Can we talk about Aarav?

Arav is over sensitive, full of self pity and immature IMO. He is so unlike his twin Agam who is always so positive and enthusiastic, helpful, happy.

Maybe better or for worst Agham has Suhani a lot more stabilizing sister than Nishi. Nishi chose to get married seemed like her life solely was about her. Suhani is a kindred spirit so Agham was never lonely and they both are so jolly go lucky type characters who care for others and are not selfish. Arav seems to be caught between a strict mother and a sister he loves who maybe not the best role model and a house full of women. Agham had Ranbir, he seems like an ass to us but I think as a brother he is good to Suhani and Agham, his father though not always present was atleast around, and mother Pam. If you look at it Nachiket children had a more balanced household, with adults and children and comforts and love.

Originally posted by: loveanime

Maybe better or for worst Agham has Suhani a lot more stabilizing sister than Nishi. Nishi chose to get married seemed like her life solely was about her. Suhani is a kindred spirit so Agham was never lonely and they both are so jolly go lucky type characters who care for others and are not selfish. Arav seems to be caught between a strict mother and a sister he loves who maybe not the best role model and a house full of women. Agham had Ranbir, he seems like an ass to us but I think as a brother he is good to Suhani and Agham, his father though not always present was atleast around, and mother Pam. If you look at it Nachiket children had a more balanced household, with adults and children and comforts and love.

I mean come on this is the production house of Tulsis and Parvatis there have been some epic mother characters written by ekta kapoor. I know everyone is waiting for it as if it is a separate track on its own, but the best story is when that part of ragini personality is woven in to the plot as the story progresses, do we have to wait for the mommy switch to be turned on. I know Ragini is no Tulsi maiyaa but certain things really bug me about her she still sees the kids as divided property, take for example this ranbir problem her taunting Nachiket on his parenting abilities and false pride on her Arav is not helping Ranbir is it, this isn't a competition on who was the better parent, she did the same thing during ranbir's arrest comparing which child was raised better. If she was so concerned Ranbir would get screwed up why did she give huim up in the first place, I am on Team Ranbir if I had a mother like Ragini who forgot I existed then conveniently spout advice I would be pissed off too, a mother who is more interested in pointing out faults when the source of the pain is her own doing.

Yes coming back to Arav he definitely is the most lost of all the kids. Suhani is her father's pride, Ranbir is Pam's pet, Pam keeps an eye on Agham too it is not like he is alone, Nishi is married off that leaves Arav. Who is Arav close to or who is the guide in his life. It seems like the only one who had any emotional conversation with him was Dr. Aman. Nachiket is a confused father. He sees Nishi is having a fight with Jignesh and he wants to jump in with a parachute when in actuality he should butt out, but his sons Arav and Ranbir are falling for the same girl and one wanting to quit college and he believes he should not interfere. It seems like Nachiket thinks his sons are like him so has already decided they are a lost cause, so his concern and interference is for the girls only, boys can save themselves.

The other thing I also sympathize with Ragini here because it is hard when one person has to be a mother and father it is hard to divide those two roles. Sometimes you have to be the loving mother, the strict father, the provider, the friend when you are all one you don't know when to be what, it is hard to separate yourself and act accordingly as the situation demands and even if you wanted to it doesn't mean your children will respond to you because even they don't know how you will react when they are having a problem, which part of your personality will they be facing.

Very true. Aagam had Suhani and those kids had a more stable household, a more structured family unit, a dad, a mom, siblings, and material comforts to boot, than Ragini's children.

Aarav and Nishi on the other hand had one parent, had to penny pinch and lacked the comfortable living the other 3 enjoyed. Their mother was a single parent who was also the breadwinner and so absent from the home unlike Pam who stood in for Nachiket when he was unable to attend to the kids. I feel badly for Aarav, there is no male father figure in his life and now that he has met his father, the dad seems to be lost in his own problems that he has been unavailable to his son.

If Suhani is Nachiket's pride and joy, I feel even more badly for the other children, because Nachiket then ignored his own children for the sake of Rupali's daughter. But I don't believe Suhani is anymore special to him than his two other children, he ignored them all equally as was shown earlier. Just because he told RK how cute Subani looks in the picture doesn't attest to anything. He better man up to being a father and shape up Ranbir, and provide some fatherly support to Aarav. Aagam seems to be doing good on his own and is content with his new found happiness in the company of his mom. If Nachiket has shown any sign of vulnerability where his children are concerned, it is with Nishi. He seems to have a soft corner for her more than for his other kids. I hope Suhani finds the love she has been looking for in Ragini. Her and Aagam are alike and they will both bask in Ragini's caring and love for them. Aarav needs his dad and Ranbir needs both his parents to set him straight together. As for Nishi, she needs to stew for a bit before being rescued/advised by both parents.

The reason why they are showing both Nachiket and Ragini's characters as having flaws in their parenting capabilities and capacities, is mainly because they need to show that they need to be a single unit when the children are concerned.

Me too, glad that Ragini is not a Tulsi or Parvati or Sati Savitri. She is very likeable as a mere human.

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Me too, glad that Ragini is not a Tulsi or Parvati or Sati Savitri. She is very likeable as a mere human.

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They are showing aftermath of divorce, like it effects on kids, they need attention and care and if you don't concentrate on them they get diverted like aarav is being shown, amateur love and everything.