coz she is that way

BC, if she does not want to marry Milsi why suddenly does she want to divorce Neev? She can well have that live-in relationship with Milsi after he seperates from Prachi. Neev never mattered to her. So she would'nt be concerned about what he thought of the arrangement?

As to Ayesha being the product of illegitate union and thus has scant regard for marriage, while I would to some extent accept it, I cannot absolve her. As Yasmin pointed out if her mother's life has affected her so much where is her concern for her now? She is so absorbed in her revenge she has even forgotten the one person she once cared for? And there are many people born out of wedlock who lead very happy married lives.

What I find strange is that she seems to still believe that Prachi is a drama queen and pretends to love Milind (her monologue at the garden after she found Suki letter). That would mean she still loves Neev as Milsi believes. If that is the case, then why free Neev at the same time Prachi is getting divorced. Would Prachi then not get what she wants? Then what about getting her revenge?

Originally posted by: optimist

BC, if she does not want to marry Milsi why suddenly does she want to divorce Neev? She can well have that live-in relationship with Milsi after he seperates from Prachi. Neev never mattered to her. So she would'nt be concerned about what he thought of the arrangement?

As to Ayesha being the product of illegitate union and thus has scant regard for marriage, while I would to some extent accept it, I cannot absolve her. As Yasmin pointed out if her mother's life has affected her so much where is her concern for her now? She is so absorbed in her revenge she has even forgotten the one person she once cared for? And there are many people born out of wedlock who lead very happy married lives.

What I find strange is that she seems to still believe that Prachi is a drama queen and pretends to love Milind (her monologue at the garden after she found Suki letter). That would mean she still loves Neev as Milsi believes. If that is the case, then why free Neev at the same time Prachi is getting divorced. Would Prachi then not get what she wants? Then what about getting her revenge?

She will want to marry Milind and not have a live-in realtionship with him, cos that's what will hurt Prachi the most. I still believe that she is more motivated by revenge than any actual love for Milind, even though Ayesha herself doesn't realise it. Though your last paragraph does make things more confusing. I didn't realise that is what she believes.

What I find strange is that she seems to still believe that Prachi is a drama queen and pretends to love Milind (her monologue at the garden after she found Suki letter). That would mean she still loves Neev as Milsi believes. If that is the case, then why free Neev at the same time Prachi is getting divorced. Would Prachi then not get what she wants? Then what about getting her revenge?

yaar... it's part off her revenge towards prachi... and her belief off her being a drama Q... has to do with the fact that ayesha wont have to go trough her own conscience ... cause then she has to except that she misunderstood prachi and wronged her... she will fall in her own eyes.....

What I find strange is that she seems to still believe that Prachi is a drama queen and pretends to love Milind (her monologue at the garden after she found Suki letter). That would mean she still loves Neev as Milsi believes. If that is the case, then why free Neev at the same time Prachi is getting divorced. Would Prachi then not get what she wants? Then what about getting her revenge?

That was a very keen observation, Opti. I don't think the creatives realised that they were confusing the issue more. Just one more proof that their right hand doesn't know(or in this case can't remember) what the left hand is doing!

I think poor Ayesha's thinking's gone AWOL too! All she can think of is Milind. If he was still in love with her, he'd have Prachi to thank for Ayesha's present 'junoon' for him.

I think if Ayesha were to marry him now and this Ayesha would marry him in a jiffy...(I can bet my last paise on it), she's going to be the 'best' wife that she's capable of being. No, I'm not her advocate...there's a catch here. Her idea of being a good wife is not necessarily ours. She's going to suffocate him with her 'love', be possessive and totally insecure as a result. Even if Mils was still in love with her, his feeling would be stifled to death.

She's never seen a marriage at close quarters so can't imagine what it should be like. True many illlegitimate people have married and probably made a success of their union but it all depends on their upbringing.

Ayesha has had to be a mother, father and a daughter all at the same time which has made her one very confused human being. And since Milind's the only one she's ever been close to (and I'm sure she won't consider marriage with anyone else other than Milind....Neev's just an interim arrangement), she's going hold on to him for dear life. She will be the best wife that she can be....in her mind.

I think she does love Milind in her own bizarre way. By marrying Prachi, Milind made her realize that. People do say you'll never know what you have till it's gone. Btw glad it's not the case with Prachi. Ahem.

So anyway marriage means nothing to her because in a way she's similar with Milind (don't kill me), her feelings go first. So I actually think that she would very much 'respect' her marriage with Milind not because the institution itself but because of Milind and her love for him. *wipes tomatoes off face*