FF:AT FIRST GLANCE- The End on pg 88 - Page 65

Originally posted by: pooja.walia

intehaa ho gayi...intezaar ki....
aayi na kuch khabar ...update ki....
ye mujhe hai yakeen.... update hai yahi kahin...
phir wajah kya hui....intezaar ki....

😆 😆 😆
ok so i sang to u....ab toh update karo.... 😊

😆hain hain........ yeh kaun aa gaya ........... kya baat hai poo, aaj lagata hain college main koi mil gaya ......... issi liye gana bajana ......... am impressed sweety, aise hi update mangti rahogi toh inkar nahin kar paoongi 👏

Originally posted by: lonely14

who have enemies??? yaar mujhe batao, i'll see them and...

You betta not disappear, warna.......

arre sweety, list itni lambi hain, tum kiss kiss ko dekhogi 😭 .... i will not disappear, but will not reappear too 😆

Originally posted by: sabsj

arre sweety, list itni lambi hain, tum kiss kiss ko dekhogi 😭 .... i will not disappear, but will not reappear too 😆

Ek baar batakar toh dekho, tumhare liye duniye se lad jayenge(trust me i'll enjoy every bit of it).

You betta stay, no disappearing or reappearing okay you are not moving. 😆

Originally posted by: lonely14

Ek baar batakar toh dekho, tumhare liye duniye se lad jayenge(trust me i'll enjoy every bit of it).

You betta stay, no disappearing or reappearing okay you are not moving. 😆

oy MOTW, congrats sweety, i told u didn't i and so did don uncle, that i can never be wrong ........... am gonna enjoy my cookies now while watching u get grilled ..... yuuuuuuummmmmmmmm, the chocolate chip ones are out of this world and so are the mint ones ..............

ok now for the list .......... nahin jaanu, right now u save all ur energy for the grilling session .............. till then don uncle is gonna look into the matter for me ........... 😆 just in case he cannot manage, i will let u know

This small update is dedicated to my friend Shina who is the MOTW for this week ...... congratulations sweety and hope u have a great time!

Chapter 19

Jai returned moments later with pens and paper in hand. There was a serious expression on his face when he handed her a sheet of paper and a pen and kept the same for himself.

"I want us to write down all the things we feel went wrong with our marriage, being honest to include everything. And then we'll discuss them" said Jai in a very serious tone.

Bani looked down at the pen and paper and then back at Jai and asked him "You want me to write them down?"

"Yes, and I'll do the same" he suggested.

Bani nodded and watched as he began writing on his paper, wondering what he was jotting down. She leaned back and sighed, wondering if she could air their dirty laundry on paper, but it seemed he had no such qualms. Most couples sought the helpful guidance of marriage counselors when they found themselves in similar situations, but she hadn't given them that chance. But at this point, she would do anything to save her marriage, anything to be with this man who can never be an ex in her life, only her present and her future.

"God, grant me the Senility to forget the people I never liked anyway, the good fortune to hold onto the ones I do, and the eyesight and ability to tell the difference"

So Bani began writing, being honest with herself and with Jai.

Jai finished writing and glanced over at Bani. She was still at it and had a serious expression on her face. Jai studied the contours of her face and his gaze dropped to her neck, and he noticed the thin gold chain. She was still wearing the heart pendant he'd given her as a wedding gift.

Deep down, Jai believed this little assignment was what they needed as the first step in repairing what had gone wrong in their marriage. Having things written down would make it easier to stay focused and not go off on a tangent. And it made one less likely to give in to the power of the mind, the wills and emotions. He wanted them to concentrate on those destructive elements and forces that had eroded away at what should have been a rock solid strong relationship.

Bani glanced up and met his gaze as she put the pen aside. She gave him a wry smile. "Okay, that's it" she said.

Jai reached out and took her hand in his, tightening his hold on it when he saw a look of uncertainty on her face. "All right, what do you have?" he asked her gently.

Bani gave him a sheepish grimace and said "How about you going first."

Jai gently squeezed her hand and suggested "How about if we go together? I'll start off and then we'll alternate."

Bani nodded and asked "What if we have the same ones?"

"That will be okay. We'll talk about all of them" assured Jai. He picked up his piece of paper and said "First on my list is communication."

Bani smiled ruefully. "It's first on mine, too. And I agree that we need to talk more, without arguing, not that you argued. I think you would hold stuff in when I made you upset instead of getting it out and speaking your mind."

Jai stared at her for a moment, then a smile touched his lips. "You're right, you know. I always had to plug in the last word and I did it because I knew it would piss you off."

"Well, stop doing it" she said and punched him lightly on his shoulder.

Jai grinned and said "Okay. The next time I'll hang around for us to talk through things. But then you're going to have to make sure that you're available when we need to talk. You can't let anything, not even your job, get in the way of us communicating."

"Okay, I agree" said Bani.

"Now what's next on your list?" Jai asked.

Bani looked up at him and smiled and said "Patience. I know you said that I don't have patience, but neither do you. But you used to, more than me actually."

Jai shook his head. "Yeah, I lost my patience when you did. I thought to myself, why should I be patient with you when you weren't doing the same with me? Sometimes I think you thought I enjoyed knowing you had a bad day or didn't make a sale, and that wasn't it at all. At some point what was suddenly important to you wasn't important to me, anymore."

"And because of it, we both became detached" Bani said softly.

"Yes, we did." Jai reached out and lifted her chin. "I promise to do a better job of being patient, Bani."

"So will I, Jai" promised Bani.

They alternated, going down the list. They had a number of the same things on both lists and they discussed everything in detail, acknowledging their faults and what they could have done to make things better. The also discussed what they would do in the future to strengthen their marriage.

"That's all I have on my list" Jai said a while later. "Do you have anything else?"

Bani's finger glided over her list. For a short while she thought about pretending she didn't have anything else, but they had agreed to be completely honest. They had definitely done so when they had discussed her spending more time at work than at home.

"So what's the last thing on your list, Bani? What do you see as one of the things that went wrong with our marriage?" asked Jai.

Bani lifted her chin and met his gaze and said, "My inability to stand up to your parents."

Jai looked at her with deep dark eyes. "Okay, then. Let's talk about that."

"Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too."

Humour for the day

At the dinner table

One night at the dinner table, the wife commented, "When we were first married, you took the small piece of steak and gave me the larger. Now you take the large one and leave me the smaller; You don't love me any more..."

"Nonsense, darling," replied the husband, "you just cook better now."

How to talk to your spouse?

DANGEROUS: What's for dinner?
SAFER: Can I help you with dinner?
SAFEST: Where would you like to go for dinner?

DANGEROUS: Are you wearing THAT?
SAFER: Gee, you look good in brown.
SAFEST: Wow! Look at you!

DANGEROUS: What are you so worked up about?
SAFER: Could we be over reacting?
SAFEST: I'm with you, honey, those guys are the scum of the earth.

DANGEROUS: Should you be eating that?
SAFER: You know, there are a lot of vegetables left.
SAFEST: Can I get you a glass of wine with that?

DANGEROUS: What did you DO all day?
SAFER: I hope you didn't overdo it today.
SAFEST: I've always loved you in that bathrobe.

Awww thanks saby!!!!!!!! As for the MOTW, it's good for now. hehe.

I loved the update!!!!!!!!

My baby is so smart. Bani needs to learn from him.

Talking things out is always good, and i am glad My baby decided to take the first step.

haha he likes to have the last word, well so do i, so it's all good. 😳

And bani for the first time, i didn't mind your existence, you should feel special. lol. 😆

haha loved the humor of day. hehe i don't think there is any safest way to talk to a wife saby, women always find ways to get into arguments for the aftermath of it(only sensible women do it right😉).

Can't wait for the next part!!!!!!!!

can i please get my cookies now??? 😳

Shina😳

Me first today Saby. Nope I missed it to Shina 😭😭😭 Well ok, I guess

What a part 👏 👏 👏 Great.

Rarely we have JnB sitting down together to discuss their problems and issues. This is teh way how things should be, even in the serial, but they are so off hook now.

Loved the fact that they wrote down the points of dissension. At least that got them thinking. And yes, writing does help.

Thanks for a great read and DO UPDATE SOON, I am coming after you with a danda now ... 😆 😆 😆

Originally posted by: sabsj

oy MOTW, congrats sweety, i told u didn't i and so did don uncle, that i can never be wrong ........... am gonna enjoy my cookies now while watching u get grilled ..... yuuuuuuummmmmmmmm, the chocolate chip ones are out of this world and so are the mint ones ..............

ok now for the list .......... nahin jaanu, right now u save all ur energy for the grilling session .............. till then don uncle is gonna look into the matter for me ........... 😆 just in case he cannot manage, i will let u know

hehe thanks!!!!! but i still want cookies😭

haha yaar i can handle a million things at once, since multi tasking is my speciality it. lol. Make sure your don uncle doesn't go overboard😆

Saby 👏 👏
hehe this paper thing...i had to do till i was 10...this was the only thing my grandma thought would work for me...anger management problems you see...time out with a paper and pencil and i had to write out my faults and my bros/or person involved faults...stirred up some funny memories at the right time i must add!
U HAVE A GIFT! 👏

awesome part
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