Why is Kesar Being so Immature?

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trish568

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Posted: 14 years ago

I have been seeing allot of comments conveying hatred towards Gulaal, but is she really the one at fault here?

I mean think about it, if I was in her position I would probably be equally enraged at Kesar.

Kesar is being immature and stubborn. He believes that if he loves Gulaal, if he cares for her, it is absolutely mandatory she loves him back. He cannot expect that in an attempt to force Gulaal into loving him, he will gain her respect.

Bringing Gulaal back into his house was unthinking and selfish. He didn't think about or ask what she wanted, or did not want. He only thought about what appealed to him in the situation, and that was Gulaal's return.

Looking at tomorrows' precap, where Kesar quite passionately voices how he will not eat until Gulaal feed's him, it is as if he is asking her to just display one, symbolic action of love, asking her to just show him that she cares. He represents the man, deeply and profoundly in love, yearning for the love of the woman in his heart. But he must go about it the right way.

Gulaal feel's frustrated and helpless under the circumstances Kesar has created for her, its not fair to her. It is as if she has no choice in the matter, is not up to her to love or to not love Kesar?

I think that Kesar need's to recognize Gulaal's feelings, and be patient. Why is he being so immature? He cannot force her into loving him, if he truly cares for her, he will wait.

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: nureat01

Hmmm, you have a good point. As human being, hes probably going insane that Gulaal will not even show some care or emotion towards him, or even acknowledge his love for her.

But at the same time, Gulaal is a human being too, Kesar is emotionally explicit, if he feel's something he shows it. Gulaal often suppresses her emotions infront of others, specifically her family, in hope of keeping everyone happy. But I think that she has finally lost it, she's growing tired of thinking about everyone else and just want's to think about herself for once. She want's a sense of comfort and calm. But Kesar is creating an atmosphere that is the exact opposite, his passion of course is completely natural for a man in love, but I think that it's too much for Gulaal to handle right now.

She need's more time, and Kesar should try to understand that and just let her be for some time.

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: trish568

She need's more time, and Kesar should try to understand that and just let her be for some time.

And that there... is the main key thing, thats the actual reality he isnt getting through him,

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: Lennie
And that there... is the main key thing, thats the actual reality he isnt getting through him,

That is exactly what I'm saying! I think he is so caught up in his own feelings, that he has lost a grip on reality. Like you said, only when this reality get's through to him, will he be able to aquire Gulaal's love.

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: trish568

But at the same time, Gulaal is a human being too, Kesar is emotionally explicit, if he feel's something he shows it. Gulaal often suppresses her emotions infront of others, specifically her family, in hope of keeping everyone happy.It is this intrinsic difference in their personalities that is further complicating the issue as well...Kesar is very upfront and honest about all he feels and he expresses that...Gulaal is suppressing a lot inside her and unfairly lashing out at Kesar in that frustration too...honestly, Gulaal STILL has some ppl who understand her...her father, Paanbaa...not a SINGLE person shows ANY understanding towards Kesar...just a little understanding would go a LONG way in calming down the situation...and he only asks for understanding from Gulaal because of the unique bond they've always shared...but she is too spooked and too overwhelmed by these complicated emotions herself and is not being able to give him that understanding, rather is retreating into a shell of cold indifference that is further worsening the situation too.

She need's more time, and Kesar should try to understand that and just let her be for some time. I agree she needs time but like I said, it's a vicious cycle...if she stopped TOTALLY cutting Kesar off, he WOULD give her space and time...both their behaviors are worsening the situation for each other...they need some kind of intervention😆

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: trish568

That is exactly what I'm saying! I think he is so caught up in his own feelings, that he has lost a grip on reality. Like you said, only when this reality get's through to him, will he be able to aquire Gulaal's love.

Its no wonder ppl say to him, (when we know he has no taint in his love and soch), but his way of doing things for his sake is what is letting himself down and also Gulaal is seeing that as well, that its own zidd and his own feelings he is thinking about all the time

The solution is to understand Gulaal's pov, coz that there is the reality there that will help him

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: nureat01

That's true, I get what your saying. I guess they are both at fault here. I think they simply need to better understand each other's feelings, and then take action accordangly. They keep aggravating eachother's already negitive emotions.

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: bintus02

Yes what your saying is also relevant, Gulaal is being equally stubborn through her indifference to Kesar. And I'm not saying it is only Gulaal who is at fault, but Kesar has definitely contributed to the present situation.

We need to understand that Gulaal too has a right to express her emotions, because the truth is, she rarely does. Like I have stated in my previous replies, Kesar always freely expresses his emotions, his thoughts, and that is not a bad thing. But Gulaal on the other hand, often suppresses her emotions in front of everyone else, for the happiness of others. Keeping all of her emotions bottled up inside her, she is finally letting it all go. Doesn't she have a right to be stubborn or even a little immature? Doesn't she have a right to be frusterated?

No, Kesar may not be physically taking a gun to her head, but sometimes, people do things that mentally and pcychologically forces us to take specified actions. They do things that force us to confront undesired situations, and put us in undesired circumstances.

Gulaal needed some solace, a sense of calm and rest. Sometimes an induvidual, ecpsecially one who has been through so much hardship and despair, need's to be alone in order to think and reflect. When Kesar brought Gulaal back to his home, he was not thinking about Gulaal's emotions, or her feelings, but was thinking about his own. He wanted her near him, so he took actions that would give Gulaal no choice but to come home, he didn't care to carefully consider Gulaal's opinion and say in the matter.

This situation very much conveys my point of view. It is completely understandable that Kesar loves Gulaal, and he has every right to express this, but by bringing Gulaal home, which is something she did not want, he is implicitly saying that I love you, I want to be with you, near you, so now you should love me, and be with me, and near me.

Don't get me wrong, I am an extremely avid Kesar and Gulaal fan. I find there relationship passionate, uniqe and wholly beautiful to observe, but I do not wan't it to remain in stagnant negativity. I too want Gulaal to develop and express the love Kesar has expressed toward's her, but I do not think that the actions Kesar is taking will encourage Gulaal's feelings.

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