Why does this always happen?

hey everyone i was wondering something and i couldnt find any answers to my questions so i decided to post my question here cause my jjkn family always helps me when i am in need of help and i hope u all will help me this time to as usual.. here is my problem...

Why do ppl tend to use others? why do nice ppl always get backstabbed or used...the reasons behdind me asking these questions is because this happened to me. i made alot of new friends here in BC...and they all became so tight with me...and i started giving my one of my close friends a ride to school in da morning after skool cause one of our other friends went to india for her sisters wedding...so for a month and half u coukd say almost two months i had given her a ride and on sunday i called her up after a month or so and said that look i'm sorry but i wont be able to give u a ride due to family probs n plz understand me and i'm sorry and she goes fine be like dat n hangs up and at skool da next day she acts like such a b....and brain washes my other friends against me...so at lunch i told my other friends i'll be in da library if u need me n they go to me wtf r u acting like dis ur giving us damn attitude and ur acting so different n changin n i started cryin n didnt say nething...n those two friends go to that gurl who i gave a ride n our other friend n say that sonia is saying that she made a mistake bein friends with us n shyt like dat when i didnt....and i just ignored dem..and when i wasnt they were talkin so much flippin shyt n when i came dere dey were like shut up she is comin...and after skool the gurl who i gave a ride goes to me sonia u better hurry up ur mom is waitin outside n u better not stand around here cause ur makin ur mom wait n i noticed y she said that was cause i stopped givin her a ride..i still didnt say nething...and she even called me a bhanji type of humanbeing and gurl cause i dont dress like a high five gurl...n i told dem that bein born here in canada and being raised here all ur life doesnt mean that u have to expose ur body and i was like that although i never lived ne where besided canada i still dont feel comfortable dressing like all gurly n exposing myself...is that wrong? and those gurls r born in india and that gurl who i gave a ride she just came from india mumbai 6 months ago and she is like tellin me what to do n what not to and is givin me attitude..instead of thankin me for givin her a ride to skool she is shyt talkin..why does this happen to me...is it because i just try bein myself and that i'm too nice..i hate dis...why does dis always happen to the gurls like me? why do ppl act dis way...what should i do does neone have answers for my questions? i hope u guys try helpin me out..n sorry for posting it here but needed to ask u dis question cause its buggin me and is pissin me off

love sonia😭

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Hey Sonia, please don;t feel sad.....and don;t cry.
Remember - "No man or woman is worth your tears and the one you is will never make you cry" These things are a part of life and it takes time to find true friends. You should be happy that these girls are out of your life now as they would have back stabbed you at any stage. Just remember one thing - you should not care for the people who do not deserve your consideration
You are a sweet and a nice girl....so don;t change yourself. Help others but for your own self bcoz you want to and don;t expect anything in return. You will meet so many people in your life and some will be very good and some will be very bad. Just remember good things and move ahead and leave all that sad part behind.
Now......give a big broad smile and stop thinking about them 😊

awww sonia! 🤗 🤗

this is exactly what people learn while growing up. every nice person feels used and even walked over every once in a while. some people change and become hardy. some just learn to balance their own priorities with a limited time spent for others / limited help provided to others, while some remain very kind and helping.

I think it helps to believe in the law of karma as it takes the pain rooted in the feeling of being used away.
Give to the world the best you have and the best will come back to you. The friends who rode with you may not return the kindness, but someone else surely will bring sweetness and kindness to your life!

Don't sacrifice your study time / time with mom to help such "friends", but be as kind as you have been. KARMA ROCKS! After many years, you'll remember this tiny hurt and laugh at yourself. Enjoy growing up! 😃

❤️
subha di

I am sorry to hear that you had a bad experience. But, as someone has already said in the forum, these things keep happening in life. Just consider it as a learning experience and don't let it stop you from being happy. Anyone who is only using you is not worth being your friend and is not worth you time.

As time passes, you will make more friends. Also, this is a process of maturing as these are lessons in life. The next time, chose the people you want to help more carefully and don't do anything more than the necessary. Free advice, free help is not appreciated.

One thing i would say again and again is chin up. I am proud of you. You do not have to expose yourself to look sexy and good. It is in your body language and your dressing style. The other girls, they are just one of those wo don't know what to do with their mnew found freedom.

Don't worry Sonu, these things are part of your life. You will see this kind of people every once in a while and sooner you learn not to care what they are upto, better it is for you. My own family misused ma and now they are so jealous that I am more friendly with rest of the family and no body give adamn about her becaus eshe has no ethics.
Just try to ignore them as much as you can and try to show that you are more happier now than when you had their company.
Lots of love,
🤗
Neelam

Sonia, first of all, stop wasting your precious tears on those who don't deserve them. Then remind yourself that one day, you will have your courage of conviction, and the assurance that you DID help someone unselfishly. What will those people have? Resentment, frustration, and no premanent self-image.

Believe me, i'v had such kind of experiences many a time. So many times i cried and questioned myself whether i had any real friends at all. But with time, i realised it was better that i didnt make those people my friends, and i also found true, lasting companions. Slowly, you too will find them. Don't worry....and remember we are all there for you. 🤗

Originally posted by: reetsk

Hey Sonia, please don;t feel sad.....and don;t cry.
Remember - "No man or woman is worth your tears and the one you is will never make you cry" These things are a part of life and it takes time to find true friends. You should be happy that these girls are out of your life now as they would have back stabbed you at any stage. Just remember one thing - you should not care for the people who do not deserve your consideration
You are a sweet and a nice girl....so don;t change yourself. Help others but for your own self bcoz you want to and don;t expect anything in return. You will meet so many people in your life and some will be very good and some will be very bad. Just remember good things and move ahead and leave all that sad part behind.
Now......give a big broad smile and stop thinking about them 😊

aww thanx alot and u know wat ur rite noone is worth of my tears thanks alot

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

awww sonia! 🤗 🤗

this is exactly what people learn while growing up. every nice person feels used and even walked over every once in a while. some people change and become hardy. some just learn to balance their own priorities with a limited time spent for others / limited help provided to others, while some remain very kind and helping.

I think it helps to believe in the law of karma as it takes the pain rooted in the feeling of being used away.
Give to the world the best you have and the best will come back to you. The friends who rode with you may not return the kindness, but someone else surely will bring sweetness and kindness to your life!

Don't sacrifice your study time / time with mom to help such "friends", but be as kind as you have been. KARMA ROCKS! After many years, you'll remember this tiny hurt and laugh at yourself. Enjoy growing up! 😃

❤️
subha di

aww thanks di and ur rite wat happens in life is because of Karma and what happens for the best...

Sonu these kind of things will happen in life
U knw what sonu,its really good that those girls are out of ur way 😊
They were never ur true freind and its really good that u now knw that. 😛
True freinds are hard to find,but I am sure u atleast have one true freind and we r always thr for u no matter what 😳
So just cheer up and smile because those girls r not worthy of ur precious tears 😃