Originally posted by: lonely14
***Disclaimer*** This is not meant to insult anyone but it's just my point of view, and the way i see things. People who want to take it personally please don't read. I never take what you say seriously! I mean its you! (Just kidding!) But don't worry I won't take it personally, I already know you love Pia.... I disagree with it... but I won't let that get in the way! We are all allowed to have our own personal opinions and beliefs!
"Nothing is easier than to denounce the evildoer; nothing is more difficult than to understand him." --------- Fyodor Dostoevsky Deep, I feel like I am in Lit class, analyzing different authors, its a saturday, and early in the morning (10 is too early on a saturday! 😉) So, I won't analyze it now (I am sure you analyzed it...)
As Dostoevsky said, it's easier to denounce the evildoer than to understand him. No matter how evil the person is, there is always a reason behind. Whether we like it or not, evil doesn't prevail without a cause, and usually the cause is created by "good."Ah, see I told you, you would analyze it 😉. I totally agree with most of what you said in this part. Of course there is a reason behind everything that a person does, Pia probably has a reason too... but the reason is not the "good" in other words Bani... it is her own selfishness.
With that said, let's proceed to my point of this post. I am not saying that whatever Pia did was OK but all I am saying is that her stand is sorta understandable. Sure why not? I mean everyone's actions are understandable (I don't have to agree with them though)
Yes Pia has done a LOT of mean things but why did she do them? Pia wasn't always like this. Even though it's hard for us to imagine she did love her sisters, she is one of the characters that ekta has destroyed completely. Pia always cared about her sisters, the only difference is while caring for them she cares about herself too, why is it so bad? It's not bad that she cares about herself as well, its good. People need to have a certain level of selfishness otherwise they are living someone else's life, not their own. But there has to be a limit to this selfishness, if it hurts a lot of other people in the process, then that is probably not the best thing in the world!
I don't know about ALL of you, but some of us want bani to think about herself, and at the same time care about her sisters, isn't that what pia is doing?(I mean she took it overboard yes, but more or less that's what she is doing) Yes, I am one of those people that wants Bani to think about herself too (but realize that we all want that because Bani has been caring about others too much) It is exactly the other way around Pia has been caring about herself too much and now we want her to care about others!
Remember when MT gave us the news that bani might have to choose b/w Jai or Pia, we always wanted bani to chose Jai and at that time we didn't even know that pia would as much as drug jai into doing all this, yes we expected something bad from her but not this bad, yet we wanted Bani to chose Jai. And now that Pia has done that, chose Jai over her sister, why is it so bad? Because Jai is Bani's husband, because Jai loves Bani, because Bani honestly loves Jai. A woman that has to drug a man into liking her... well there is no future in that. And Bani's choice isn't that hard, picking between a mean witch of a sister or a true love...
More importantly pia knowing about Jai and Bani's relationship, at the time when pia was going through her "confused" state was when the divorce/alimony fiasco happened, what was she to think at that time? All she knew was bani wanted to go far far away from jai to never return, so what was she to do? Jai was going to be a single man soon, so what's so hard about liking or even caring for a man who is single? Her marriage was going to break for sure. Okay, there is one rule that every woman should follow: never go out with your best friend's ex-boyfriend or in this case a sister's ex-husband (even though he wasn't an "ex") Pia yelled at Jai once upon a time for "drugging" Bani and making her pregnant... what the hell has she done?! 😡
I mean who would want to live with a family where the bhabhi is always taunting you for everything, your husband won't do anything unless his mother tells him to. It wasn't only pia's fault that the marriage broke it was all their faults. Instead of being rude to her they could've handled everything maturely. Yes pia didn't know how to be a homemaker, but she could've learned if she was given a chance. Even before she stepped in pushkar's house seema bhabhi started taunting her, do you really think after those taunts she would just be quiet? Why expect pia to understand others and not to understand pia? Even pushkar never left a chance to insult her, is that what a husband is supposed to be, especially when the wife is going through so much(leaving her sisters, and more importantly living with the guilt that her di was facing the wrath of someone)? If pushkar could understand bani, why didn't he understand Pia? Why did he, whenever he got a chance just insult her? I agree he somewhat tried to give them a better life, but did he really? So her marriage was going to break eventually. Okay, Pia's marriage wasn't a piece of cake, but marriage is a journey with a lot of bumps and ups and downs, if Pia wasn't ready to take on such responsibility then she should not have run away. If she wanted a easy life with money and nothing to worry about then she should just have married Jai (she would have ruined his life!) Pushkar tried to change their lives, at times he even faught with his family! And he moved out and tried to give her what she wanted, but she was never satisfied!
There is no explanation whatsoever for the ONS so I am not even going to bother, especially now that we know that she drugged him. But I still believe that she did it when she was sure that bani had left him. Doesn't matter when she did it, she should have just known that going for your jeeju is off limits! 🤢
The behavior post ONS, she genuinely tried to move away from JB. She even tried to resign from her job, to be stopped by the couple, she tried to maintain her distance but well bani(unintentionally of course) always somehow pushed pia towards Mr. Walia. The thing that hurt her the most, the dreams she had for herself her sister was living them, every human being(who is not Mahan) would feel jealous when that's the case. Living someone else live your dream, while the other doesn't even care about it, that hurts. Her trying to move away from JB... BULL CRAP! Even if she had tried to move away, she wouldn't have stayed far for too long, she would come back! In the end, we were shown that she was trying to get away from JB but of course it was all part of a plan (predictable!) Who would want their sister to learn the truth in such a traumatizing manner!
I'll give you my dad's example, he wanted to be a doctor, but he couldn't due to some circumstances, he had everything to be a doctor, and now he sees some people studying medicine but slacking off, and well not caring. He doesn't feel jealous, but it hurts to see when people are given a chance they don't use it. If my dad could, he would willingly take that students place who doesn't care about it. (I know not a very good example but hey that's the closest one I could find). Your dad's emotions are totally understandable and I would probably feel the same way too! He has seen people slack off and he could have done better. But if taken into perspective with JB, how was Bani's love lacking anything that Pia felt she could fulfill? If it is refering to being pregnant (which I am sure she is not!) then within sometime Bani would be pregnant too!
That's exactly what Pia must've felt, she wanted all those things but she couldn't get. She tried to forget about Jai(yes she did in the beginning) BULL (Sry), but well circumstances(ahem bani) didn't let her. She lost all her self control when she found out she was pregnant(which I still doubt, but nonetheless), I mean she took that as an opportunity to get her love. Her way might have been wrong, but the intention behind it, even though she was way off in thinking that bani would go with pushkar, but well that's what she thought. Bani could live happily with pushkar while she can have all she wanted(yes money). Bani doesn't want Pushkar and after the ONS happened and Pia found out how much Bani loved Jai, and how much Jai loved Bani, then why couldn't she just leave them alone rather then being the third wheel that no one wanted!
Going with, we still don't know who's baby it is (even though I refuse to believe it's my baby's), but thinking from the show's perspective, why wouldn't she want her child to have his/her REAL father's name? Why wouldn't she want her child to live a life with luxury instead of a life filled with difficulties with pushkar? Especially when the real father loves kids, and his wife can't(for now, but Krishna is on his/her way) give him a baby? Of course, its not your baby's perspective. if she wanted to name her baby after the father's name then go to Pushkar! A child that grows up with difficulties is rather more mature then a child that is born up spoiled! If her main concern through all this was her child, she shouldn't have been drinking, or dancing, or planning fake attacks, but rather taking care of herself! When does she go to the doctor??!?
I am not saying Pia is GOOD, I am just saying that there is a reason behind it. Bash all you want, but do understand her. You can still hate a person and understand them. Again it's easy to say evil is bad, but it's hard to understand why it's bad? I understand the fact that she is a woman's whose jealousy has taken her too far, but I still don't understand how anyone can be so jealous as to go to this extent!
Whatever Pia did was definitely not the best thing, but she did what she had to. She needed to make a choice between her sister and the "father" of her child, and she chose the latter. We cannot expect everyone to be Mahan but we can definitely understand why people are not Mahan right? Fine, she should pick the father of the child but not when it ruin's so many lives! Who will be happy with this outcome? Jai- what a joke, he hates that witch! Bani- yah we can see how happy she is right now! Pia- doesn't she understand that Jai's loves Bani, how will she be happy with him...
I am in no way saying start loving pia, because well that's not possible, and I know it. But just try to understand her. She is twisted but why is she twisted? Is she solely responsible for everything, aren't there other reasons behind it too? There are a lot of reasons as to why all this happened! But in the end the person is who is blamed and here Pia is blamed!
Every one makes mistakes, some make graver mistakes than others, but it is up to us to understand the reasoning and move beyond it, instead of holding on to them and hate others(I should follow my own saying sometimes don't you think so?). First, forgive Bani... and then we will talk! Some things are easier said then done.
Last but not the least, Pia is only what she is because of us. Just think about it, if we as viewers hadn't given pia that much importance she wouldn't be in this stage, and def. not make us go through this torture(for some it's JB's separation, for some its bani's condition, and for ME it's my baby's pain). I would rather watch more jiya dhadhaks (or Jai hating Bani) then this!
I am seriously going to shut up now, because well I have written too much. I doubt anyone would read this, but oh well had to get it out of my system. Well, I read it! And it did take sometime that I should have been using to do my truckloads of homework! but oh well its better to do this then to do calculus!
Take care, U too, meanie!
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