When People Criticize Khushi's Attitude to Shyam..

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rima

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Posted: 13 years ago

#91

Originally posted by: araina7
OMG!!! I just loved what u said. This is the bitter truth of our society. When anything goes wrong,it is always girl's fault. The most tragic part of this truth is that it is women themselves who are blaming other women. It's disgusting!!! Shyam is a creep and khusi knows how low n cheap he can get. He is the person who did not even think twice when he tried to kill his own wife . What in the world is khusi suppose to do?? Shout?? Yell??? Create a drama show that whole ppl in the house will come ??? Seriously ???? She is scared of that creep that's why she cud do anything. I also saw the post where someone said khusi likes creep!!! Omg!! Really??? He/she needs to go to psychiatrist along w that creep. Every day ppl just try to find flaws in CVs, actor n story?? Why so much negativity ?? Can we try to see positive aspect of the story??? Atleast story is moving n I am enjoying this track.

there is never a postive attitude in this forum for anything. only a few positive people. sometimes actors leaving rumours, sommetimes show crtiticism, sometimes character criticism.

Yeah that post and another one yesterday made me see red!

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Maria

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Posted: 13 years ago

#92

loved your post 👏 BEST OF THE BEST 😊

Khushi uses her brain...she is very smart and love her attitude towards Shyam...she uses her strategy...and she shows such a great courage!!!! Khushi is so strong 😊

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lara3110

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Posted: 13 years ago

#93

Here the blame should not be on Khushi. Here the fault lies in the CVs mind who show such disgusting stuff. It is not worth seeing this degration of women on TV. Someone has a sick mind and it should be stopped immediately.

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Edited by lara3110 - 13 years ago

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rima

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Posted: 13 years ago

#94

I believe many people are right when they ask these questions and this is why: But the people asking this are not saying it from that angle at all . They are saying Khushi is liking Shyam

As the saying goes, "...those who tolerate oppression/cruelty/atrocity are even bigger culprits than those who commit it."

Khushi is simply tolerating it.
She is doing nothing about it.
It has nothing to do with her being a girl/woman.
Any victim needs to speak up.
In her place I would be a nut case by now. A husband who has married her for 6 months, a family she had to win over, daily issues with her husband, brother in law who is a stalker, husband giving her the 3rd degree treatment? tell me how many can she handle alone?

Any person's prime objective would be to safeguard themselves. If one's own security is threatened, then one is not a good player in any other effort - relationships, family, work, community, country, etc.

She can complain about it, bring it out into the open, make the family members aware of it, even keep a record of it all (for police purposes if required).

You forget the whole purpose of why she hid it in the first place. That purpose would be defeated by going to anyone but her own family . Police? Even that is afar cry. She is protecting Anjali.What will happen?
Shyaam will turn the tables on her and either state that she is lying, or if there is some kind of evidence (caught red-handed, etc.) he may turn it all on Khushi; i.e. stating that she instigated it while he was a veritable choir-boy led into temptation by this siren.

The family, believing that Shyaam is purer than driven snow, will side with him and, while perhaps not throwing Khushi out of the house, at least sideline her.

But the point of Khushi bringing Shyaam's behavior before others has taken place.
And meanwhile while she exposes him what happens to her family? her own sister? To Anjali she is protecting? Do you know how sexi=ually harassed people feel? You must watch this episode of satyamev jayate.Then Shyaam will note that he has to be even more devious, that Khushi is not one to keep quiet, and again Khushi will have to speak up if he tries other shenanigans.
The family members, while perhaps still favoring Shyaam, might now strive to keep both of them apart.
So, objective of Khushi achieved.
Yes, she may have to face the brunt of displeasure and disapproval of family members, but she is keeping herself safe.

If Khushi thought of herself only she would have been safer last December when she broke the engagement. Even after that she never crossed his paths. He still came after her.When women are abused, domestic violence takes place, in-law tortures take place, the hue and cry is always, "Why Didn't She Speak Up?"

So do not say that it is simply women against women - though I concede, that women are women's greatest enemies... yet the corollary is true, as well, i.e., women are each other's best friend and support.

The prime duty of any oppressed/victim is to speak up.

Every oppressed/victim has situational 'problems'; i.e. family disbelief, social stigma, 'love', family pressure, etc.
But Khushi and forum members need to stop making excuses for her. It does not matter about Arnav, Paayull, Umma, Booaji, Baooji, etc.

All that matters is that she is not safe and she needs to speak up;

I agree one needs to speak up. But to whom? Her husband who distrusts? Her adopted family who always think she is a trouble maker? Her sister who is a weakling and needs protection (though I still hope she will tell Paya). She can tell Bauji if he was fine.
Else these very same people who are going, 'Tsk, tsk... poor Khushi... I understand... she loves Arnav... she loves Paayull... she loves the world... it is so difficult.. no one will believe her... yes, Shyaam is a lecher... tsk, tsk... ", will be first in line to point a finger and ask,

"Why didn't She Speak Up?"

I disagree. These people know the real world and real woman's plight. if you see this forum all the people who commented on this thread are people who frequently support khushi's plight as a woman

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rima

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Posted: 13 years ago

#95

lara3110I agree completely. I went ahead and posted this in 4 lions site.
Maria.Creationz
Yeah she is very strong. That is the best part of her character

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ipkbs

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Posted: 13 years ago

#96

I agree with all the points.

yes it was disgusting but they had to show the extent Shyaam can go to in his abuse when Arnav is not there to protect.

I don't think CVs have crossed limits as many people are saying.

I believe their is a reason for showing this today.

Khushi is a true fighter we have always seen this (in comparison to other sp bahus)

so why was she silent today?

you have to put yourself as a female in her shoes and relate to reality it is not easy to fight back when danger is staring at you.

this week was all about shyaam going beyond his limits.

and being the end of the week he reached an all time low.

Next week we should hopefully see Khushi fighting back to some extent.

and the issue about CVs not portraying the story properly.

i think they are doing an amazing job,

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soulstarspirit

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Posted: 13 years ago

#97

To all those girls out here who think that khushi should speak up against shyam and do this and do that my only ques is that if you would have been in Khushi's place would you have done that? If your answer is Yes then please think twice thrice or million times because honestly and very unfortunately you cant do anything or your society will not allow you to do so(this is specificaly for Indian Girls)
I'll tell you one real example from my own personal life,am a young girl of 19 yrs,very confident and aggressive when it comes to something right or wrong,moral or immoral.one day while returning from college in local bus two boys tried to flirt with me and passed really stupid comments and one of them was actually sitting beside me and was constantly trying to touch me in some or the other way and then i stared at him rudely once but he didnt stopped and then when i yelled at him all the people in the bus started looking at us and the lady behind my seat asked me what happened,i told her that this guy is doing batmeezi and i asked the conductor to please change his seat and the great conductor in return asked me to change the seat instead of telling him and nobody in the whole bus tried even once of helping me,all the people were staring at me like a have done something wrong and i was completely shocked and at the end it was me who changed my seat because there was no one to help me out.
And when i told my mom she just said me that its India,people are very insecure,they dont say anything to a man but to a girl and she aso explained me that people must have thought that may be i was involved with that guy in some or the other way and they thought that may be there are some personal issues. So that means i as a girl was actually wrong without no fault of mine. well unfortunately thats our society and how it works.

Edited by rajeev_surbhi - 13 years ago

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rima

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Posted: 13 years ago

#98

Originally posted by: rajeev_surbhi
To all those girls out here who think that khushi should speak up against shyam and do this and do that my only ques is that if you would have been in Khushi's place would you have done that? If your answer is Yes then please think twice thrice or million times because honestly and very unfortunately you cant do anything or your society will not allow you to do so(this is specificaly for Indian Girls)
I'll tell you one real example from my own personal life,am a young girl of 19 yrs,very confident and aggressive when it comes to something right or wrong,moral or immoral.one day while returning from college in local bus two boys tried to flirt with me and passed really stupid comments and one of them was actually sitting beside me and was constantly tried to touch me in some or the other way and when i yelled at him all the people in the bus started looking at us and the lady behind my seat asked me what happened i told her that he is doing batmeezi and i asked the conductor to please change his seat and the great conductor in return asked me to change the seat instead of telling him and nobody in the whole bus tried even once of helping me,all the people were staring at me like a have done something wrong and i was completely shocked and at the end it was me who changed my seat because there was no one to help me out.
And when i told my mom she just said me that its India,people are very insecure,they dont say anything to a man but to a girl and she aso explained me that people must have thought that may be i was involved with that guy in some or the other way and they thought that may be there are some personal issues. So that means i as a girl was wrong actually without no fault of mine. well thats our society.

standing applause.

i agree.

i quoted my own incident too over a simple blank call from a stalker. it is tough to deal with such things. so people better not get on to the high horse and preach because eventually a girl has to tread carefully

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Flame.

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Posted: 13 years ago

#99

Originally posted by: rima

i loved the comparison of the ink and the cloth. well said. as always I agree with all your points. blame the girl. she has to be strong. she has to be this she has to be that. and the man? oh man! he has a sad past! he has a deep sorrow! he carries the weight of the world! such bias!

Man! the great man is never blamed. Whatever crime that he commits on the girl, people always say, 'After all he's a man but you're a girl. Couldn't you be more careful? You must have only provoked him to do something like this. Now suffer the consequences of your actions. ' Surprisingly mostly its a woman who's saying this to another woman. I have even heard people saying, Woman who do not dress properly and do not take a dupatta in India are the ones who get raped. When girls do not wear proper clothes boys cannot control their aggression so girls need to be careful.

This is the kind of society we live in. Sheeesh!

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rima

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Posted: 13 years ago

#100

Originally posted by: ipkbs
I agree with all the points.

yes it was disgusting but they had to show the extent Shyaam can go to in his abuse when Arnav is not there to protect.

I don't think CVs have crossed limits as many people are saying.
I believe their is a reason for showing this today.

Khushi is a true fighter we have always seen this (in comparison to other sp bahus)

so why was she silent today?
you have to put yourself as a female in her shoes and relate to reality it is not easy to fight back when danger is staring at you.
this week was all about shyaam going beyond his limits.
and being the end of the week he reached an all time low.

Next week we should hopefully see Khushi fighting back to some extent.

and the issue about CVs not portraying the story properly.
i think they are doing an amazing job,