Dushyant-Gulaal-Kesar

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Kasturilover

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Posted: 14 years ago

Hi all,😊

Can you help me with the question that does Dushyant still love Gulaal?

I think that is a nice pairing to me. From what I know Dushyant did like Gulaal at one point in time and now he is a much redeemed and changed man.

I quite respect Sushaant Singh as an actor and I think his pairing with Mansi is quite unique. Both are good actors and would be very good in portraying the feeling of acceptance (from Gulaal's perspective) and redemption (from Dushyant's perspective).

I like Neil Bhatt too and as his character Kesar, I would like him to make his own decisions and be paired with a girl of his age. Its sad to see others deciding for him.

Not that I am against interesting pairing.

But in India a bhabhi is also regarded as a mother or if of same age then like a sister. If I were Kesar and since my childhood always thought of Gulaal as a guardian or family member, it would seem very odd to then conceptualise a lover or physical relationsip with Gulaal.

Yes with puberty, feelings do change, but not so much that you regard people who were your distant sisters or cousins or bhabhis as physically attractive. I know he is married to Gulaal but then that was only a ritual....at least to a boy of that age.

Welcome your thoughts

Thanks

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vasundhara78

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Posted: 14 years ago

please dont take offense to my words but gulaal having physical relp with dusyant is even worse ethically than kesar and gulaal.

afterall the man killed her erstwhile husband. its impossible for gulaal to become his lover.

with kesar, she think sof him as an embodiment of vasant ........ and dont ignore the fact marriages between devar and widow bhabhi is an accepted custom in many parts of india, its not just some fiction being shown just for the sake of the story. just like jeeja marrying his saali ( u wudnt have that much problem with the latter wud u, becuase jeeja automayically dsnt become father to his saali ......... no1 sees it that way )

why u want to close doors on women? just becuase gulaal sacrificed everythign she had for the family, u want her to be in the sacrifing role her entire life and be perpetually unhappy and lonely.

why the oness of idealism is on women always ?

husband can also be a companion and soul mate and not just lover.

its really sad people think of hubby - wifey relationship as merely physical.

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Kasturilover

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Posted: 14 years ago

vasundhara78,

Dont worry I am not offended although from the tone of your post I think you seem very serious about the reply :)

I was simply stating how I would have reacted had I been Kesar. It would be difficult for me to see Gulaal in that light.

As for Dushyant and Gulaal, its simply an interesting concept, that deals with redemption by the victimiser and acceptance/ forgivance by the victim.

It has been explored in some movies. For example Pinjar, where Urmila finally decides to stay and love Manoj Bajpai, who is the guy who kidnapped and raped her and took her away from India to Pakistan.

So for me the Dushyant Gulaal angle is equally interesting, if not more as Gulaal and Kesar.

And while we are at it, specifically on your comment about the fact that people think husband wife is purely physically, well no one is suggesting that. At least I am not. However, as Gulaal's aunt in law rightly mentioned, we are all human and a woman has physicall needs too. Physicality may not be the only thing among husband and wife, but it certainly is a very vital component of this relationship.

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vasundhara78

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Posted: 14 years ago

the whole thing is about ..... we are really quick to label relationships ..... being motherly, sisterly etc etc ....... its unique to us indians, even a woman on the road becomes bhabhi ji , nowadays even a female slightly older becomes auntyji ( personal experience lol) while i have no probs with that i certainly do mind that anythign which dsnt have a label becomes automatically impure.

and that seriously constarints chnaces of rehabilitation .

well from the POV of a woman , a woman can never really forgive a person who killed her husband ( not just any husband at that but a really loving one )..... she can under extraordinary circumstances forgive a person who raped her ( pinjar ), waise as far as my understanding goes rasheed dsnt rape puro , he merely kidnaps her and keeps her. there too it was out of majboori of partition and stigma attached that urmila has no choice but to accept him. she dsnt fall in love with him ever.

also whil ewe are at it too ......... something similar was shown in hum apke hain kaun where surviving saali's marriage was automatically fixed to jeeja ....... n it wa scompletely normal for every one?! no1 even stopped to consult madhuri if she wanted that or not.

why jeeja cudnt look at her saali as sister ? but oh there it is condoned by saying saali is adhi gharwali! there the concept takes an entire new and acceptable dimension. but similar thing between devar and bhabhi is looked down upon . why?

these are the male - female stereotypes .

as for kesar the show has never shown him considering gulaal as his bhabhi . it was always meri gulaal fo rhim. even the day she got married to vasant ...... he said vasant had married the girl i wanted to marry. he has always adored gulaal .

im all for vasant returning ...... but im not so opposed to kesar stepping into vasant's shoes . its refreshing change from the usual clinched story lines we keep seeing.

the thing im really fed up with is ........ we keep trying to idolise female protagonists ....... n the oness of idealism is mostly on females i feel.

im not serious but with time the perceptions can change ...... and its not so bad if the people involved are not related by blood and are ADULTS. yes physicality is a vital part of that repaltionship but basically it is all about being soul mates. which gul and kes already are!

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TitanFan

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Posted: 14 years ago

There is nothing to take offense from ur post , ur not rubbing it on anyone sweety ........

Waise , he respects her and i dont think he longs for her companion ship , they never probed in that area ........

May be later there will come a stage when Kesar may say he might marry tali only if gulaal is willing to marry D .... well anything can happen

but personally , i am against it , I dont mind Gulaal marrying anyone else other than D , the wound he gave her is long forgiven but never forgotten , just she doesnt show it doesnt mean she has forgotten how he longed for her and even killed her love, and locked her away for a night, these wounds never ever heal no matter how much love , respect and effection that person might shower , its always fresh and always in ones memory