Originally posted by: punjabihypnotic
WHEN did I say that Kajal is intelligent? Anyway, I don't feel bad for Dev. Not one bit. He stood at the studio like an idiot and listened to Kajal say 'I love you'. Obviously as the audience we knew she was saying it to Dev, but he didn't. Seriously, if he loved her so much he would've confronted her right there. He would've wanted to set the record straight in front of the guy he is so jealous about.
Dev heard Kaajjal say 'I love you' and he felt that it is being said to Adi. There are reasons if he didn't confront her right at that point. Firstly he was in total shock. Do you think a person would be calm and cool and go and confront his wife, when he sees her saying that she loves somebody? Psychologically, the first reaction would be shock. He didn't go and confront her immediately because first he wanted to sort it out in his mind...if whether she was saying that to Adi or if he was dreaming.😆 There maybe many men who confront their wives, but Dev was in a mood of total shock and he didn't know what to say or do...and he was totally hurt after he realised that Kaajjal was lieing to him. So in his pain...he just thought to go away from there. Maybe he didn't confront her, because, if he confronted her in front of Adi, both Adi and Kaajjal would be very hurt and he didn't want to hurt both of them. He wanted to first sort it out and that is why at night, he confronted Kaajjal and asked her about if she liked it...if another man fell in love with her. The answer which Dev expected was....'Dev, why did you ask such a thing after knowing that i have loved you so much in life...how can you even doubt me?'....But that is not the response he got from Kaajjal and what she said, hurt him even more. He was serious while asking her that, but she was playful while answering him.
True, I agree that Kajal shouldn't have lied about where she is, but than again there's no fun in giving anyone a surprise when they expect it. The best surprise is when they least expect it. Even if Kajal would've said that she is planning a surprise for him, that still takes away from the fun.
She could've said that she is preparing for a surprise for his birthday, just like he mentioned on their wedding day...that he is planning a surprise gift for Kaajjal. Mentioning about a surprise gift...would create suspense as well as happiness in the mind of the person and he/she would eagerly await to know what gift it is. Kaajjal doesn't need to mention what the gift is...but if she had told him so...atleast he wouldn't have been so much insecure and understood that she was preparing for some surprise gift with Adi.😳 But telling a lie to Dev that she is at Shubha Tai's house and saying the same lie to Panna Chachi and then seeing her with Adi made Dev feel insecure and also he felt that she is hiding her meeting with Adi from him.
As for Kajal, I'm sorry, Dev has hurt her no less. He is always hurting her and then once he realizes it - he remembers that her love for him is true.
Dev has hurt her at some points, but there were reasons if he behaved in that manner. He was rash to her at Mussourie, because that was how he was .....after the death of his first wife 'Paayal'. Then he didn't want to get married and it was Kaajjal who was after him all the while, though he tried to clearly tell her that he didn't love her. Dev always wished to see Kaajjal happy and that is why he tried to make her marry Dhruv, so that she gets a happy married life and also because he wanted her to not become the scape-goat of the mahadasha. Is Dev at fault, if what he did was to save Kaajjal's life, whom he loved within?
After that when he acted as Raju Rangeela, his intentions were clearly to collect proof against Ameesha and Karan and that is why he tried to hide his truth of being Dev from her. But finally he had to say it to her, when he felt that Kaajjal was going away from him..when her marriage was getting fixed to him. Dev then had to prove to Kaajjal that he was Raju Rangeela...and he did it very clearly, but even after giving so many proofs, still she acted foolishly and told NT, that Dev was Raju Rangeela...that indirectly led to NT's death. Now was Dev at fault, if because of Kaajjal he lost his mother? That led to Dev behaving so rudely with Kaajjal and he was not in his senses at that time. But when did Dev knowingly hurt Kaajjal?😳
Why would Kajal need to ask Dev why he keeps asking her all types of questions? How much more clear did she need to make herself. An episode or two ago she revealed to Dev how much she loved him, etc. Now if Dev keeps feeling hurt and keeps feeling that he's betrayed then he needs to tell that to Kajal rather than playing mind games with her. How long has he known her now? For a long time and after all they've been through, they both still can't seem to communicate! Everyone expects Kajal to be a mind reader, but she's not. If Dev keeps having mood swings then he should tell her.
Every husband or wife, who is newly-wed would expect his/her partner to express their love to them, more than through words. It could be through gestures, by spending more time with them, by being excited about going out with them and eagerly awaiting for their return if they are away from home. But he didn't find any of these responses from Kaajjal. Dev keeps asking this again and again because he doesn't know if Kaajjal married him due to compulsion from Adi or due to love. He just want to make sure of it and that makes him ask her if she loves him again and again. Because he is feeling that she is not much concerned about him and that is not how a wife behaves with a husband...that too soon after marriage.😳 So a wife should surely try to find out why her husband is acting oddly otherwise...if both husband and wife are inconsiderate towards each other, then there won't be love or care in the marital relationship.
Kaajjal's words are not matching with her actions. She says that she loves him a lot, but she forgets to express her care for him. Merely saying that you love a person doesn't mean you love the person. The person also has to feel the love and care from your behaviour and attitude...which Dev is not feeling and that is why he is asking again and again, if Kaajjal loves him.
Kaajjal is his wife and he loves her a lot, so he doesn't want to hurt her and break relationship with her, by directly pointing a finger at her. He also fears that perhaps it is just his feeling that Kaajjal is cheating on him...and he wants to confirms it, before he confronts her and that is why he is playing all these mind games. He surely hasn't known her for long. He has spend only very less time with her as a boss...then as a lover and after her marriage...just that first night. So he hasn't got much time to spend with her, even though he loves her a lot and feels that she too loves him.
I don't expect Kaajjal to be a mind-reader, but every wife..specially Indian wives would surely get worried, if they find their husbands behaving rudely. She should confront him about why the change in his behaviour...when it is so evident that he is hurt about something, rather than being naughty and playful with him. Dev is having moodswings and that is why he is asking her again and again to completely clear his mind of the doubt, that is creeping into his mind. He surely did ask her but her reply was in a naughty manner and he did try to tell her that his mind is having strange thoughts but at that time, she had gone to sleep. He even had tears in his eyes, and blamed each time he doubted her. He is a genuine husband, and therefore he expects the same genuinity from his wife and he is a very caring husband and he expects the same attention and care from his wife.
They may be newly-weds, but for the most part Kajal is home by the time Dev comes back from the office. It's not like she's out having an affair. She's out making a suprise video for Dev. Keyword: DEV. He's the person she's thinking of the entire time.
I don't agree that she is at home most of the time...because initially during Adi's case, she was all the time busy with conducting press conferences and all.... and then she was with Adi trying to learn guitar and then shooting video and all. Dev didn't get to spend enough time with her. Marriage is not just about sleeping together, but it is also about sharing time with each other...when both are awake and also discussing their thoughts and feelings...which most married couple do soon after marriage and which Dev never got to do with Kaajjal. She surely is not having an affair with Aditya...Dev knows that she is not having an affair...but he also cannot bear her giving more importance to Aditya and that is what is making him upset. Just because you are physically with your husband at night, doesn't mean you are mentally with him. Dev want to know if her soul is with him..even when her body is with him..😆
Surely Kaajjal loves Dev a lot....we as audience know it...but Dev her husband doesn't know how much she loves him...so we can't blame him, if he is questioning her and because of her attitude he is turning possessive.😆
Why is Kajal wrong when it is Dev that's listening to the enemy and talking to him (Shivansh). If Dev feels betrayed then he needs to do something about it other than getting drunk and acting like a spy.
Kaajjal is wrong because she is not giving enough time to Dev, which a newly married wife should be giving to him. She is spending that time with Aditya, which is making Dev insecure. When Dev is trying to reduce his insecurity, Kaajjal is increasing his insecurity, with her playful behaviour...indifferent answers and lies. Dev doesn't personally have an enemity with Shivansh and he doesn't completely want to trust Shivansh's words, but as a husband he just wanted to make sure, that his wife is totally loving him..just like he is loving her. Dev got drunk, because his mind was in pain and he had to spy on her because he wanted to keep his mind clear..rather than live with a huge doubt in his mind.😳
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