How Can I Not LOve You?

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Posted: 19 years ago
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Cannot touch, Cannot hold, Cannot be together

Cannot love, Cannot kiss, Cannot love each other

Must be strong and we must let go

Cannot say what our hearts must know

How can I not love you

What do I tell my heart

When do I not want you here in my arms

How does one walks away

From all of the memories

How do I not miss you when you are gone

Cannot dream, Cannot share sweet and tender moments

Cannot feel how we feel, Must pretend its over

Must be brave and we must go on, Must not say

What we've known all along

How can I not love you

What do I tell my heart

When do I not want you here in my arms

How does one walks away

From all of the memories

How do I not miss you when you are gone

How can I not love you

Must be brave and we must be strong

Cannot say what we've known all along

How can I not love you

What do I tell my heart

When do I not want you here in my arms

How does one walks away

From all of the memories

How do I not miss you when you are gone

How can I not love you

When you are gone …

- Joy Enriquez

So, finally the chink in the armour has started showing and Jai, probably for the first time, is losing his faith on Bani, not faith perhaps, but is regretting their marriage. This is what I didn't want him to do, but alas! If wishes were horses! I pray to God that let me be more than 100% wrong, I won't mind being wrong this time.

And Bani, good Lord, She is in a Zugzwang situation. Zugzwang refers to a particular type of move in chess where a participant makes a wrong move so that the play tilts in favour of the other player – and this is exactly what Bani has done today. She killed all her chances of ever being with Jai and the most heart-rending fact is that she knows it like a T. As I have mentioned before, it would have been the easiest way for her to rush into her husband's arms and make him lose anything. This is a serial and we are definitely not looking for real-life logic over here. We have to take it for granted that there is no other way for Jai to save his property and life until and unless he gives a divorce to Bani along with other compensations, alimony and other stuff. Because if we believe in Bani, it means that Jai is definitely in trouble. We may not agree with Bani's method, but we surely do agree with her intentions. And she is just trying to help him out though she very well knows what the future holds for them. It is also sob-wracking that at this precious moment of life, when she is to become a mother, she cannot share her joys and feelings with Jai.

Have thought many times why do we feel like this for JnB? Why is it that this relationship is so important for us? Simply because in a cruel, mechanized world, where the meaning of love is more or less chained to the bars, we have had a chance to see the blossoming of pure, innocent, unadulterated love – a love whose basis is not founded on any scheming machinations but has been the result of a continuous, gradual budding process. We simply cannot bear to see this relationship die – so many things have been lost in the struggle for existence that now we do not want this unsullied love to lose, whatever may come in the path.

Jai is caught in a Catch-22 situation, neither can he stay with his wife nor can he stay away from her. I am so sad for him. Today the woman he loves more than his own life has snubbed him badly. Today, he got the worst shock in his life when he asks Bani to accompany him to his mother's barsi the next day, only to be told by her that going to his mother's barsi would be an insult to her mother's death, in which Jai had a hand. Jai's eyes steels on hearing this and for the first time he brings up his childhood issues, stating that the loss of his mother at an early age had also played havoc with his life and he had to grow up much earlier than it was intended to be. He tells Bani that he asked her to accompany him since he thought that whatever the reason may be for a person's death, the hurt that death associates with for the close ones who are left behind after their departure is always the same. A very beautiful dialogue with a lot of loaded meanings. And then comes the part we have been dreading for so long – Jai actually tells Bani that all these days he had always acquiesced to what she did, never hating her and allowing her to act according to her wishes, but today what she said had actually hurt him badly. Probably this was the first time he regretted that Bani was his wife. All the air whooshed out of my lungs when he said that. I know he is badly hurt (I would be if I was in his place) but I think this has more to do with the stupid idea of inserting unwanted relationship tussles in the serial and turning Bani into a confirmed moron.

The truth is that Bani knows very well that Jai doesn't buy that idea at all that she hates him, which at this moment is suicidal for the divorce to go through. So she has taken resort to the other way, that of going to such an extreme that would make it easier for Jai to hate her. Possibly, this would also allow her to get her divorce soon so that the entire matter maybe solved soon. She's still thinking about him all the while, and this is the irony of the situation.

Jigs has become the Official Vamp of the Walia House since Roshni is missing from the scene. It appears that there is another house that belongs to Jai and Jigs, their mother's house, and the funniest part is that Baani also knows about the house. Bani has been visiting the house regularly for quite some time, as Bani's driver informs Jigyaasa. Jigs is curiosity personified and she tries desperately to see the files that the driver has left behind for Bani in the hall. She manages to see them and finds them to be files containing papers of their old house, along with floor plans etc. She goes directly to Mausi and tells her of Bani's plan to include that house also in the divorce claims and if that happens, Jai will actually be left with nothing. He will come down to the streets and that Bani was doing all these to take revenge on Jai for destroying their Mt. Abu home. Some more play-acting by Jigs and Mausi is convinced of Bani's incongruous behaviour and promises Jigs that whatever happens, she will not let Bani take over that house. Jigs is of course elated.

After Jai's and Bani's fiasco at night, it is shown that all family members are getting ready to leave for the old house where the puja will be held. Aditya asks Rano about Bani who tells him that she is not in the house since morning. Meanwhile, Jai coming down from the stairs, tells the members that if Bani wants, she can join them all later in the house. Everybody is surprised.

Bani is already in that old house offering flowers to Jai's deceased mother. She begs for her forgiveness and rues her chance of not meeting her and says that she believes that Jai's mom must have been a very good person, because God always tends to take away those people who are dearer to him. She also requests her to ensure that Jai receives all the happiness in the world always, and once when she has gone away with her child to some far-flung place, probably he would come to know the real reason and forgive her. She receives a call on her mobile. The speaker on the other end says something and Bani is stumped.

Initially there was a scene where Pia visits Pushkar to enquire as to what Bani was doing at the Office so late at night? She says that she couldn't ask Bani who was still not talking to her (is it so? I thought they already had that bonding session the previous day) and she needed to know the truth. Pushkar snubs her pretty badly stating that he is happy to see that the girl who doesn't care about her child and her husband, is concerned about her sister. He goes on to say that everything was a big mistake and that there is no place for a selfish girl like her in his life. I liked what he said immensely but I am afraid of the repercussions actually.

Everybody was good today though I seriously hope that this character assassinations would stop. I know that meri pitayi hone wali hai, but I am sad that Jai's feelings and emotions has started altering so early. I know what Bani said was not correct and no hot-blooded male would digest any comment about their mother, but wasn't he who said that he can read Bani's eyes and find out that she is helplessly trying to hide the truth? The creatives are again playing hell with the character because they want a change in the future script and intend to throw J-P together. I believe that RK was passing the correct info to us, but somehow I don't believe the Ektas.


Question : What do you think will happen after this? Will Jai start hating Bani or will he try unsuccessfully to hate her? And what do you think will be the impact on Jai when he comes to know about the truth?



The Armageddon is right under our nose, dears 😡

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sangitadas thumbnail
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Originally posted by: sirigina

wow - wow - u did a gr8 job dear - I know it aint easy being the wronged one always and making it so by yourself is the toughest call Bani could ever take

rgds,
Sarah



Thansk Sarah, i know what you mean, it really aint easy for Bani to hurt Jai like this.
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Wow that was an amazing piece of writing. Well i am trying very hard to sympathisize with Bani but just doesn't come out. Whatever she said to Jai today was over the limit. He was so hurt. 😭

I do not think that Jai will ever hate Bani, i think from now on he will just ignore her and let her do whatever and not have any thing to do with her. He won't even attempt talking to her.

When the truth comes out he will be devastated but somewhere he will be happy that he trusted Bani and knew that she would never do anything wrong.
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Posted: 19 years ago
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WOW wonderful analysis Sangita and again another wonderful song to fit the situation.

In today's episode when Jai walked down the stairs the old music was back which suggests that he is going to go back to his earlier self and be cold and angry towards Bani. About hating her deep down when he is with himself I am not so sure. But Bani's words have for the time being definitely killed something inside him.

As you rightly said - the Armageddon is right under are noses.

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Posted: 19 years ago
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humei tum se pyaar kitanaa, ye hum naheen jaanate
magar jee naheen sakate, tumhaare beenaa

sunaa gam judaee kaa, uthhaate hain log
jaane jindagee kaise, bitaate hain log
din bhee yahaa to lage, baras ke samaan
humei intajaar kitanaa, ye hum naheen jaanate
magar jee naheen sakate, tumhaare beenaa

tumhe koee aaur dekhe, to jalataa hain dil
badee mushkilon se fir, sanbhalataa hain dil
kyaa, kyaa jatan karate hai, tumhe kyaa pataa
ye dil bekaraar kitanaa, ye hum naheen jaanate
magar jee naheen sakate, tumhaare beena,

better still,

too is tarah se meree jindagee mein shaamil hain
jahaan bhee jaaoo ye lagataa hain teree mahafil hain

ye aasamaan ye baadal ye raasate ye hawaa
har yek cheej hain apanee jagah thhikaane se
kaee dinon se shikaayat naheen jamaane se
ye jindagee hain safar, too safar kee manjil hain

har yek fool kisee yaad saa mahakataa hai
tere khayaal se jaagee huyee fijaayen hain
ye sabj ped hain, yaa pyaar kee duwaayen hain
too paas ho ke naheen fir bhee too mukabil hain

har yek shay hain mohabbat ke noor se roshan
ye roshanee jo naa ho, jindagee adhooree hain
raah-ye-wafaa mein, koee humasafar jaruree hain
ye raastaa kahee tanahaa kate to mushkil hain

when you love someone so much,
you cannot see anything else beyond that,
and that is the case with Jai and Bani.
no matter how hard Bani tries,
Jai will still find a reason to love her.

Pinks
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Originally posted by: pinkypaul



humei tum se pyaar kitanaa, ye hum naheen jaanate
magar jee naheen sakate, tumhaare beenaa

sunaa gam judaee kaa, uthhaate hain log
jaane jindagee kaise, bitaate hain log
din bhee yahaa to lage, baras ke samaan
humei intajaar kitanaa, ye hum naheen jaanate
magar jee naheen sakate, tumhaare beenaa

tumhe koee aaur dekhe, to jalataa hain dil
badee mushkilon se fir, sanbhalataa hain dil
kyaa, kyaa jatan karate hai, tumhe kyaa pataa
ye dil bekaraar kitanaa, ye hum naheen jaanate
magar jee naheen sakate, tumhaare beena,

better still,

too is tarah se meree jindagee mein shaamil hain
jahaan bhee jaaoo ye lagataa hain teree mahafil hain

ye aasamaan ye baadal ye raasate ye hawaa
har yek cheej hain apanee jagah thhikaane se
kaee dinon se shikaayat naheen jamaane se
ye jindagee hain safar, too safar kee manjil hain

har yek fool kisee yaad saa mahakataa hai
tere khayaal se jaagee huyee fijaayen hain
ye sabj ped hain, yaa pyaar kee duwaayen hain
too paas ho ke naheen fir bhee too mukabil hain

har yek shay hain mohabbat ke noor se roshan
ye roshanee jo naa ho, jindagee adhooree hain
raah-ye-wafaa mein, koee humasafar jaruree hain
ye raastaa kahee tanahaa kate to mushkil hain

when you love someone so much,
you cannot see anything else beyond that,
and that is the case with Jai and Bani.
no matter how hard Bani tries,
Jai will still find a reason to love her.

Pinks



Great Pinks for reminding us of these two great songs and implying their resonance in the serial. Thanks a lot buddy.
BTW, the lines in your siggy section are so TRUE. 😛
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Originally posted by: lonely14

Wow that was an amazing piece of writing. Well i am trying very hard to sympathisize with Bani but just doesn't come out. Whatever she said to Jai today was over the limit. He was so hurt. 😭

I do not think that Jai will ever hate Bani, i think from now on he will just ignore her and let her do whatever and not have any thing to do with her. He won't even attempt talking to her.

When the truth comes out he will be devastated but somewhere he will be happy that he trusted Bani and knew that she would never do anything wrong.



I agree Lonely, its so hard to sympathise, but empathise we can, though that will also seem like asking for more.

And i agree at the end, he will feel like he has been struck by a bolt from the blue.
But i will hold onto my Faith.
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Originally posted by: pinky05

WOW wonderful analysis Sangita and again another wonderful song to fit the situation.

In today's episode when Jai walked down the stairs the old music was back which suggests that he is going to go back to his earlier self and be cold and angry towards Bani. About hating her deep down when he is with himself I am not so sure. But Bani's words have for the time being definitely killed something inside him.

As you rightly said - the Armageddon is right under are noses.



I agree Pinky and this si to disturbing , 😭😭😭
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Hey Sangs, gr8 analysis 👏

but Bani i felt too bad for saying that to Jai who inspite of everything that she is doing went and asked her to join him and i was shocked by her reply.

At this moment Jai is very badly hurt than ever by wat he had jus heard frm his Bani and i think he is not gonna care for wat she does and trying to be cold again and avoiding her but undergoing the same stress as Bani does coz he has travelled a long away with her in all aspects of life for the women who lived for his happiness but to hate is too strong a word.
And when he comes to know abt the truth he will be happy that his faith has not betrayed him,Bani will not betray his trust but if he was bad to her (meaning not like beginning)then he surely feel guilty of his action.
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Di you never give me the opportunity to say "Your posts stink"!!!
Awww cannot comment on the episode because I didn't watch it.
Cannot comment on Amma because you won't want me to!
Cannot comment on Munna because I don't want to!
Hai Eesh! I'll just say Di You rock but I haven't given up on my Munna yet. And my love for him will never say die! Hoping next week will have something to cheer us up. Not armageddon yet Di. Or I hope! BTW Di, you seem to be utterly hopeless and dejected. We don't like you this way. Show jaye baad me, you come back!

-Raaga

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