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Some of you wrote me private messages to put up my view I wrote on another website for yesterday's episode as you really liked my analysis of Arnav, Khushi and Anjali. So here it is and I apologize beforehand if I insult anyone:
Now moving on to today's episode which as usual showed us the different personality a human being can have - from the needy, aggressive to the caring one. I am actually glad that the director showed us that both Arnav and Khushi still havent changed fully and deep down some of their bad habits still shows its face once in a while. A human being doesn't change that quickly and it does take some time before they will be able to mend their ways and show those changes to other people. I have decided not to fully analyse the whole episode like I use to but just going to focus on Arnav, Khushi and Anjali and what I perceive them to be and what I want them to change about themselves. We have all been told and shown that all of these three people have gone through hardships in life and we want them to undo the damage done by the past. For many people, an inability to stand up for oneself is rooted in a series of experiences in life which resulted in negative outcomes that were turned inward, and became a reason to put themselves down around others. The reality is that everyone experiences life's vicissitudes; it's how we respond to them that changes everything. By choosing to take the negative occurrences personally and to retreat into their shell, they stop standing up for themselves and start letting life buffet them about. For me Anjali, Arnav and Khushi because of their trauma has changed their personalities to such an extend that it will be hard for them to change in mere days - it can take weeks, months and even eyes before we see them fully developed into the person they are meant to be. Here is what I feel the past has done to each and one of them:
Anjali - is staying in the victim mode: When you behave as a victim, you do the very opposite of standing up for yourself. Instead, you're seeking to shrink away from the responsibility of a situation and often to target the blame for what's happening onto someone or something else. If terrible things have happened to you in the past, talking out the root causes with someone trusted will help you to start reframing them as "experiences you've lived through" rather than hiding behind them as a reason why people "should understand" you. Nobody has the time to "understand" you unless you're reciprocating or paying!
Khushi - she should beware against taking passive aggressive responses toward people and situations: Passive aggressive responses are ones in which you begrudgingly do things against your will and end up filled with resentment, anger turned inwards, hating people who "make" you feel this way, feeling depressed and helpless, etc. This infects your relationships and can take a huge toll on your physical and emotional health. Most of all, a passive aggressive approach to life will never enable you to stand up for yourself. Although Khushi does stand up to Arnav she still ends up doing exactly what he wants either through blackmail or compassion.
Arnav - resorts to aggression. Aggression and violence are not forms of standing up for yourself; rather, acting aggressively is like acting out your pain in full technicolor. It's not a constructive way to get what you want and it will put people offside. Scared or annoyed people will leave you alone but then you have nothing but loneliness and a lack of fulfilment left. Arnav yet again proved that when he couldn't make Khushi stay he turned into ASR and became aggressive to make sure she doesn't leave him.
Now you can ask me why I have decided to write about them instead of writing my usual view - it is just that nothing much happened in today's episode for me to analyse. I was pretty upset that Khushi blamed herself as usual and Arnav didn't contradict her either and Arnav went back to his Akash and Payal weapon to make Khushi stay. I understand that Arnav does realise that he has damaged Khushi to the point that she has given up on life - she isn't the chirpy and fun loving girl anymore. Arnav also knows and admits that he is the one who broke this beautiful girl completely and it is up to him to bring her back from the dead. Khushi on the other side behaved as she always does and blames herself for all the problems in the house - she even had to be blackmailed with her sister's marriage so she wouldn't leave. I love both Arnav and Khushi and can fully understand each of their feelings and the reasons they are behaving like this but just once I want Khushi to say to Arnav " Frankly my dear I don't give a damn" and leave him behind while Arnav utters the sentence "After all, tomorrow is another day" and will give himself hope that one day he will get Khushi back.
Last for not least coming to Akash and Payal - what is it with these Raizada boys who thinks Anjali is the only one who needs love and care all the time. I demand Akash to start treating Payal a bit more respectful and request his mom forcefully that she should also respect Payal. I didn't like the fact that Akash told Payal to worry about Anjali and not Khushi because she shouldn't have gone to see Anjali. I personally hope and pray that Payal in the near future leaved the house either with or without Khushi - she needs to stand up for herself and also for her younger sister who has gone through hell for this family. I want the old Payal back who angrily told Arnav off, didn't back off and didn't care about the consequences - the one who turned into a lioness when something happened to her baby sister. Hopefully the director listens to me and we will see that soon.
PS: I know many people are upset with today's maha episode as it didn't contain the rain scenes and some other romantic scenes which you expected. I personally don't ever read any spoilers and only comes to the website after the episode has been aired. That way I will never be disappointed as I have a clear mind while watching and will be able to appreciate the episode much more.
Some of you wrote me private messages to put up my view I wrote on another website for yesterday's episode as you really liked my analysis of Arnav, Khushi and Anjali. So here it is and I apologize beforehand if I insult anyone:
Now moving on to today's episode which as usual showed us the different personality a human being can have - from the needy, aggressive to the caring one. I am actually glad that the director showed us that both Arnav and Khushi still havent changed fully and deep down some of their bad habits still shows its face once in a while. A human being doesn't change that quickly and it does take some time before they will be able to mend their ways and show those changes to other people. I have decided not to fully analyse the whole episode like I use to but just going to focus on Arnav, Khushi and Anjali and what I perceive them to be and what I want them to change about themselves. We have all been told and shown that all of these three people have gone through hardships in life and we want them to undo the damage done by the past. For many people, an inability to stand up for oneself is rooted in a series of experiences in life which resulted in negative outcomes that were turned inward, and became a reason to put themselves down around others. The reality is that everyone experiences life's vicissitudes; it's how we respond to them that changes everything. By choosing to take the negative occurrences personally and to retreat into their shell, they stop standing up for themselves and start letting life buffet them about. For me Anjali, Arnav and Khushi because of their trauma has changed their personalities to such an extend that it will be hard for them to change in mere days - it can take weeks, months and even eyes before we see them fully developed into the person they are meant to be. Here is what I feel the past has done to each and one of them:
Anjali - is staying in the victim mode: When you behave as a victim, you do the very opposite of standing up for yourself. Instead, you're seeking to shrink away from the responsibility of a situation and often to target the blame for what's happening onto someone or something else. If terrible things have happened to you in the past, talking out the root causes with someone trusted will help you to start reframing them as "experiences you've lived through" rather than hiding behind them as a reason why people "should understand" you. Nobody has the time to "understand" you unless you're reciprocating or paying!
Khushi - she should beware against taking passive aggressive responses toward people and situations: Passive aggressive responses are ones in which you begrudgingly do things against your will and end up filled with resentment, anger turned inwards, hating people who "make" you feel this way, feeling depressed and helpless, etc. This infects your relationships and can take a huge toll on your physical and emotional health. Most of all, a passive aggressive approach to life will never enable you to stand up for yourself. Although Khushi does stand up to Arnav she still ends up doing exactly what he wants either through blackmail or compassion.
Arnav - resorts to aggression. Aggression and violence are not forms of standing up for yourself; rather, acting aggressively is like acting out your pain in full technicolor. It's not a constructive way to get what you want and it will put people offside. Scared or annoyed people will leave you alone but then you have nothing but loneliness and a lack of fulfilment left. Arnav yet again proved that when he couldn't make Khushi stay he turned into ASR and became aggressive to make sure she doesn't leave him.
Now you can ask me why I have decided to write about them instead of writing my usual view - it is just that nothing much happened in today's episode for me to analyse. I was pretty upset that Khushi blamed herself as usual and Arnav didn't contradict her either and Arnav went back to his Akash and Payal weapon to make Khushi stay. I understand that Arnav does realise that he has damaged Khushi to the point that she has given up on life - she isn't the chirpy and fun loving girl anymore. Arnav also knows and admits that he is the one who broke this beautiful girl completely and it is up to him to bring her back from the dead. Khushi on the other side behaved as she always does and blames herself for all the problems in the house - she even had to be blackmailed with her sister's marriage so she wouldn't leave. I love both Arnav and Khushi and can fully understand each of their feelings and the reasons they are behaving like this but just once I want Khushi to say to Arnav " Frankly my dear I don't give a damn" and leave him behind while Arnav utters the sentence "After all, tomorrow is another day" and will give himself hope that one day he will get Khushi back.
Last for not least coming to Akash and Payal - what is it with these Raizada boys who thinks Anjali is the only one who needs love and care all the time. I demand Akash to start treating Payal a bit more respectful and request his mom forcefully that she should also respect Payal. I didn't like the fact that Akash told Payal to worry about Anjali and not Khushi because she shouldn't have gone to see Anjali. I personally hope and pray that Payal in the near future leaved the house either with or without Khushi - she needs to stand up for herself and also for her younger sister who has gone through hell for this family. I want the old Payal back who angrily told Arnav off, didn't back off and didn't care about the consequences - the one who turned into a lioness when something happened to her baby sister. Hopefully the director listens to me and we will see that soon.
PS: I know many people are upset with today's maha episode as it didn't contain the rain scenes and some other romantic scenes which you expected. I personally don't ever read any spoilers and only comes to the website after the episode has been aired. That way I will never be disappointed as I have a clear mind while watching and will be able to appreciate the episode much more.
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