Love the way Anurag loves Prerna😍[DT Note Page 17] - Page 11

Originally posted by: .amigos.

Bold - What an interesting opinion to have come out in this debate. And a popular one. Firstly, your hypothesis about how many men/women/people slap and walk away as if it's something to be proud of is wrong. In a lot of cases of domestic violence the partner is actually a pretty normal guy. People aren't evil. And the reason the partner commits the violence, is ALWAYS, the fact that he loses control. (I'm focusing on the men right now). Most people don't deliberately hit their partners. They do it because they lose control. And then most of them go ahead and apologize. However, a thing to ponder here is this: if it were another person. Someone more powerful, would Anurag have lost control like that? Hitting someone weaker than you is easy. Would he have lost it the same way if it were for someone else?

And it's a pattern emerging with him here. He slapped a drunk, inebriated Komolika who was at her most defenseless and weakest when he hit her. That time, too, he lost control. This time as well he's lost control.

It is funny how one emotionally charged slap of Anurag Basu has made him a physical abuser or a person imparting domestic violence 😂

I have nothing more to say.

About slapping a more powerful person, anurag has slapped hosho awaaz wali komolika, Naveen babu, Ronit and I hope time comes when he slaps bajaj for the cheap tricks he played.

I m against slapping in real life but I m sensible enough to understand that slapfest is a very common thing ITV n it is added only to create more drama, so I don't wish to apply my brains where I know it's no use.

Originally posted by: IFLove

Go watch the scene, u'll be enlightened. Just keep Ur "I m against physical abuse" ideas on hold

It was in the flow of emotions. If he intended to slap her, his hands wouldn't shake later, he wouldn't try to caress her cheeks, he would walk away with a swag holding his head high. U do end up doing certain things unintentionally out of Ur extreme emotions but if u realise u mistook the very next moment itself, I believe it's unintentional.

Ah, I can't. Of course, I am against physical abuse. I didn't appreciate when Prerna slapped Anurag either.

You can't do anything in the name of the flow of emotions and justify it. The abusive lovers are lovers whose love is toxic. They do love their partners but their insecurities are so heightened that they end up hurting their partners in the flow of emotions. Rape also does happen in the flow of emotions in some cases. I am putting this up in general for the flow of emotions but you used and not regards to these two.

Honestly, I saw no regret on his face. So I believe it wasn't shot well or perhaps, it was how he was supposed to portray. Had I seen the guilt on his face for raising a hand on her which he did not have a right of, I would have been considerate. I would have but I can't because I can't see it.

Having seen physical abuse and domestic violence cases closely in life, I am never going to appreciate any sort of abuse. Not even a slap. That doesn't come under my morals. However you are entitled to have your opinion, so do I which I have put up and I won't visit again to repeat it unnecessarily. :)

Originally posted by: nailah_AnuPre

Actually u r right.. I dont remember the last time a ML slapped a FL..

Kasautii has crossed all their limits when it comes to slap..

and this is the 3rd time a man has slapped Prerna..

Naveen

Ronit

And now The Great Anurag Sankari Basu..

shame on the writer to promote such disgusting act..

@ najma n nailah, please add to the list when a woman has slapped a man or woman or a man has slapped a man too. Or else people will call me out for calling u all feminists. Let's make it clear if it's against a slap or against a man slapping a woman.

Moreover, let's make it clear if we have anything more to discuss or we have to forever stick to that goddamn slap only

Anurag is devta🤫🤫🤫

Originally posted by: IFLove

It is funny how one emotionally charged slap of Anurag Basu has made him a physical abuser or a person imparting domestic violence 😂

I have nothing more to say.

About slapping a more powerful person, anurag has slapped hosho awaaz wali komolika, Naveen babu, Ronit and I hope time comes when he slaps bajaj for the cheap tricks he played.

I m against slapping in real life but I m sensible enough to understand that slapfest is a very common thing ITV n it is added only to create more drama, so I don't wish to apply my brains where I know it's no use.

As far as Anurag's slapfest ki katha is involved, why those examples are moot here shouldn't even need explaining.

As far as taking sides and vilifying characters is concerned, I never entered the debate for that point. Idc who supports whom.

Originally posted by: arshi_asya

Here comes a powet dynamic at play that hasn't been paid attention. The real person is revealed in anger.

Last time he lashed at Nivi when she questioned him about business in crisis & why she was not informed & Anu retorted that what special can you do that I couldn't with all information at hand & why not take charge now & show me. That was a clear sign of a man who couldn't take his own failures being thrown at him.

I suppose u have started watching the show only after bajaj entered. Had u watched since beginning, u would have known what real Anurag is like n why he reacted like that when nivi questioned him. Can u imagine the mental stress one can be going through handling all the mess at business n the family drama together? People do get frustrated n frustration does come out at a point of time like this. Anurag is not a mature experienced man who can tackle all the problems easily. He is still a newbie n is learning. We had always ranted back then that he should have discussed this with nivi who has better experience than him. But that doesn't mean the way he reacted was because nivi showed him his failure. It was his frustration. N I accept that Anurag n prerna fall weak at crucial times, it's ok, it humane, we all fall weak.

Originally posted by: arshi_asya

That's what this track is doing, highlighting & establishing things that were ignored before & the kind of relationship this is.

The slap & Prerna's smile after that were both deeply problematic actions on part of each character.

When we say Anurag should understand that there must have been some majboori because he did the same thing at the time of komolika, we must also understand that it is the same thing that makes prerna understand Anurag. Prerna knows how anurag's betrayal had hurt her, how she had slapped him too...so she understands anurag's every behaviour right now including his slap. That's y she doesn't give it back to him but only cries or smiles.

Originally posted by: IFLove

I suppose u have started watching the show only after bajaj entered. Had u watched since beginning, u would have known what real Anurag is like n why he reacted like that when nivi questioned him. Can u imagine the mental stress one can be going through handling all the mess at business n the family drama together? People do get frustrated n frustration does come out at a point of time like this. Anurag is not a mature experienced man who can tackle all the problems easily. He is still a newbie n is learning. We had always ranted back then that he should have discussed this with nivi who has better experience than him. But that doesn't mean the way he reacted was because nivi showed him his failure. It was his frustration. N I accept that Anurag n prerna fall weak at crucial times, it's ok, it humane, we all fall weak.

Anger or frustration is not a failure but a flaw. Anurag was always flawed but was raised to the high bar. It's now the flaws are coming to fore & that brings him to grey area. His exact dialogues were that why not you handle it now & I want to see what could you have done when I could do nothing till now? I have said these words in reality & I admit they come from my wounded ego, when someone throws my incompetence on my face. That exact situation & reaction to it brings my narcissism to fore which I admit is a toxic thing to have, especially in a relationship.

I am not of a kind who thinks that perfect, white characters will never err. I know for a fact that they will err & their err will make much more noise than anything else.

Originally posted by: najma123

Like someone posted she seems to like BDSM

Yeah. This explains her donating her body without a thought to Anurag. Whipping someone is worse than slapping but if someone agrees to be whipped, we are no one to object. If Prerna had expressed shock over abusive nature of a man she loves and thinks he loves her with a little provocation, then I would have blamed Anurag.

I see hypocrisy galore in this thread by AnuPre fans.

1. Why are we stuck at the slap ?? Its not the first time he's raised hand on a female. It's a problematic trait in him and let's just not defend it , can we ?? If being under duress is any excuse , let alone valid reason for hitting a woman ,then most of the physical violence and other types of violence or crimes against women will fall under that category. We couldn't be bothered with manspain.

It doesn't matter whether Prerna was "asking " for it .😑 She's a sucker for punishment. But showing such a scene has disturbing consequences. You can not show disgusting scenes like that and expect us not to say anything.

2. It's a common thing to show slaps in ITV. No. Nope. Nada. Nowadays, showing a man slapping a woman is everywhere looked down upon and criticized in every show. Moreover, its becoming rarer and rarer. Nowadays, it's more commonly punching the wall behind the female but not hitting her , which is problematic too but not as bad as slapping her.

Plus , if this very " common" thing had been shown to be done by Bajaj, as if the hypocrite wouldn't have chewed him alive. Then no body would've said it's a common trope , so Jane do.

Last but not the least , going by that same idiotic logic , even force or blackmail marriages are also extremely extremely common trope of ITV. Some of the most iconic itv pairs have been shown doing it e.g. Arshi, Shivika etc. Male leads have been duly redeemed and no body called them villains for that one action. They're called monster avatars , basically a temporary phase and every one still still rooted for that pair. They were never considered unfit for female lead's love and devotion. And their every single nice gesture or good acts not nullified based on that one action.