Originally posted by: MuteButton
So he did say do you want to wear a ring and not the ring. But that does not really change everything that transpired after about it. It is extremely bizarre to keep mementos of a relationship that is non-existent. It is like saying I will let a wound fester because I want to remind myself that I got hurt. Malini is always going to be a presence. Neither Imlie nor Aditya need other reminders of who she is. They did it just to bring it up at some other time when Imlie’s insecurity about her place in Aditya’s life rears it’s head. Imlie is not evolved about anything here sorry, she is just refusing to see things for what they are.
Let’s agree to disagree that Aditya and Malini are divorcing because he fell in love with Imlie. If that is what people are seeing then I guess the makers won. This is what they wanted the audience to take from it all - that Imlie is somehow the third wheel when that has never been the case. Aditya and Malini were inherently unsuited. They would never have lasted under the same roof with our without Imlie in the equation. Dating someone for 7 years is not the same as living with someone for 7 months.
If Aditya is so bothered about the truth, what is really stopping him from telling it. Just because Malini held him back does not excuse his reluctance on that front. He just decided to get taken in by Malini’s talk at that point in time.
Oh I do not say that AM marriage would have been successfull if Imlie had not come in between them. They were completely unsuited for each other, and that relationship would have been a mess. But would they have divorced is a question, as Malini is a lot like her mother. She would willingly keep her head in the sand and show that everything is fine till she can chalo the shaadi just to ensure that she keeps up appearances. What I meant in my post is that Imlie became that catalyst that sped up this disintegration of a relationship and made Adi realize that he never loved Malini and just considered her a friend. Else he would have remained in that galat faimi for a long time, as there would not have been a valid reason in his head to break that relationship, as they would have continued the way they were, just slowly making each other miserable like AC & DC. There seems to be a lot of parallels in both those relationships, where and external catalyst was needed to show how hollow those relationships were.
I have never felt that Imlie came in between Adi and Malini, as there was nothing shown in Adilie's relationship except for an organic progression of compatibility and shared thought processes that got them together. And Adi always resisted being close to Imlie in any way and Imlie did the same (still does as she refuses to believe the current truth of BS being in love with her, Didi ka asar I think), so there was no way that the makers showed me or any of us that AM are divorcing because Imlie came between them. I just said that it is Adi's truth that he could not continue being with Malini after realising his feelings for Imlie because that happened before he realised that he and Malini were incompatible. That was why when Malini made the divorce about her EMA with Kunal, he got mad because he wanted to close this issue about the truth and felt that saying it now will just seem to everyone that he is doing it to somehow shield Malini's wrongdoings rather than accepting that as the main reason for the divorce.