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Sheerin Banu

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Posted: 7 years ago

I was even wondering why Zara Left Nilofer just like that... She could have called reema or imran to help her or at least take her to the hospital. That was really inhuman... No one would do that...

Abidha case, Her Resignation everything is important... Where Zara Seek Reema Help to bring abidha to shariya board But why she didnt do it here. And again she totally Forgot Nilofer.

I find this Zara to be kind of too adamant and neglecting the emotions of the relationships she is having and people around her ... I noticed this behavior from the beginning... With her mom, Her dad, obviously with Kabeer...

She is Right... But Somewhere she is like a Horse wearing Blinkers...She neglecting the emotions of her kiths and kins... When she neglect the emotions of others and she hurt others then she should be prepared to be neglected and hurt by others. Just by begging back and showing love things cant be rectified. It needs a real solution and understanding. She should think before the damage... Y'day Kabeer Hinted that... I mentioned this in one of my previous Post where she argued with that orthodox investor on the Parda concept.

May be this trouble for her is to realize her mistake...

Shabaz Ahamad is right in his point of view...

Why he wants a Bahu Like Zara...

Kabeer don't want her and divorced her. She also stayed in the House Just for Kabeer. She just stayed as his Biwi and Not as a bahu. She never cared about Kabeer's reputation or Ahamed Kandan's Reputation. If we think back She Didn't even care about her Dad's reputation either in many circumstances. She just did what she felt right. She again never listened to anyone. Such people are fit to serve the Society but not really suitable for Family Environment. To Stay in the family relationships and balance the relationship they need to compromise, adjust & give up things for the smooth functioning of the family...

In every family not just Women Kurbani dethi hey... Men do do Lots of Sacrifice for the family. We may Talk a Lot about women's sacrifice for the family But no one talk Much about men's Sacrifice to the Family. Without that no family would function successfully.

Kabeer Divorced her by thalaq- ul-bidhath As it was not in their marriage contract they proceed with the ...talaq-ul Hassan.

His question is right and Zara is also right... If Kabeer don't want to live with Zara why don't he end all this... No Mohabath and everyday he find it difficult to spend because of Zara's adamant behavior...

Zara is also mentally prepared to Face her life without Kabeer... Kabeer has already decided to quit this relationship...otherwise he wouldn't have pronounced talaq.

It was Kabeer. who wanted 26 days to fulfill his Farz as Zara Blamed him that he failed in fulfilling his Farz... He gave no commitments... till today he stayed firm in his stand...

Yesterday Zara had a Clarification from Kabeer like what is their relationship... Which is again Right...

Because Kabeer wants to fulfill his duty as a Husband and again No Obligation on Zara to fulfill her duty as a wife.

Why should she Fulfill her duty as a Bahu... When She was given talaq... She was refused by the family when she claimed her rights. It has become an obligation to allow her stay in the house. No one wanted her to stay even for 30 days. She was kicked out of the inauguration hall. No one cared about her when she went missing. No one bothered to know what she went through during Ruksar and Miraj issue. Kabeer Just mentioned that he would fulfill his Duty as a husband for 26 days and no one should say anything to Zara...So its clear it just an obligation...thats it...

When the family don't treat her as a Bahu and their son is not so ready to revoke his Talaq... then the Family Have no rights to have any expectation on her to fulfill her duty as a Bahu. They don't have the rights to ask her to resign from Shariya Board.

What is the Point to make her resign from the Shariya Board when they Plan to kick her out of the Family again When Kabeer is not ready to revoke the Talaq. So strange. I wish Kazi should keep it on hold till the Divorce Drama ends.

But it somewhere hinted that Kabeer is not going to divorce Zara. This is going to be a big blow for Miraj and Imam. I am sure somewher Shabaz dont want Zara and Kabeer divorce and he is just playing with Kabeer on his Reverse Psychology.

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sravanthi vangala

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Posted: 7 years ago

I agree with your post... Zara's always is implusive her actions with troubles for others...I really don't like way they blames Kabeer for everything and makes every issue men-women...

I really don't understand how she forgot Nilo...I know she badly want to win the case , but you just can't leave a bleeding women on the road, she should have atleast called 108, or went in search of her after the case...she was so carried away with the case...Zara needs a failure to come to her senses...

Though works came from wrong person, Zeenat was right in the hospital scene...and while saying Zara is selfish...she is a good leader but when it comes to her relations she that's it for granted...

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Neetz

@.Jane..

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Posted: 7 years ago

Omg exactly right! Even if Zara rushed to Abida's aid, how did she just FORGET about Nilofer? Her reaction didn't make any sense at all. She didn't even feel disturbed or guilty till the newsflash! Like, how even?

I don't agree with your point on neglecting her relations because from where I see it, this is who SHE is, it defines her! If I were her I would expect those close to me to accept me and stand by me for what I believe in without worrying ki log kya kahenge. I should be more important than the world, nahi? Here, I feel it is her relations which failed her.

But I do agree with your point on her being impulsive. It's good that she's so passionate but she needs to use her head if she wants results. Precisely the reason she lost her case the first two times!

Kabeer is very dutiful. Too dutiful for my liking. It's not often I have a good word to say about him these days because talaq is a VERY sore point for me but I have to give credit where it's due. These 26 days, be it farz which he wanted to show he was capable of fulfilling, Kabeer has made these special for Zara. But I am all for a second talaq, in fact I want it to happen. Till their core issues are resolved, Zara shouldn't hold on to this marriage and that won't happen till they are around each other.

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Sheerin Banu

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: .Jane..
Omg exactly right! Even if Zara rushed to Abida's aid, how did she just FORGET about Nilofer? Her reaction didn't make any sense at all. She didn't even feel disturbed or guilty till the newsflash! Like, how even?
I don't agree with your point on neglecting her relations because from where I see it, this is who SHE is, it defines her! If I were her I would expect those close to me to accept me and stand by me for what I believe in without worrying ki log kya kahenge. I should be more important than the world, nahi? Here, I feel it is her relations which failed her.
But I do agree with your point on her being impulsive. It's good that she's so passionate but she needs to use her head if she wants results. Precisely the reason she lost her case the first two times!

Kabeer is very dutiful. Too dutiful for my liking. It's not often I have a good word to say about him these days because talaq is a VERY sore point for me but I have to give credit where it's due. These 26 days, be it farz which he wanted to show he was capable of fulfilling, Kabeer has made these special for Zara. But I am all for a second talaq, in fact I want it to happen. Till their core issues are resolved, Zara shouldn't hold on to this marriage and that won't happen till they are around each other.

We are living in this world. The world is not made for us. Everyone should understand this. This world is not perfect. Except Kabeer everyone stood by Zara...Again Kabeer stood by her side many times...almost with all media encounters...

Zara is Right if Kabeer Cooperated and Understand Zara's Point of view lots of things would become easy. It will not give way for 3rd people to Mess up with their relationship. This is Kabeer's Grave Mistake from the beginning from Ruksar times...he do this inside the family and with friends...Zara do this in the Public...by announcing they would not stay as Mian and Biwi till this issue is resolved.

Zara is doing this In public. She needs to understand the Pining Points Kabeer and Shabaz is saying. She is not an individual her actions would have reflections on her parents, Kabeer & in laws Respect as well. She has to act by keep certain things into consideration before doing anything. If she is not prudent this would be the case.

Shabaz is trying to behave like Zara. Just by seeing his point of view and staying adamant on his decision and what he believes right for his family and his Son's future... whats wrong if he wants to throw her out of the family.

Tell me What if Kasim and Wasim Catch her while recording the Video. Very Dangerous. If something happen to her respect. She is risking her life as well. It affect Kabeer and Ahamad family and Kazi Respect. She has done such things many times.

Even in that Photo Encounter Kabeer Saved her from getting Slapped. What if that guy Slapped her. Its a disgrace for her. She is risking her respect and everyone's respect.

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Neetz

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: Sheerinbanu

We are living in this world. The world is not made for us.

THIS! THIS is what my problem with the society is! I am not saying the world should revolve around me but I should be allowed to stay true to who I am. Anyway, let's agree to disagree here.

And I don't think people stood by her. Reema yes because she is the only one all for ZARA and for her Zara comes first. That's the beauty of friendship. To an extent Qazi sahab but only towards the end, and exactly who else? None who mattered. Everyone wanted her to give up Abida's case.

As for the video thing, yes she took a big risk but this is who she is! She will put herself in danger if it means getting justice for a battered woman! She can't leave someone in hands of injustice, her conscience won't allow that. I did already say she is impulsive and needs to use her head more, never denied it. But honestly, this was the last resort. Who could she have turned to?

And sorry but Zara never went public with this, not this time. Last time, I agree she shouldn't have caught Kabeer off guard like that. But now, media was planted in the situation and Zara did her best to avoid them. You can't help media pouncing on you and you can't stop doing what you do fearing them.

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Sheerin Banu

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: .Jane..

THIS! THIS is what my problem with the society is! I am not saying the world should revolve around me but I should be allowed to stay true to who I am. Anyway, let's agree to disagree here.

And I don't think people stood by her. Reema yes because she is the only one all for ZARA and for her Zara comes first. That's the beauty of friendship. To an extent Qazi sahab but only towards the end, and exactly who else? None who mattered. Everyone wanted her to give up Abida's case.

As for the video thing, yes she took a big risk but this is who she is! She will put herself in danger if it means getting justice for a battered woman! She can't leave someone in hands of injustice, her conscience won't allow that. I did already say she is impulsive and needs to use her head more, never denied it. But honestly, this was the last resort. Who could she have turned to?

And sorry but Zara never went public with this, not this time. Last time, I agree she shouldn't have caught Kabeer off guard like that. But now, media was planted in the situation and Zara did her best to avoid them. You can't help media pouncing on you and you can't stop doing what you do fearing them.

AGAIN AND AGAIN... Same Zara who is worried about Abidha's Justice left Bleeding Nilofer on the Road.

This means she is being so true to herself...NO... Not at all... She is again Flawed...

Whatever Zeenath Said to Zara is the True reflection...

Justice, She can do it Little later... or she could have called help to take nilofer to take to hospital...

So the Niyath is questioned here. We all know who create this mess, why the media is planted...

Zara risking the life is her mistake she should avoid doing this its for her own good... .. Yes she is what she is ... but that doesn't mean that she shouldn't correct her mistakes... She has to Grow as a person by being more sensible and prudent... To be a Leader she has to be tamed again...

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Neetz

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: Sheerinbanu

AGAIN AND AGAIN... Same Zara who is worried about Abidha's Justice left Bleeding Nilofer on the Road.

Areee, you make such a good point I can't argue with this😆 The makers really should've been smarter about this

What Zeenat said was the right thing coming from the wrong person's mouth. She should be the last person talking about humanity and compassion when she supported her sister in her attempt to kill Zara. But that doesn't take away from Zara's fault in this situation.

But I still stick to what I said about Zara's stand in Abida's situation. Check on her reckless but not change who she is!

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Sheetal

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: Sheerinbanu

We are living in this world. The world is not made for us. Everyone should understand this. This world is not perfect. Except Kabeer everyone stood by Zara...Again Kabeer stood by her side many times...almost with all media encounters...

Zara is Right if Kabeer Cooperated and Understand Zara's Point of view lots of things would become easy. It will not give way for 3rd people to Mess up with their relationship. This is Kabeer's Grave Mistake from the beginning from Ruksar times...he do this inside the family and with friends...Zara do this in the Public...by announcing they would not stay as Mian and Biwi till this issue is resolved.

Zara is doing this In public. She needs to understand the Pining Points Kabeer and Shabaz is saying. She is not an individual her actions would have reflections on her parents, Kabeer & in laws Respect as well. She has to act by keep certain things into consideration before doing anything. If she is not prudent this would be the case.

Shabaz is trying to behave like Zara. Just by seeing his point of view and staying adamant on his decision and what he believes right for his family and his Son's future... whats wrong if he wants to throw her out of the family.

Tell me What if Kasim and Wasim Catch her while recording the Video. Very Dangerous. If something happen to her respect. She is risking her life as well. It affect Kabeer and Ahamad family and Kazi Respect. She has done such things many times.

Even in that Photo Encounter Kabeer Saved her from getting Slapped. What if that guy Slapped her. Its a disgrace for her. She is risking her respect and everyone's respect.

This is what exactly I am pissed off......Why she always wants to be on "HERO" mode always...😡..
Why she always thinks that she alone can solve any dare problem...😕...Zara also needs a hard realty check even if she is right at many places...She can use harsh words for anyone but can't listen when it comes for her...i mean forgetting NILOFAR is such a ridicule act man !!!!!!!!!🤢

Zeenat is right in the hospital...👏...Though i did not like her very much but yesterday she was right...

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sravanthi vangala

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Posted: 7 years ago

Even I really don't like the way she puts forword her world...she is so rude at times...

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neverlandspirit

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Posted: 7 years ago

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I think beyond the matter of right and wrong, don't you think it's refreshing to see a flawed female lead?

Someone instinctive, someone who puts her usool above her family! Its such a new concept. I love the way Zara yet hasn't bowed down to her in-laws demands. A character with strength! A characters with flaws! (Beautiful flaws!)

It's unanimous that Zara shouldn't have left Nilofer the way she did. But beyond that I personally don't think she was wrong anywhere.

Yes, she could have handled the case a little more sensitively but don't you see how desperate Zara was? She was hell bent on saving Abida's and Adab's lives. I would have been truly crossed had she left Abida to her circumstance just to please her in laws.

Also she didn't invite nor provoke media attention. The media covered the story because well, that's their job!

The Ahmed house (Shahbaaz especially) being concerned with what the society may speak about them is such an orthodox and narrow thinking. 'Itni nhi fikr na karo yaaro, aakhir mein log sirf ek hi cheez kehte hai 'Inna lillahi w' inna illahi rajoon'.

Your original claim was that Zara should think about her family's reputation while taking action.

And somewhere I do think, she does. She refrains from doing things that would bring the family shame. Even Abida's case, she got a lot of well wishes. But Shahbaaz was more focused on the bad media.

I think I am speaking quite lot and am failing to make clear connection, Jane has said everything I wished too and in a way I wouldn't have.