Originally posted by: mayad
Hello Maverick,
Fancy seeing you on my post! It really is my swan song because by nature I am not a movie buff I just know what I like and what I don't. Generally I do not watch television because I never had the time. Demanding job, children and volunteer work made for a full day. Due to medical reasons this year I had to slow down and my sister referred me to this show. The sheer difference in cultures got me drawn to the show because it helped me to understand a lot about the battered women I worked with. The majority were East Indians!
The other reason I watched the show was that chemistry between Barun and Sanaya. It remained me of the movies I enjoyed in my movie going years. Casablanca, Gone with the Wind etc. Barun as Arnav, reminds me of those characters. So I relate to him in that regard. Maybe bias? Don't know I just know what I like.
Sanaya's Khushi is not someone I can relate to but I do recognize her talent but lets face it in my house my husband likes her and I like Barun! Go figure. So I accept what you see in her!😉
You may, may not know that I do not speak the language and I do not find that comedy translates very well! So I did not enjoy the comedic aspect of the show.
Glad that you have the experience with other Indian soaps to compare. I do not and because by nature I am a loner I also cannot relate to so many family members under one roof. I come from a large family but I am the last child so I got used to be my own space and the fact that once you got married you had your own home and that family became independent. So again the Raizadas and Guptas are out of my cultural scope. More so when you have characters like Mami. Sorry but I can never see her as part of an ideal family.
That said my questions and concerns are based on logic and the inequity I see in the show based on the treatment of women, men, more recently children and what I see as religious or traditional issue that feed that bias. This is not unique to India because in North America we have any diversity challenges of our own! So a bias is a bias!
For example that Radha, Krishna story that was told by Nani during that festival recognizing that Radha was his love but they were never married according to traition. Not a big deal for me but in the same breathe they called Khushi characterless for not having a traditional wedding! Logically that would mark Radha characterless! Blasphemy! But I am not the one who wrote that story. And, of greater importance I noted that the ones pointing fingers were women! Was ths the intention of the creatives?
I can find many more instances where by social issues where brought up intentionally or not and the ramifications were just glossed over. I have teenagers who PM me for help most recently after Shyam murdered his child and I felt so helpless. On one hand I was told that child abuse is rampant in India and people should get used to it and on the other hand I had children reaching across oceans for help. In light of this recent experience I have lost any residual interest I have in watching what I respectfully see as irresponsible television for I can never sit back and accept abuse of any kind as the norm! I would like to see Shyam charged for 1st degree murder of his child amongst the other crimes committed but alas who thought that anyone on the forum would pick on the fact that a fetus greater than 7 months is consider a child, a human being and entitled to all the rights! Having said that maybe this show was indeed designed for another audience and many of us just do not belong!
Regarding the woman on the show who had to prove she did not sleep with her friend ... I would love for them to examine her vagina to prove her innocence but I think the intention was for her to walk thru fire, like Sita! Isn't that the true test of purity!!!!!! And, I can bet it was a bunch of other women who were judge and jury!
I appreciate the response and I am sure we will meet up on Rima's posts or you never know next time I visit my adopted son in the Bay Area I will be in touch with you!
Cheers
Maya
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