Do we have to 'label' relationships?

See the bond and relation betweem Kes-Gul has always been Gulaal-Kesar, its not defined and it was never named as anything she was just Gulaal to him (despite being pati-patni for me thats their identity to everyone and the village but above all they are Gulaal-Kesar and being 'Gulaal-Kesar' means alot)

hello!!!
m new to this forum..started visiting here three four days ago..me never watch d show before but startd watching it with neil entry...
after reading about arguments regarding age gap only one thing came to my mind that y some ppl r making it so big...common guys we hav so many examples in iur society like...
farah khan husband shirish kunder is 8yrs younger than her
kareena kapoor is 12 yrs younger than saif ali khan
saif ali khan was 12 yrs younger than amrita singh ..he marry her wen he was only 20 yrs old n she was 32 at tht time
arjun rampal is also 7-8 yrs younger than her wife
farhan akhtar is 7 yrs younger than her wife
sachin tendulkar is 4-5 yrs younger than his wife
dilip kumar's wife saira bano was 20 yes 20 yrs youner than him..
etc etc...there r still so many..now temme those who r opposing gulal kesar relationship has anything to say abut these real life couples..
i agree wen gulal married kesar.he was a kid but at time there was nothing like physical attraction b/w them...it was just a sweet bond of care frm gulal side n of innocence frm kesar side...but now he is grown up..he is sexually eligible for feeling so but wen he was young he didnt had such feelings but now hav it..common its so natural...nd it is also obvious that there will b some sexual tension b/w them which is quite natural..i dont get y ppl r comparing thier present relation to the past one..it has changed and it has to...nahi toh iska matlab hoga ki kesar is abnormal...kuch bhi kaho hai toh gulal uski wife hi na...

Hey guys 😊iam new to this forum and i have beebn a silent reader till now.😊..but this topic made me speak up😛 I so agree with u RajeevSurbhi👏...hats off to you and your forward thinking darling👏👍🏼. I mean we ppl call ourselves modern😆 and ppl with progressive thoughts but the moment we see something different between a man and a woman or in any relationship we start making derogatory remarks🤢 😡, i dont understand why the hell do we always have to label a relationship between a man and woman🤢 in just three to four categories, if we see a man and woman together they are supposed to be having or should have a) a mother son relationship, b) a brother sister relationship, c) husband-wife relationship, d) devar-bhabhi 😕and if they are Lovers then hell breaks loose🤢. Godddddd 🥱There's lot more to a a man and Woman than these four categories, who was Radha to Krishna😊, Radha was elder to Shri Krishna.....what was the realtionship between Lord Krishna and Draupadi😊....We ppl are okay if a man marries a girl in some serial 14 to 15 yrs younger to him 🤢and also create romantic fantasies around them😲....but the moment a woman who is elder to a man marries him🥱 we start speculating and ridiculing them🥱👎🏼. Gulal and Kesar relationship is unique👏 when Gulal accepted Kesar as her husband it was just to protect him and nuture him😊....not to forget that Kesar was attracted to Gulaal in his own adolescent way😳, he nver considered Gulaal as his mother or sister or even Bhabhi. And now he is no more a kid he is man and is bound to feel attracted to Gulaal😳, she is a beautiful woman 😊and plus dont forget his wife no matter waht the age differences are😊. He is also bound to feel the sexual tension😊 as well since now he is in the same house as Gulaal😊, he now knows the meaning of a Husband and wife😳. It is natural in a man and a woman to feel sexual tension in such circumstances😳...we cannot compare Kesar and Gulaal's past relationship with the current one as the circumstances are wholly different. 😊

Well-said. Firstly , i don't EVER RECALL Gulaal being a maternal or even an elderly figure in Kesar's life . Infact , Kesar always looked at Gulaal as someone he was attached to, was possessive and trusted the most. I somehow always saw Kesar treat Gulaal as his equal - he always looked 'at' her not 'upto' her.

I cannot say much as i have only seen this soap off and on but of what i have seen, Kesar-Gulaal were always just Kesar-Gulaal. Gulaal married Kesar to protect his rights , protect him. I guess she had made some promise as well to someone , right? Was it Vasant?

All said and done, i don't understand this age difference debate. ANd the dimensions of KG relationship being maternal, blah , blah that everyone is talking about, well, just to enlighten them, its in their minds, The writers never projected KG as anything except two attached human-beings. Or was i watching some other serial? 🤔

@ rajeevsurbhi and @ sameera_ori............ u too read my mind😆.............i totally agree with u....
Hi i am a silence reader and sometime only comment in this forum but this topic made me speak up something.....though rajeevsurbi and sameera ori wrote the good points.... so i also want to give my views.......yes, we thing that we r modern and matured but our thinking is backwards as 18-19 century..............As @rajeevsuribhi gave the good example about age gaps people......... but they all r from high society so no people wants to comment on them and so society accept them.......but in case of common people (e.g if common man marry to the girl of his half age then this society will appreciate to the man and congratulate him but if the similar case is in women then , this society will blame to the girl and the couple will boy-cott from society......this is only the true nature of society....moreover in village the condition will be worse then this)......this is the one phase of real society discrimination between man and women ..............
Here also most of the people doesnot accept them as couple they cannot digest it yar becoz the girl age is more then the boy if this case was opposite then this question would not be arise also.......they two r husband and wife yar why people r not accepting them yar and analysing this relation as mother and son..........neither kesher had said mother to her nor she........why people naming their relation in different way.............they r husband and wife and that all......

Originally posted by: Pocahontas

Well-said. Firstly , i don't EVER RECALL Gulaal being a maternal or even an elderly figure in Kesar's life . Infact , Kesar always looked at Gulaal as someone he was attached to, was possessive and trusted the most. I somehow always saw Kesar treat Gulaal as his equal - he always looked 'at' her not 'upto' her.

I cannot say much as i have only seen this soap off and on but of what i have seen, Kesar-Gulaal were always just Kesar-Gulaal. Gulaal married Kesar to protect his rights , protect him. I guess she had made some promise as well to someone , right? Was it Vasant?

All said and done, i don't understand this age difference debate. ANd the dimensions of KG relationship being maternal, blah , blah that everyone is talking about, well, just to enlighten them, its in their minds, The writers never projected KG as anything except two attached human-beings. Or was i watching some other serial? 🤔

Hey Pocu, long time no see

i think all those people who r commenting on kesar gulal relationship are being paranoid. gulal either cud marry dushyant ..... or married kesar , we all know gulal wud have rather died than marry dushyant ......... the man who hated her erstwhile husband and probably had a hand in killing him!

It may not be important to define relationships but it is imperative that the individuals involved understand the relationship as it is. In Gulaal-Kesar's case, its obvious that Gulaal and Kesar have different views about their own relationship. Kesar never saw Gulaal as a mother. He had a mother and sisters enough so Gulaal was his friend, the dearest one at that. Talli came much later but could never replace Gulaal's position even though she self claimed herself as his best friend. Talli was a pleasurable company and playmate...but Gulaal to him became a center of existence. His world revolved around her especially after Vasant and Gulaal's wedding. The way he insisted on dropping her to her mayka and threw a tantrum when they refused to take him... it wasn't a child who wanted to go traveling with his family members, it was his need to be where Gulaal was.

There is a phenomenon explained in Twilight series called "imprinting". The idea is explained as warewolves seeing their soul-mate and imprinting on them...and it didn't matter what age of form the soul-mate was in. In the final book, Jacob 'imprints' on Bella and Edwards daughter...she is a mere newborn infant. How do you explain that phenomenon without grossing out all moral faculties. The writer satisfies the morality of the reader by claiming that there is no sexual connotation to this imprinting. Basically the werewolf that imprints on a child/infant will provide love and care and trust to this person in the form that is required by them at their particular age. He will be a maternal figure when she is a child, a best friend when she is in school and a lover when she matures.

Gulaal met Kesar when he was just entering puberty. She became his best friend, which is what he needed at that time. She became his support. When his parents weren't there to protect him she took on that role. When his parents returned she went back to being his best friend. Now he is a grown man and his needs are different. He needs a wife and not a best friend. So he might expect Gulaal to fulfill that duty too.

Gulaal on the other hand, has no understanding of this relationship from the view point of Kesar. Gulaal has always seen him as Vasant's kid brother, his biggest dream and shared in that dream with him. So now for Gulaal, Kesar is the manifestation of her love for Vasant. Whether this love for Vasant transfers to Kesar in the form of a husband, is to be seen. As far as i cant tell, Gulaal will not accept Kesar as husband. She will not encourage his advancements just the same way she treated Dushyant when he saw her as anything but his bhabhi.

Her current state of reluctance and hurt at the actions and dialogs of Kesar, is not because he is suddenly a grown man and she is viewing him differently. But the hurt comes from a loss of the child that she was once attached to. She has no feeling of jealousy per se towards Talli. But just like a mother who is the most important factor in her son's life has difficulty adjusting to her son's admiration of his new wife, Gulaal might feel certain hurt in some situations. But the fact that so far she doesn't feel hurt by Talli shows that she doesn't consider herself to be that person in Kesar's life. She sees herself as merely Kesar's bhabhi and one of the women who had a hand in raising him. Kesar has always been possessive of Gulaal but Gulaal was never seen claiming Kesar for herself. She never said "Mera Kesuda" or anything as such. Even if she had maternal feelings she understood that Panba was his mother and not herself... she must have never seen herself as meaning more to Kesar than Sudha bhabi or Reva or Devika. But what Kesar thought of her might be entirely unknown to her. And just to clarify there was a time in the serial when everyone saw Gulaal as a second mother to Kesar. Even Panba stepped aside and let Gulaal be the disciplinarian in Kesar's life saying that she is like Yashoda was to Krishna.


Having said all this.. I have a feeling i know what the writers are intending to do with Kesar and Gulaal. :D I have my predictions about Kesar's state of mind and his hate and love and the confusion along with it...how it will be resolved and what will come of it. But I'll wait till the story progresses a bit more to share my predictions with everyone.

@Lennie: I just wished the critics would not just take this as a simple marriage between an older woman and a young child. Why not actually watch Gulaal and Kesar scenes and judge their relationship through a different viewpoint? I don't think these people even watch the show regularly but instead jump to conclusions on what they've heard. As usual, I agree with everything you've said :)