TRUSTING LOVE AND LOVING TRUST...PYAAR: BHAROSA...
"It isn't as bad as you sometimes think it is. It all works out. Don't worry. I say that to myself every morning. It all works out in the end. Put your trust in God, and move forward with faith and confidence in the future. The Lord will not forsake us. He will not forsake us. If we will put our trust in Him, if we will pray to Him, if we will live worthy of His blessings, He will hear our prayers."
? Gordon B. Hinckley
So true for us as fans...so true for a certain Sanka Devi...but she does falter in her belief of good as time and again FATE HAS TESTED HER FAITH IN GOODNESS,HUMANITY AND LOVE...above all TRUST!!Doesnt it strike you ironical?Dont you identify with her experiences with life as it were to our experiences as a fandom with our show IPKKND!!The irony...
So many times similarly,Us as fans have been tested on TRUST,PATIENCE AND FAITH that it will get better...that there is a means to an end!!
Does it mean we let go of the Faith we have put in the IPK team?
Does it mean Khushi should give up her Faith in Good,Love and Life?Or should she compromise her expectations or modify them to decrease the chances of disappointment?And so,Should we??
Maybe...or maybe not!But we will have to deal with and so will she with the frustration of trying to make things perfect,happy,and to our liking...hmmm!
Should we learn to believe unconditionally?in our show?in the CVs?
In her case should she?Believe unconditionally?
Should we have patience with knowing the outcomes of tracks?or attack them to find the result?Will it kill the joy of sitting back and making wonderful memories of what is happening in the present?
Should she??wait?or forge ahead cause it means a threat to her relationship?her future?Will she be losing the precious present where she could make magical moments to cherish in the future ...the future which is unpredictable?
Should we?...Should she?...Ironical!
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"Relationships are mysterious. We doubt the positive qualities in others, seldom the negative. You will say to your partner: do you really love me? Are you sure you love me? You will ask this a dozen times and drive the person nuts. But you never ask: are you really mad at me? Are you sure you're angry? When someone is angry, you don't doubt it for a moment. Yet the reverse should be true. We should doubt the negative in life, and have faith in the positive."
? Christopher Pike, Remember Me
So true...lets look at it!
We as fans...When we hear something good is happening with the show,the cast,the directors.the crew...or just in an epi...we expect...nothing like that will happen,are you sure it's true?..I don't think that's possible!?..etc,etc,...ok...I mean some of us..I am intentionally vague...no details..becoz..I am discussing the concept of accepting something good!Even though we have been reassured of good things...our minds won't accept this fact easily...there's just No way that's happening!Again,all are not the same...but I see a pattern and I myself maybe guilty...
So with Khushi...so with Arnav before...they could not believe that the other is capable of good..or has the right intentions...they learnt the hard way ..to trust each others feelings and words...even now,For Khushi to believe her world with Arnavji is perfect and so beautiful...is hard to imagine..she finds a grain of sand and it builds into a molehill of doubt!Even though it has been said to her by the person she is most concerned about losing...she still does not want to believe that she is the most important thing in his life!!That just is too good to be true...
Just my way of thinking but it is very hard for us to just accept GOOD at plain face value without hard evidence and repeated interrogations!So also for her!
Don't you think this lies true for the world on a majority?Not all are same...
But given a hint that something bad is looming in the horizon...we are ready to jump and accept it !!So is Sanka Devi...Humme patta tha..aisa hi hota hai humare saath!...or in many of our cases we may say...I knew it!I told you that would happen!it was too good to be true!
How ironical...real v/s reel,hai na?
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"If we can just let go and trust that things will work out they way they're supposed to, without trying to control the outcome, then we can begin to enjoy the moment more fully. The joy of the freedom it brings becomes more pleasurable than the experience itself."
? Goldie Hawn
Do I need to say anything about the above quoted words?
We know ,Khushi knows...but acceptance of this above statement and putting it into practice...hah!Easier said than done!!
"To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved."
? George MacDonald
Totally felt for the Show...when a lot of fans gave it up...felt that they couldn't stomach any more of the "sub quality"tracks..and the poor execution...for those of us that have stayed,I applaud your loyalty...you have risen in love...usually fallen in love...is used...but I always think...it's a misnomer!!
It shud be..Fallen in love but Risen in Trust!!I hope and pray our trust is repayed...but i personally am not trusting this show with that expectation,am not loving this show with that condition...I just love it for it being IPK!
Totally felt for Khushi when ASR chose to distrust her despite loving her deeply...it defeated their love and paved way to the most hateful marriage for any couple in love I've seen...it was a dark day in February 2012!
Totally feel for Arnav now with him having loved her unconditionally for who she is with all past circumstances...she is his worship ,his love ,his Bharosa...
He is her everything,her deepest love,her life but she chose to distrust him this time and put her instincts above his stated truths,..this after she told him..Humme Bharosa hai aap par,Aapke Pyaar par!!Khushi I as a woman get it...I know why...BUT WHY...OH WHY?...can't you just love him enough to trust that you could ask him anything?
Star crossed lovers indeed..Arshi...and us fans of the show!!
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"The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves, then we do not love them: we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them"
? Thomas Merton, No Man Is an Island
Self explanatory..the above...
"I do not trust people who don't love themselves and yet tell me, 'I love you.' There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt."
? Maya Angelou
Khushi...do you love yourself...do you care about your feelings...you haven't in the past...you've always put yourself last...I hope and pray this time...that you think differently...u said..Hum bhi Aapse I love you Dammit!We know you meant it!But the fears and insecurity you carry will influence the conviction with which you stand by those words...will make it seem as though those words "Meant Nothing"...be careful...learn to believe that you are someone to love!!That will make you trust in the fact that someone like Arnavji can truly love you more than life...you said it on your Mandap...Woh humse aapne aap se bhi zyada Pyaar karte hain!!you know it!The only way you can start believing it is by loving yourself first!!I wish you all the luck on that!You are special...like Arnavji said!
"After all, damn it, what does being in love mean if you can't trust a person."
? Evelyn Waugh, Vile Bodies
So much to read into in such few words above...but so true Dammit!
What is love without trust?An Ocean without water?A body without soul?
I trust you to know I love you all and I trust you love me enough to let me make mistakes...:)))
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