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BOND FOR A LIFETIME
Dear Anjali,
No one really tells how it is for a brother to see his baby sister grow. From seeing his baby sister taking those tiny first steps to getting those bigger strides in her life. This is a journey in itself for us as well. As a sister grows, her elder brother grows along with her.
Similarly, as you started to grow fast, I had to grow faster; after all I was the elder one'. I had to be the one setting an example before you. I had to become your idol, someone you can look up to. When I was young, our parents had told me that I am supposed to act like your father, friend, philosopher, guide and being a good elder brother doesn't come easy. With more age came more responsibility. Your responsibility.' At very young age, I was responsible for another life, your life. I was more than happier to assume your dependability, now I was older than someone in the house. *winks*
As I fathered and nurtured you, I saw you grow, I saw you becoming a beautiful woman from that little girl. Off course even I grew from being a small boy into a man, but seeing your baby grow is an entirely different feeling. You have always been my baby and will always be my first baby!
As you grew, I saw our relationship dynamics getting changed. From being your punching bag to your closest friend, I have tried playing all the roles; I just hope I justified most of them if not all. It was when I was away from home, studying, that's when our bond became the strongest. Distance clearly imparted more love and strength to our connection. We became best friends.
Now that you have grown and chosen a man for yourself, I see myself going through the withdrawal symptoms. Withdrawing from your responsibilities and placing them in someone else's hands. To see your petite fingers that held my hand once now entwined with the fingers of your partner.
And to admit fairly, it's an excruciating process, seeing you grow into your life and in someone else's. Now you share your secrets and pains with some else, you listen to him more than you listen to me. He makes you stop weeping at things even I see impossible to convince you for. He makes you calm quicker than I. I kind of feel envious of him.
Withdrawal symptoms, like I told you earlier.
And to admit fairly, it's an excruciating process, seeing you grow into your life and in someone else's. Now you share your secrets and pains with some else, you listen to him more than you listen to me. He makes you stop weeping at things even I see impossible to convince you for. He makes you calm quicker than I. I kind of feel envious of him.
Withdrawal symptoms, like I told you earlier.
It's not that I am not glad, I am happier to see happy. I am at peace that you have found a perfect man for yourself, who can take care of you, love you the way you deserved to be loved. You have always been a baby and you require more care and gentleness than others, I hope he gets this. I feel contented when I see you smile because of him, likewise I also feel agonizing when at days I see you cry because of him. I feel like hitting that guy straight in his face. But then I control myself, making myself realize that you are a big girl now and you will handle your problems by yourself. Still, any day you need to get that guy beaten up, I am always a call away. (LOL)
On a serious note now, I know you have grown up and you are mature enough to handle your own problems and situations, still for me, you will always be my baby, my little cute baby sister; you can never grow old enough for me. You will always have my back, no matter what. You can come running with your problems to me on any given day of your life, even if that day is after you turn 50 or older, when you become ugly with worn out teeth( yes, don't huff, you are human and you will become ugly one day, LOL), I am always there to solve your problems. If not solve then at least to face them with you. I am always with you. Always.
After all we are best of friends. Aren't we?
What is it you girls call?
Best Friends Forever!
Best Friends Forever!
Love,
Arnav Bhaiya
Arnav Bhaiya
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A bully when I was a kid, a tyrant in my teens and now my best friend.
Brothers, like wine get better with age.
Brothers, like wine get better with age.
-Manika S
P.S- Because a brother-sister relationship is a very strong and special one and deserves to be written about.
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