Starting from the title:
-Everything is not fair. Ragini is still in the spotlight and while her verbal lashing did to an extent express Neil's fault, the fact whether Neil understood them or not still remains in question. So far Neil has shifted the entire heap of blame solely on Ragini and did little to understand his own faults while Ragini at numerous times admitted them and openly conversed and understood them (making several attempts to fix them as well). The most renounced apology being where she acknowledges her mistake with doubting Neil's loyalty and the second time considering the situation with Ronnie decides to trust Neil and asks only for his honesty in return (which she is denied). However with Neil only a measly one line apology is delivered and that too insincerely as evident in recent episodes where he once again shifts the entire blame of their divorce to Ragini. Neil is a man living in denial who still does not acknowledge or does little to admit his own mistakes. Just because Ragini stood up once today as oppose to the number of accusations Neil has delivered to her does little. Neil in response says to her, "tum samjhoge nahi!". Ragini defended herself and this verbal lashing was once again in response to Neil's accusations. As well, Ragini delivered actual TRUTHS regarding him instead of blind accusations and hence this does not balance out the exchange of insults. One understands and one doesn't, one is extremely pushed to the edge while one has just received the taste of the bitter side. Neil has to understand the insults, not merely feel they are empty less. We can't have one person crying and admitting faults while the other one walks like a saint.
I'm not saying there should be continuous insults but so far to retain balance in this system, these things have to be cleared:
-Ragini's innocence in the whole Pam-RK-Devika scenario. (For the love of god someone ask RK)
-Ragini's innocence in the police statements which were altered by both nivedita and the policeman.
-Ragini's innocence in butchering Neil's reputation through social media, (press, interviews, etc)
-Ragini's innocence in persuading aagham to stay with her (before anyone comments that Ragini blamed Neil for persuading Aarav, that is to an extent true because Neil said to Aarav it's all your mothers fault that you were in jail for so long.)
These main topics which caused this hostile behavior towards Ragini has to be cleared first and all accusations and blames have to make sense. One can't speak truth and the other meaningless accusations.
Now moving to the post in itself:
You sated that Neil and Pam blaming Ragini for everything is not the problem. Are you serious? That is the major problem! Ragini makes decisions in the spur of the moment, you find that to be the huge problem?! In all of Ragini's major decisions as including separations, she had VALID and STRONG reasons.
-divorce-the belief that her husband had an extramarital affair and due to the lack of a proper response agreed to divorce. Disloyalty is very reasonable to file for divorce and it wasn't in the spur of the moment, rather over days where Neil had yet not cleared the misunderstanding but delivered his own accusations about her being the cause for roopali's death (which we still don't have an apology for)
-second separation when she tells Neil to return to the u.s, Neil was literally responsible for putting Aarav behind bars. Aarav's entire life was ruined and before you say Ragini could've asked for help from him, remember that no dignified woman would ask help from the same man who is responsible for her child's horrible condition. As for appealing in the Supreme Court or other options, keep in mind Aarav threatened to kill someone and that too in a public place with a gun (thought it may not be his) in the moment had committed a grave act and some sort of punishment was inevitable. Neil was responsible for this carelessness on his part not to mention the consistent dishonest portrayed as a lover. As evident, Ragini made a decision that had concrete reasons.
As to now, while it may sound bitter and contradictory to the overall picture but why would Ragini say yes to Neil. This man has not as so much as apologized or see his own wrong doings but continues to blame and mock her. If she easily agrees to marriage, she would lack in self respect and dignity and would just be a disgrace to her strong independent character. While you may say he does love her, love is not enough for a relationship where both trust and respect is missing.
Yes I'm aware that you have called the overall statement that Neil not respecting Ragini is "bullshit" however actions speak louder than words.
Neil
-does not respect ragini's sacrifices of her own dreams as a doctor for his future success
-blames her solely for their divorce
-blames her solely for Aarav's condition
-blames her solely for Nishi's condition
-tells her she is a bad mother on repeat and her children's lives are ruined because of it without any mention of his own faults.
-who can forget the public humiliation at the twin's birthday party where he not only insulted her as a mother but as a woman. (Before anyone says that ragini too has insulted him in front of Aman, please remember that it is dominantly Neil who has taunted Aman first for his own pleasure as he admitted in a recent episode and Ragini being Aman's fianc found it obligatory for her to defend him)
-the recent taunts
And the list just goes on and on and I'm sure other members and avid watchers will find even more in the recent episodes.
I will not say that Neil has never respected Ragini but I will say is that Neil's respect for Ragini has dramatically declined. He has truly in the sense disrespected her on numerous occasions without any apology while Ragini has apologized to him for her rude behavior several times, (where they go to retrieve Nishi's medicine away from the farmhouse and they take a lift on the way home where Ragini apologizes to him) and ( when he is suppose to be leaving for the u.s. but Ragini comes to him at night and expresses her discontent) or when they make up and Ragini expresses her behavior towards her children and him. There are several other small moments where Ragini openly admits and apologizes yet again the audience barely has anything from Neil.
While you are upset that Ragini does not express her love for Neil, Ragini understands, apologizes, admits her mistakes and faults far more times than Neil has done
and I rather have a character who is accepting and fixing themselves as oppose to a character simply living in denial and claiming to love.
When all these mistakes and misunderstanding are recognized, redempted, cleared and apologies are delivered from both sides, truly in the sense it would all be fair then.
Edited by JB-US - 10 years ago
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