Sushpective: I FEEL.......(Edited Page 7)

Hi Guys,

I have decided something for today...everyday...I write pages after pages to explain my point of view...and what is the effect? Pages and pages of discussion and a lot of times...no change in any feeling...

So, for today...I am not going to debate...we will try something else...I will explain to you what...in posts below...Let me just write something up to express my point of view...

So, here is the thing...human beings are not programmed like a computer ...if this happens ...do this...If that happens do this...We are irrational beings...and if want to argue with me about that ...I suggest you first read some books authored by. Malcolm Gladwell and Daniel Airely...two of my favorite authors, who analyze human behavior and write extensively about it...

OK...so as much as human beings think they are rational...they actually are not...a lot of what we do...how we react depends upon the emotions we are feeling at the moment...our mental status...

So in order to understand why Arzoo or Saahir or anyone else is behaving the way they are...you have to understand what they are feeling...What is their mental status...

Saahir is feeling betrayed because he was starting to fall for Arzoo...even though he hadn't acknowledged it yet...he wants her to be the one...he longs for her care...her attention...although he is not mentally ready for the closeness yet...because...he doesn't want her to even ask a single question about that dark the pain...He wants a relationship...but is not ready yet...H e is not even ready to acknowledge his feelings yet...He tells Arzoo...she doesn't matter multiple times...asks her point blank to stay away...asks her to not have a personal relationship with him...

But when she does...he feels angry and possessive and neglected...add the MU...and he feels betrayed...

What Arzoo is feeling...is hurt by Saahir's Farq nahi Padta...she doesn't matter...uske rehne ya NA rehne se koi Farq nahi Padta...she fires back...it doesn't matter to her either...She will NOT get into his personal space...And guess what...he can't do that either...same rules...she feels rejected, shut out, angry, frustrated ...

The fact of the matter is that both have strong feelings for each other and are extremely hurt by the others harsh words of rejection...

So, after Alviras "understanding" approach to ask Arzoo...and accepting her silence still vouching that she has faith in her faith...when Arzoo enters Saahirs room...she is not ready to face him...Her reasons for not telling him are the same...she doesn't want the matter to come out...about Samaira...that Samaira is pregnant and THAT Zaki doesn't believe he is the father...so he is not ready to commit...Baat nikelgi to Bahut door talak jayegi...is her thought...

Sahir confronts her...with

WHAT ARE YOU DOING IN MY ROOM?

And when she follows and is getting out...more screaming...the tone is accusatory...the trust not visible...the feeling of disappointment because Arzoo is not what she seems to be ...palpable...No words necessary...

Arzoo's reaction is equally emotional...and what sounds like rejection yet again...makes her feel more angry...more emotional...she is fighting this battle...to keep the family interest uncompromised compromising her own name in the process...and he is standing there questioning her ...she reacts...

How could you believe that?

How could you?

And if your trust in me is so little to believe THAT...then there is nothing I can say to convince you...

That's that...you can try and apply all sorts of rational and logic...and morals...and values...and resolve to name calling, characterizing, finding faults... ...and all that...but none of the discussion will change anything ... Unless YOU FEEL...it!

Zaki is feeling sad...For him Arzoo had to take so much crap from KA and Anam...

It is not fair on her...

It is not right...

He doesn't want Arzoo to be accused to cover for his mistakes...

He will tell everyone the truth...

And after Arzoo explains to him why that won't be a good idea...

He feels...

Supported

Loved

Respectful

Grateful for life!!!

Alvira was feeling...

Puzzled

Curious

Bewildered on WHY Arzoo didn't clear her name...

At no point in time she suspected Arzoo though, unlike Saahir...who has had more convincing reasons for the MU...and a bad past...of betrayal (I gather)

After talking to Arzoo...Alvira feels

Reassured

Confident again...

Anam and Kurti feel

Opportunistic...(what's new about that ...right?)

Like hyenas...ready to tear out flesh and bones...

I feel...and talk about your feelings...don't judge, don't prescribe, no should have, or should, don't pose emotions guised as logic..don't argue...just describe your feelings...

You then write two more thoughts...starting with

We will not debate...we will just try and understand how each one of us is feeling, thoughts and hopes...OK?

I will start...

I feel...excited about the developments in the story...Saahir and Arzoo are both confronted by their feelings for each other...It is very romantic...Something BIG is going to happen in Saaz's life...I feel it is going to be good...even though the road to there will be difficult!

I think....Rehman and public pressure is going to give Saahir no choice but to marry Arzoo...

I hope...Saahir will find out Arzoo's truth before getting into the marriage...

And acknowledge to yourselves that these are your emotions...

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Bravo Sush👏 I feel is so required as much as debate is healthy for discussion its the tone that matters a lot and thats where today Arzoo too lost today.

I said this on Jyoti's post and am repeating as Kurti Apa's dialogue was the essence of the episoe:

"Jo baat zubaan na kahe sakeen woh baat khamoshi bata gayi"

Today according to me star was Alvira. Although she wants SAAZ relationship she so much trust Arzoo. Am not sure what is the reason behind it but she was so sure that she can not do so.👏 and then her shooing off the priest was just noteworthy. Despite she loves playing game of Chess with KA she today made it sure that Arzoo is not a pawn👍🏼

Next in line was Sahir- The guy despite going through so much today. He was trying to make sense of what happened. There was a big tussle between his heart and brain. His brain trying to analyse all the evidence whereas his heart not believing what his brain is giving him the message. And in order to understand who is right he confronts Arzoo and is asking a simple question that why is she silent when her reputation is at stake. Although he started with the wrong foot his intensions were clear. He wanted to know the truth and instead of going round the round the bush he communicated with Arzoo directly. I just love this level of communication from the leads. Although he is unclear of his feelings for Arzoo he wants to make things right for her. He is just astonished at himself that how can he judge a person wrong. He needs answer to all his chemical locha and so he asks question.

I loved Arzoo today when she gave back to Sahir saying why does he care? With what haq is he asking and what not.👏 She is in love and is believing everything that SAC told her literally. So she too was confused with his reaction. Her equation is simple - TIT FOR TAT and moreso I belive that her anger is there to hide her feelings and is a weapon to save herself from any unforseen loss.

And i do believe that sometimes silence is better than words as even truth when it comes out at wrong time just will not stand its ground.

Disaster of the day was her Dialogue: Meri Ankhonme🤢 🤢🤢 Seriously this was more like disaster on the dialogue writer part. How many weeks have these two known each other? Are they in relation that they will understand each other's ankhonki language😕 ? This dialogue was used in my fav show but that was after FL went thru hell and have proved herself time and time again and it made sense then but now it was like😲 😲 In the initial day of courtship its the words that matters than action. Then its the action and after few years even silence speaks volume😳 but now 👎🏼

What to say about my Zaki😕 He is just seeing what he wants to see. He feels that Arzoo is doing this all for love🥺 I hope he does not go negative in future as i am really liking the bonding between these two. And you were right its a step ahead then NK.

Since Khamoshi was the essence:

Both SAAZ needs a break- One from fighting his own feeling and other from giving the other some space. Both are hopeless and so are arguing with each other rather than discussing with each other and Koi farq nahi padta is just getting on my nerve. Its not making sense here as their relation has just started. Its just month or two have passed before they have fallen for each other

PS- out of all this i have a big question. All who goes to indoor swimming pool will know what i am talking about. How can Sahir take a breath in the bedroom with Swimming pool with so much humidity around😆 No wonder he is so grumpy all the time😛
They both need to go out in fresh air and Jyoti suggested its time for another Jungle break😃

😆 I feel Sush I should eat first🤣