My comments in line in purple. While I love Ani, I do not support him blindly and chide him considerably as n when he so deserves, so my comments are from a neutral POV.
Also my comment to this particular section in your previous post -
Until he starts thinking straight again and solve the Arshi issue in a more sensible way he's not the Ani I know till now I guess....
You can only try so much, to be sensible, but when dealing with utmost insensible n insentivie people, there is only just so much you can really do! No matter the level of sensibility Ani displays, it wiil bound to fall into deaf ears ! Deewar pe sarr patakne jaisa!
Originally posted by: sowmya2407
@rysohini Thank you for welcoming me π... Its true Ani is the one whom viewers have extreme expectations on! The whole show depends on him frankly.
@Dibya_C I understand Ani's pov and his desperation after near death experience to be with the person he loves the most.
I love that he's taking a stand for himself finally!
It's just that he gave false confidence to Arshi and his parents all this time by not really saying what he truly wants. And I think he needs to take responsibility for it...He has been a man of Results Vs Methods, where Results mattered more than the Methods, always, so far, so he is learning it the hard way! Plus the logistical need to keep Arshi relevant as the 3rd wheel in the story most times via Ani and now via J !
Because we as viewers know Arshi and co don't deserve it but he doesn't know that... Just before heart attack he was thinking that Arshi actually didn't do anything wrong so how can I tell her I love Jhanak...
I know he's not completely wrong but he is somewhat wrong at the same time by making the choice to be with Arshi again and again. It's no mean feat to try n adjust to a loveless adhi marriage, for the sake of family/long term commitment/what J wants and in a bid to try to do the supposedly right n fair thing towards a 6 yr old partner ! He suffered enough in the process , but everything that he did or did not do, did not sprout from a sense of evil or vengence! He was a man of word n commitment, n falling in love with J was never intended or part of the plan, It just so happened organically as both are kind of similar n clicked !
For her behaviour during Heart Attack, he can and should BLAME Arshi because he himself saw how heartless and inhumane she was.
But at the same time, he also needs to reflect on his words/behaviour up until then too. He can't suddenly get a free pass for all his actions till HA because he had near death experience. He has suffered enough and will do so even in the future for his action and in-action. I would agree to his, getting a free passe if he managed to have his cake and eat it too ! There is a fair bit of childhood conditioning at play, where breaking off / separation / divorce for the sole reason that two people are incompatible is unheard of - as mentioned by Dadubhai ! A partner being "sundar" , "guni" and "classy" is reason enough for him/her to be "compatible" and "not able to adjust" means khot and dosh tum mein hai ! That's the conditioning and mindset ! And he accepts "sari galti , sara dosh mera hai" with his whole heart !
I can understand his desperation completely for now. But Leena needs to show him take responsibility, feeling some remorse for putting himself, Jhanak and Arshi through this turmoil in the near future.
Because despite all the pressures he was facing he made and still makes his own choices everytime... Nobody forced him and just a few days back he was again giving assurances to Arshi and family and CHOSE to silently suffer instead of taking a stand for himself. He has made some hard choices, a few forced ones at best.So although it seemingly looks like he makes his own choices, he doesnot always choose himself over the happiness of his family / long term partner / society ! Plus he suffers from a sense of guilt , that usually rips people off sane senses ! You do a lot of things just out of guilt ! Hence it's not prudent to be emotional and sensitive most times but to be pragmatic ! Easier said than done when it comes to Ani Bose. But he owns up and takes accountability and says he it is his and only his fault, for the entire situation! Although, ek haath se taali kabhi bajti nehi !
And I'm not saying that him not taking a stand for himself is completely wrong too but if he's the same person who silently suffered all this time and tried to accept his fate up until recently, and now when he finally decides "bhad me jaye sab log, I will do what I want and I'll fight for my Jhanak" shouldn't there be a complex emotional journey? Shouldn't he analyse what went wrong in his life all this time that he suffered this much? Shouldn't he realise the impact of his own choices in his sufferings because he now REALISED what he truly wants? He knows he has made mistakes and he accepts the entire blame time and again ! A good period of time, he did not know what is 'right' for him to do , as his was a catch22 - trying to be right and fair to himself or to one party, would invariably mean not be right and fair to the other !
What went wrong was not because he was evil or a two-timer but because he is innately good and tried his best to handle/balance a lost case !
But between Ani and J, I found Ani to be more honest and accepting of his feelings ! As I have always maintained, the ground rule of any relationship is you have to be honest and true to your own self ! qki saajedaari mein makkari ki jaghah toh na hai ! I have seen Ani put in honest efforts to try and build "RuNak" up time and again, if RuNak is what we are after !
Also, both Ani and J could take a crash course on self love ! It would aid them with making better choices and getting their priorities right !
That's what I am expecting from Ani in this track...
Sorry for the long post. Hopefully I conveyed what I wanted to put forth....
....he will need help right now and AK se toh ab truce kar liya hai Ani ne so I guess he will not mind joining hands with him
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