Stuck where he does not belong, overlooking the wrong! - Page 26

whoever this is, I totally agree with her. He's made her life worse unintentionally just to avoid his discomfort. He did that earlier too without accepting the marriage but that was acceptable cus uske saath bhi galat hua. But what happened now? And he's doing this after knowing Imlie's character. Does he not remember his mistakes? Imlie looks too naive sitting behind him on the imaginary bike. They are tainting Adilie with these shallow lollipops.👎🏼

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Originally posted by: Chintapandu

when exactly is that krispy ji? don't remember.

And Adi going after Imlie is nothing new, is it? Him thinking of her 24/7, them finding their way back to each other, Malini ghanta kuch karpaaying to stop them with all she and her mom have, all of these are well-established truths that don't need to be remembered.

"So the guy is trying his level best to remind her as to why she gave him a chance in the first place the way he knows, without wanto to face the fact that what she really wants will need him to actually introspect and connect the dots about the one person he would rather be oblivious towards"

I quote Aps ji above and what she said is totally true. And that is what my problem is. He's doing all this for what? For himself. Not for Imlie or her happiness. Are jo voh clearly maangrahi hai, infact the only thing she's been asking, with tears in her eyes every damn time you have a conversation, you don't want to address that for how long? par ye date ka kya matlab? doing those silly actions to make her smile. why??? I appreciate your effort to make her smile but it would be much more loving if you can acknowledge her feelings. I wanted to wait until we actually listen to what he says but the way Imlie got up and left is clear that he didn't give her what she wanted. Again. How long dude? This is really sad.

Now I want to agree with anikal ji when she said no woman should have a husband like him. I mean, if my husband won't trust me despite me asking him to, and tries to make me smile, that would hurt me even more. Arey I don't want to smile, I want you to trust me. Everything else is trivial. I'd rather have him stay silent and introspect than do all this. But yeah I understand that our ostrich Adi hasn't reached that point where he starts introspecting cuz they never had a total conversation as Imlie was walking away each time. So, I'll wait until this date is over. If he's not gonna start thinking even then, I give up man, this is depressing.

Okay, I am going to say something as a longstanding married woman - men never believe anything you say if it goes against their preconceived notions about that fact. While most situations are halka phulka enough to either brush off or hit back with an apt "I told you so" (Which is the best weapon and the most satisfying thing to say when you are proved right by external forces), there are bigger and more difficult situations, where the husband has to make a choice and many a time the wife is not one that gets chosen for multiple reasons. It hurts, but that does not make the husband the worst person on the planet - it makes him human, who is stuck in a situation of his own making, but does not know how to get out of it and is asking your help to do so. Then them on their knees and begging does not give you satisfaction, it just makes you feel even worse than you already feel because you know that while they love you and respect you, at that particular moment, they are not able to choose you, despite them wanting to.

I am being extremely hypothetical here, but the main reason for this was to drive the point that while it is very easy for us to villianize Adi (trust me I know what a dumbass he is - I was the one who started calling him ostrich and got a lot of flak in the forum for calling Adi names😆) I still feel for the guy. He is stuck between a rock and a hard place, and choosing either will put him in a situation where he will be the villian, which he wants to avoid. Which is exactly why a 30+ yr old guy was willing to place his life in the hands of a 19yrs old, when he said that Imlie will decide the fate of this relationship - as he wanted to ensure that jo bhi decision ho, uske sar par bomb nahi phootega. Does that make him an escapist - of course. But does that make him toxic or a horrible person - somewhere I do not agree so. Maybe I am being generous with him, but I still feel that in all this mess if a guy who knows he has screwed up is willing to go all the way to plan a date for you just to make you smile because he knows how much you have been crying in the last few days, the guy still has a lot of redeeming qualities which make him a decent husband in my book. Baaki toh aap log can continue with your Adi bashing - I just thought to add my 2 cents.😆

Originally posted by: Chintapandu

whoever this is, I totally agree with her. He's made her life worse unintentionally just to avoid his discomfort. He did that earlier too without accepting the marriage but that was acceptable cus uske saath bhi galat hua. But what happened now? And he's doing this after knowing Imlie's character. Does he not remember his mistakes? Imlie looks too naive sitting behind him on the imaginary bike. They are tainting Adilie with these shallow lollipops.👎🏼

https://twitter.com/paramsundarii/status/1446067599280836608

Originally posted by: Apsvenky

Okay, I am going to say something as a longstanding married woman - men never believe anything you say if it goes against their preconceived notions about that fact. While most situations are halka phulka enough to either brush off or hit back with an apt "I told you so" (Which is the best weapon and the most satisfying thing to say when you are proved right by external forces), there are bigger and more difficult situations, where the husband has to make a choice and many a time the wife is not one that gets chosen for multiple reasons. It hurts, but that does not make the husband the worst person on the planet - it makes him human, who is stuck in a situation of his own making, but does not know how to get out of it and is asking your help to do so. Then them on their knees and begging does not give you satisfaction, it just makes you feel even worse than you already feel because you know that while they love you and respect you, at that particular moment, they are not able to choose you, despite them wanting to.

I am being extremely hypothetical here, but the main reason for this was to drive the point that while it is very easy for us to villianize Adi (trust me I know what a dumbass he is - I was the one who started calling him ostrich and got a lot of flak in the forum for calling Adi names😆) I still feel for the guy. He is stuck between a rock and a hard place, and choosing either will put him in a situation where he will be the villian, which he wants to avoid. Which is exactly why a 30+ yr old guy was willing to place his life in the hands of a 19yrs old, when he said that Imlie will decide the fate of this relationship - as he wanted to ensure that jo bhi decision ho, uske sar par bomb nahi phootega. Does that make him an escapist - of course. But does that make him toxic or a horrible person - somewhere I do not agree so. Maybe I am being generous with him, but I still feel that in all this mess if a guy who knows he has screwed up is willing to go all the way to plan a date for you just to make you smile because he knows how much you have been crying in the last few days, the guy still has a lot of redeeming qualities which make him a decent husband in my book. Baaki toh aap log can continue with your Adi bashing - I just thought to add my 2 cents.😆

Aps ji, I too feel for the guy. Heck, both of them deserve all the happiness in the world. I'm not saying that he's the worst person on the planet. But he is definitely selfish. And how long will he keep doing this is my question. I've been waiting and am ready to wait more bas don't give me these lollipops, especially when the wife is clear on what she wants and you're doing everything but that. I'm all okay with the date and even his rote sorry like Imlie said but this thing - whatever he's doing to make her smile is not at sitting well with me.

I want to repeat my points I mentioned are the need of the hour the other day, 1. Set clear boundaries with M, 2. Get a divorce, 3. Talk to your wife about her feelings not what you want.

This is all I want from him asap. But yeah drama hona hai toh ye sab honewala nahi hai. I'm too frustrated after watching that sbs segment. Hoping to get back to normal by tomorrow

Originally posted by: .SNOWWHITE.

Adi himself said Imlie is his wife in court😆

Snow ji, he said it 1000 times. does that cancel M's wife status on paper? he still needs to divorce her na? that's what I'm asking for

Originally posted by: Apsvenky

Okay, I am going to say something as a longstanding married woman - men never believe anything you say if it goes against their preconceived notions about that fact. While most situations are halka phulka enough to either brush off or hit back with an apt "I told you so" (Which is the best weapon and the most satisfying thing to say when you are proved right by external forces), there are bigger and more difficult situations, where the husband has to make a choice and many a time the wife is not one that gets chosen for multiple reasons. It hurts, but that does not make the husband the worst person on the planet - it makes him human, who is stuck in a situation of his own making, but does not know how to get out of it and is asking your help to do so. Then them on their knees and begging does not give you satisfaction, it just makes you feel even worse than you already feel because you know that while they love you and respect you, at that particular moment, they are not able to choose you, despite them wanting to.

I am being extremely hypothetical here, but the main reason for this was to drive the point that while it is very easy for us to villianize Adi (trust me I know what a dumbass he is - I was the one who started calling him ostrich and got a lot of flak in the forum for calling Adi names😆) I still feel for the guy. He is stuck between a rock and a hard place, and choosing either will put him in a situation where he will be the villian, which he wants to avoid. Which is exactly why a 30+ yr old guy was willing to place his life in the hands of a 19yrs old, when he said that Imlie will decide the fate of this relationship - as he wanted to ensure that jo bhi decision ho, uske sar par bomb nahi phootega. Does that make him an escapist - of course. But does that make him toxic or a horrible person - somewhere I do not agree so. Maybe I am being generous with him, but I still feel that in all this mess if a guy who knows he has screwed up is willing to go all the way to plan a date for you just to make you smile because he knows how much you have been crying in the last few days, the guy still has a lot of redeeming qualities which make him a decent husband in my book. Baaki toh aap log can continue with your Adi bashing - I just thought to add my 2 cents.😆

Good to have u back Aps ji🤗..Read ur other post also about the date thing.. Was just too caught up with things so replying now.. And +1 to every word there.. Especially the last para... Janmashtami dialogue comes to my mid regarding Adi saying "Humesha tum hi sabkuch karti ho.. Hum kuch karte hi nahi“.. Its his time now to correct whatever mistake he did.. Not going into symbolisms n all.. Bas i too feel so is baar Adi karega jo karega

Bold... Itna sach nahi bolna tha yaar😆.. Thats a fact guven real life scenarios too..

I'm at the moment would say trying to take the story as it is coming without analysing, expecting or predicting things.. Which is making it easier to sit through..

One day I underAdi his feelings his dilemma, other day just want to hit him witg something on his head.. Same goes with imlie too.. Phass gaye hai ye dono in this situation.. They'll deal with it with their roothna manana going on side by side..

Only thing as of now I'm worried is they better have some nice convo tom.. I know koi solution nahi niklega this will be same as the chai date in car but this date has to make Adi to see things atleast..

Originally posted by: Chintapandu

Aps ji, I too feel for the guy. Heck, both of them deserve all the happiness in the world. I'm not saying that he's the worst person on the planet. But he is definitely selfish. And how long will he keep doing this is my question. I've been waiting and am ready to wait more bas don't give me these lollipops, especially when the wife is clear on what she wants and you're doing everything but that. I'm all okay with the date and even his rote sorry like Imlie said but this thing - whatever he's doing to make her smile is not at sitting well with me.

I want to repeat my points I mentioned are the need of the hour the other day, 1. Set clear boundaries with M, 2. Get a divorce, 3. Talk to your wife about her feelings not what you want.

This is all I want from him asap. But yeah drama hona hai toh ye sab honewala nahi hai. I'm too frustrated after watching that sbs segment. Hoping to get back to normal by tomorrow

Chinta ji, boundaries and divorce will come, albeit in the slowest pace possible...why? Because we are all waiting for that day and the makers are milking it to the extreme.😔 They will play the ace when they deem its right, until then they know we are watching and waiting... Well that aside, how does he even talk about divorce with the lady who gave health reasons to delay it as an excuse during the court case? Now, she is pregnant, fainted once, many more to come and the doc has announced she has weak lungs. More siyappa! Why is Imlie not prodding him, because she knows what Malini is doing, is capable off and will try by all means to avoid it. Oh the repercussions of delaying it!! So the entire point comes back to unless AKT believes Imlie and sees through Malini's lies, nothing is going to really change. Malini has become such a psycho- yesterday she made the doc also look like a fool! AKT's stance nowdays towards her is more like "beware she is losing it"! Malini has started scaring everyone around her...

As for this date, I was half excited myself, but as I see his desperateness, I do want him to have this date so they can talk. The man is so emotionally dependent on Imlie, that I believe he is scared that Imlie may leave him. Even if he is the one telling what he wants, Imlie without asking will show him what she feels and asks him all relevant questions...He is probably just gonna assure her with his promises but I do not see Imlie caving in. She is going to give him a big reality check! This date is not going to get anyone any conclusions..if at all we may see it end at AKT ka "bahut dukh hain" look.

I think if he would have not done this, we would have made posts on why AKT is not even trying to pacify or make Imlie smile. So right now whatever AKT does or does not is going to be ridiculed and deservedly so, because until the truth cuts his brain fog, nothing is moving ahead in anyone's life.

As for the date---.what if we get the garam tawa poem recited back to Imlie? Me and my undying hope that it will come back one more time in the show! Sigh! But for now, will watch this date before rejecting it...😊

Originally posted by: Juvvi9

Good to have u back Aps ji🤗..Read ur other post also about the date thing.. Was just too caught up with things so replying now.. And +1 to every word there.. Especially the last para... Janmashtami dialogue comes to my mid regarding Adi saying "Humesha tum hi sabkuch karti ho.. Hum kuch karte hi nahi“.. Its his time now to correct whatever mistake he did.. Not going into symbolisms n all.. Bas i too feel so is baar Adi karega jo karega

Bold... Itna sach nahi bolna tha yaar😆.. Thats a fact guven real life scenarios too..

I'm at the moment would say trying to take the story as it is coming without analysing, expecting or predicting things.. Which is making it easier to sit through..

One day I underAdi his feelings his dilemma, other day just want to hit him witg something on his head.. Same goes with imlie too.. Phass gaye hai ye dono in this situation.. They'll deal with it with their roothna manana going on side by side..

Only thing as of now I'm worried is they better have some nice convo tom.. I know koi solution nahi niklega this will be same as the chai date in car but this date has to make Adi to see things atleast..

Same feeling Juvvi ji

Originally posted by: Whatever765

Chinta ji, boundaries and divorce will come, albeit in the slowest pace possible...why? Because we are all waiting for that day and the makers are milking it to the extreme.😔 They will play the ace when they deem its right, until then they know we are watching and waiting... Well that aside, how does he even talk about divorce with the lady who gave health reasons to delay it as an excuse during the court case? Now, she is pregnant, fainted once, many more to come and the doc has announced she has weak lungs. More siyappa! Why is Imlie not prodding him, because she knows what Malini is doing, is capable off and will try by all means to avoid it. Oh the repercussions of delaying it!! So the entire point comes back to unless AKT believes Imlie and sees through Malini's lies, nothing is going to really change. Malini has become such a psycho- yesterday she made the doc also look like a fool! AKT's stance nowdays towards her is more like "beware she is losing it"! Malini has started scaring everyone around her...

As for this date, I was half excited myself, but as I see his desperateness, I do want him to have this date so they can talk. The man is so emotionally dependent on Imlie, that I believe he is scared that Imlie may leave him. Even if he is the one telling what he wants, Imlie without asking will show him what she feels and asks him all relevant questions...He is probably just gonna assure her with his promises but I do not see Imlie caving in. She is going to give him a big reality check! This date is not going to get anyone any conclusions..if at all we may see it end at AKT ka "bahut dukh hain" look.

I think if he would have not done this, we would have made posts on why AKT is not even trying to pacify or make Imlie smile. So right now whatever AKT does or does not is going to be ridiculed and deservedly so, because until the truth cuts his brain fog, nothing is moving ahead in anyone's life.

As for the date---.what if we get the garam tawa poem recited back to Imlie? Me and my undying hope that it will come back one more time in the show! Sigh! But for now, will watch this date before rejecting it...😊

I agree with you whatever ji

And oh garam tawa 😍 arey aapne mann ma aasha daaldiess.. kal jaise nakli notes laaye the I wish ye bhi laaye ye log. Continuity toh kuch hai nahi. But please ye karlo makers 🙏

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