Originally posted by: AreYaar
Thanks, Asmita. Lol it’s sweet that you still have so much emotional attachment even to initial Anirudh 
I understand where you’re coming from but I would still say that for a lot of these points you’re making about courage and conditioning, the writing really never backed them up for it to be effective for Anirudh’s character 🤷♀️
You are interpreting all these burdens that Anirudh apparently felt to manage his toxic family but how much did we even see that in the initial story? Most of the focus was on Ani’s obsession with Jhanak rather than fleshing him out more vis a vis his family interactions. Those were always kept pretty one dimensional as far as I can tell and only got more pointless with time. That is why people can only remember him as a coward now cuz his token rebellions against his family were rendered meaningless with him always returning to the same family and justifying/supporting them again. Then it’s not path of least resistance but cowardice only.
The writing stopped doing him any favors way back. Even the act of him trying to stop Tejas from marrying J in Kolkata was infused with 20 loopholes of AGAR main mandir waali Shaadi ko sach maan loon toh 🤷♀️🤡😂. And very next day reverting to Ofcourse I will still marry Arshi
….no reflection or follow up shown. Bas wohi roz ka schedule jaise yeh sab dikhate the and we were kept hanging with an offhand lingering look exchanged here or there 
Aditya never had it easy with his family either. Ani atleast was the golden boy of his toxic family. Lol Aditya was treated like a stepchild even by his positive family. lol they all behaved like Malini was more their child than Adi and he was constantly pressurized to pacify Malini 
I do admire characters who have convictions and the courage to stick with those convictions. Ani was barely given any convictions to start with and whatever little he had was also eroded by the writing after some time.
And I never said I need a character to have all defined and morally upright traits from the get go. Lol I have nothing against a character growing and learning but where exactly did that manage to happen with Ani ultimately? What did he ever learn? 🤷♀️😂. What point of the story should we stop at to make this assumption to satisfy ourselves?
Kashmir night? Cuz even after coming back from Kashmir also he didn’t seem to have learnt anything and was only reduced to reacting stupidly to Jhanak hurting him and then continuing on with marrying Arshi 🤷♀️😂
There are just PHASES in the story where we were given false hopes of the characters growing. But it was all pointless only. Lol no one grew and no one learnt anything.
I completely agree with you on this thing — the writing never did justice to Anirudh’s potential, especially after a point. That’s actually exactly why I still feel emotionally attached to initial Anirudh.
Because the frustration I feel today is rooted in how much promise he originally had.
For me, Anirudh wasn’t compelling because he was perfect — he was compelling because he was almost someone extraordinary, but the story kept pulling him back right when he was about to grow.
He was not a man of honor like Aditya.
He was not decisive, not fearless.
And that’s exactly why his journey could’ve been legendary.
Because great arcs aren’t built from perfect beginnings — they are built from flawed men who stumble before they stand tall.
Aditya’s arc was about dignity maintained.
Anirudh’s arc — if written properly — was meant to be about dignity earned.
And that’s a rarer, riskier, but potentially far more rewarding story.
Was he weak? Absolutely.
Did he falter again and again? Yes.
Did he disappoint me by not growing? Painfully so.
But the fact that I still care means he had something real inside him.
He wasn’t fearless like Aditya, true — but he was written as someone who wanted to be brave and kept failing at it, and that internal conflict was fascinating.
In the early tracks, whenever his family pressured him, there was a visible silent storm — that struggle to break old conditioning but not knowing how.
Yes, he never completed his rebellions — but the attempts showed that he was capable of evolution, if only the writing had followed through.
Did he actually grow? Not really — and that’s precisely the tragedy.
Most people now dismiss him as a coward because the later writing flattened his arc into a loop of “Main Jhanak se pyar karta hun...and mat jao Arshi...” 😂
But personally, I can’t forget the version of him before the writing derailed him.
The man who stood trembling yet firm against Tejas.
The one who looked at Jhanak with genuine moral conflict instead of mere lust.
The one who wanted to choose the right thing but wasn’t equipped to do it yet.
That version of Anirudh — the one on the cusp of redemption — is who I’m emotionally attached to.
So yes, if someone judges only what he became, I agree — there’s not much left to defend.
But if you remember what he was initially capable of becoming — it still hurts that we never got the fully-realized Anirudh Bose we were promised.
Some characters stay with you not because of their victory, but because of their unfinished arc.
Anirudh Bose — for me — is one of those. 💔
Edited by asmitamohanty - 6 hours ago
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