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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: .SublimeSaRun.

Anu, Ditto to everything you said.👏 Only one place where I will have to disagree with you and that is on the notion of Khushi's "ego". Personally, I wouldn't even vouch to term this girl as egotistic; she's something far from that. For lack of better terminology, in Sanaya's words, "Khushi Pagal Hain". Bas. If this girl had the least bit of ego, she would have never gone to ASR's office TWICE and agreed to the 24 hour deal. "I don't want your favor, I want your money"--what!!!???😲 If this is indeed ego, then it is the most dheela type of ego I've ever seen.😕

I don't know what she wants in the end. When he saw it as his duty to protect her and her family, she insisted that she doesn't need his favor. So Arnav withdrew it. She then questions why he did this, he gave her his answer. He tells her yet again that he is willing to pay her rent, and she goes back determined to prove him wrong. And what does she end up doing? Groveling RIGHT BACK to his feet to ask, not for a favor, but money--like there is any difference in the two.😆 She has no self-respect. I used to feel sorry for this girl knowing she was put through this much, but when she showed she lacks every bit of of self-respect, how can we sympathize with her?

People who are calling ASR a jerk for his actions today are failing to understand him yet again. Arnav tried it her way and failed. He's executing this "ASR style" as a LAST RESORT. A person who practically lived by his moto of money and deals is using this method last. Isn't this change enough?

Also, people say that there needs to be redemption of his character for the same. To them I say, when Khushi herself seems to have forgotten everything, what is there for Arnav to redeem? Nothing. "Laad Governer Itna bhi boora nahi hai"'Does this look like a girl who is traumatized by her past? No. I say redemption is only logical when Khushi thinks Arnav has done something inherently wrong. She sees nothing wrong in his doings then why should we? When it all comes down to it, Arnav may be ruthless but Khushi encourages this very wrath by showing no self-respect on her part. At least there is consistency in his character, Khushi behaves so maturely in one frame and is a complete 5 year old in the next. Half the time, I have no clue what she wants. She didn't even leave RM because she was angry with Arnav. She left in her mahan attempts at setting things right between brother and sister.

I know I'm going off topic and ranting here but I'm tremendously angry with the execution of this track. They may be showing light hearted romantic comedy, but I don't remember signing up for that in the first place. We were promised an intense, star-crossed love story, similar to M&B. And I'm left to think--where did those days go? Where did the intensity go? And the answer is that it has been diluted in these comedic tracks. I don't like that with every episode, we are losing the intensity. We are not only losing intensity, but sensibility as well. These two are behaving so much so like 5 year olds that it makes me wonder where the immense understanding post-kidnapping track went. Gone are the episodes when both understood each other through their eyes and simple gestures evoked so much meaning (In reference to July 9/10 episodes).

"He is not being ASR to break her spirit this time, he is trying to free it from the burden of self-sacrifice that keeps her happiness as a matter of last priority."

^^I really hope you are right. I trust that ASR's motives are exactly this, but I have my doubts when it comes to Khushi. I don't think this girl will ever turn the least bit selfish, which is anything but good. Her selflessness lacks logic all together and it only ends up hurting more people that it safes. We've seen that countless times in the past.

We'll just have to wait for TRPs tomorrow to see whether this track being liked by our TRP aunties over in India 😆 I don't know, the comedy just doesn't go well with me...😕
Okay I'm done, sorry for my endless rant 😆

~Puja~



Completely agree on your point about the intensity being lost !! I had always thought that when ASR DOES realise finally he is in love, the intensity, the need to be with her would lead to such a passionate track...not this inane comedy. Too bad.

With regards to Khushi's character - I've always felt her desire to be the one who solves everything for everyone comes from a latent motivation to be accepted / liked...a complex of an orphaned child who wants acceptance in the family, wants everyone to like them and hence feels if she is the one to make everyone's lives better, they would like her better too...as maybe on her own, she is not enough to be liked for herself. We've seen behaviour in the past from garima and buaji where they HAVE treated her as an outsider...I somehow feel that has always kind of spurred her to over compensate by trying to be the one protecting them, and any extended family she now has , even if she doesnt always know the solution.
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Posted: 13 years ago

@riti4u agree with u dear ,,,, u said right ,,, whn he is totally helpless .. may b thn he poures his heart out 2 her,,,, waiting 4 tht 2 happen asap..

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Posted: 13 years ago
ASR has won Khushi's heart long back when the dhak dhak started , when Khushi ran to hug him in the hospital .
It is just that Khushi has not yet said it aloud to ASR .
But to Shyam she has already said . "Hum unse behad (without limit) pyar karti hoon"
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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: barunroxx7

Its true that ASR didnt treat Khushi like his wife before he got to know truth...But after he got to know that KKG is innocent he did behave nicely to her except for once..He did want to help her genuinely by giving her the money..But Khushi didnt accept it cause she has self respect..So now ASR is trying in his ASRish way as expected. I dont understand whats so disappointing about it

Or maybe I dont find anything disappointing cause I always keep my expectation low when it comes to these daily soaps.😆


Agreed. Well said, I also dont expect much from our daily soaps.


Note : I feel I can atleast watch IPKKND rather than others soaps. ( There is a famous saying in hindi/urdu that "andhon mein kandha behthar hai"---blind in one eye is better than being fully blind).


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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: CuteSARUN

@riti4u agree with u dear ,,,, u said right ,,, whn he is totally helpless .. may b thn he poures his heart out 2 her,,,, waiting 4 tht 2 happen asap..

you can call me riti... yes I too want him to pour his heart out...hope they dont drag this thing...😊
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Posted: 13 years ago

loved your post and the analysis.

Me too think that its time asr told her, he is aware of why she left home and what heintends to do (make her his wife permanantly ). we kmow khushi is sadly counting the days after which she will not be mrs raizada. we know that being arnav's wife has become 2nd nature to her. and it seems she reserves all her ego for him. we never saw her bahave egoistically with anyone else not even with snakey .
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Posted: 13 years ago
So it is about her ego? A fake marriage to save willow's marriage was to ponder to HER ego? a marriage which was forced without any kind of sense was because of HER ego? fair enough okay lets say it was then why isnt the great and mighty Harvard thinking now?
Why would a woman take help from a man who has thrown contract in her face, infact just few days back? and instead of clearing that he is going around like a chicken without its head and running around the bush to proove that she has the right???when he was the one who had clearly told her she doesnt have any ...it is not as if Harvard is always consistant with his feelings...we have seen how he becomes all lovey dovey and then his Hyde brother makes grand entry...plus SHE doesnt need to be bound to Harvard at all given it was a contract marriage to begin with...so unless and until Harvard clarifies that...all is null and void
Atleast SHE is consistent...so she has moved back, good on her...and rather than just going and saying lets talk and trying convincing her that way mighty Harvard is heck bent on making her work for him???so this is to break her pride right???brilliant move Harvard...no wonder Willow got a creepy husband, stupidity runs in the family...
Problem is Harvard needs to think for a change and use his misplaced brain...perhaps rent it because this theory is not working, is it?
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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: riti4u


@Ladylala- If khushi had self respect,she cud have walked out of marriage after contract thing and not lied to him firstly and if it was about her self respect then why go to that man again asking fr help in first place...he said you are my wife and you cn demand it..she refused and but she says many times..he is her husband eg in front of shyam and when she is alone she calls herself KKGSR..so why not demand your right..it was clearly her ego which didnt let her demand..

Sorry to jump in but had to add my two cents too...
Well khushi could not walk out you see because just few days back Harvard said he will break the marriage...now we know he was bluffing because we could see his face but khushi cannot, so from her POV he can do that...now about self respect...well abused woman generally do run back to their abuser...vicious cycle and all, but if we look at from her side then she is not wrong in having her pride because if he really cared so much then he would have said, let me pay this and we can talk about your issues later...or how about a simple sorry for throwing the contract in her face? so she said she will work and get the money...thats not pride thats self preservation...and she calls herself KKGSR because that is one way to pacify herself that this is not a live in relationship like la and harvard had...
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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: evenjleena28

Sorry to jump in but had to add my two cents too...
Well khushi could not walk out you see because just few days back Harvard said he will break the marriage...now we know he was bluffing because we could see his face but khushi cannot, so from her POV he can do that...now about self respect...well abused woman generally do run back to their abuser...vicious cycle and all, but if we look at from her side then she is not wrong in having her pride because if he really cared so much then he would have said, let me pay this and we can talk about your issues later...or how about a simple sorry for throwing the contract in her face? so she said she will work and get the money...thats not pride thats self preservation...and she calls herself KKGSR because that is one way to pacify herself that this is not a live in relationship like la and harvard had...

hi vibha,
So for first point about her fear of breaking the marriage thing- so now she doesnt fear that he will break the marriage when he know about her lies.. When I said about self respect .I was saying about the way she choose to come out of this relation..I never said she is not right in coming out.
Tell me as unbiased view..if she thinks that it will be just 12 day thing left then why not complete the contract and Say -Look Man ,contract you said is up and time to move on.. rather than that she lies that her bua is not well and doesnt tell him reason when he asks..instead say in front of her DM that it was for his di' happiness and his happiness...where did self respect cum in that?
you used term abused woman..I wholeheartedly disagree and dont want to get into that argument .I am woman and it is really sad to see that you feel that an abused woman should go back to abuser..wont say more than this..Why should she go back if she feels he has abused her? Darling he did said to her that I will pay ..but it was she who refused and again it was she who herself said that I will work for you ..he didnt make any deal this time..she did..
She calls herself KKGSR for pacifying her belief that it is not live in than what it is..it is marriage right and if she feels that it is marriage then by your point of view too she considers him to be her husband..then what is stopping her to say it- her ego isnt it?
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Posted: 13 years ago
Well said Riti dear...!👍🏼 U said it all n we knw what it is..all about!

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