IF synopsis : August 24 2009

Monday, August 24, 2009:

Ganpati celebrations are in full swing in Pankaj's family and Jyoti's maternal family have been invited to her house for the first time. Padma, jyoti mother is surprised to see that jyoti is married to an affluent family. As Jyoti is extremely worried about her sister Sushma she prays for her well being whereas Sushma, on finding out that her parents have gone to Jyoti's place, wishes ill for her.

I hope this festival isn't just consumed by Sushma. And why doesn't Jyoti pray for her in-laws, particularly her dear devar, who's sad at the moment? Don't they deserve her prayers merely because they have never done anything to hurt her (other than a few insensitive remarks by cm)? In fact, I'm liking Jyoti less by the day, as this serial is going on.

I hope that Sudha gets to mingle w/ others in the Vashishth family and get to know them a bit, particularly Uday. I agree w/ you - she may get flashes of her moments as Devika in that house, particularly her not remembering her family, and it may help her get closer to what she's been trying to find out for days. I hope the story takes a major leap w/ her getting together w/ Uday and asking him more about Devika. One idea would be for Uday to be discussing Devika w/ Jyoti & Pankaj, and Sudha joining in on the conversation. Just Sudha, not the whole family.

One more thing - cm's insensitive remarks - so far, she's managed to regularly make them to Jyoti; I hope she makes them to Padma this time, further widening the divide b/w Padma & Jyoti (and in future Padma & Sudha), particularly while Padma is ogling the house and the wealth that she hopes to dig. I'd like her precious 'izzat' pricked a bit more. 😈😈😈 Maybe something like this is the first proper Ganesh festival you've ever been to, or something like that 😆😆😆 Of course, made only to Padma, but not KK or Dadi or Sudha.

I am new on this forum. But I want to share a few thoughts:
-> Why do you guys dislike Padma so much? She's a very human character. She was married off young to her older sister's husband and suddenly, as a new bride, not only did she miss out on the romance of a newly married single guy, she also became a mother of two overnight! Then the pressures for her to have a boy soon, and after her husband's accident, to be able to take care of the household in the best possible way she could. She has fed Jyoti with love, packed hot tiffins for her on her way to work, and has otherwise wished her well. She was really scared of what would happen to the household if Jyoti got married off. No one's perfect!

-> About Jyoti, there have been a lot of comments about her not being fair to her in-laws. As a newly married woman I have had my own adjustment struggles in my new household. Just as CM does not instantly extend her love for Pankaj to this newcomer to the household, remember that Jyoti JUST got married and it will take time for her to develop love for her in-laws. Also remember, in spite of having so many servants and her own saas who doesn't work, she finishes all the housework waking up at 5 AM before going to work. No one has told her "this is too much stress for you, don't do the housework!" They've told her "this is too much stress for you, quit your job!" For an independent minded and self-respecting girl like Jyoti, there is already a LOT of adjustment here. On top of that everyone is expecting that she completely change her personality. Do the housework, don't work, ask her family for money, tell all her problems to her husband, none of the things she has done before. It takes TIME to change guys!
And I don't think it's wrong for her to be so concerned about her own family-sisters, mom and dad. She has pretty much been a mother to them, nursin them, being the bread-winner, she has developed an instinctive concern. She deives a lot of pride and self-respect from the fact that she is the oldest daughter, and a very responsible one at that. If she lets it go, she would change her character from inside, which is not right.

People on this forum, I would really appreciate your thoughts on my analysis above.
Thanks
-mythily