These are my observations of the story and how it is being perceived by audience and why their viewing experience is ruined. 😲
As far as I understand the story, it is so close to real life marriage. There is love, there are expectations and heartbreak when they are not met. Especially when two good people with their own mind, who are equal partners come together there is bound to be friction. This is the story of any modern working couple where they live together in a joint family.
the good thing about both Sai and Virat is that they don’t change themselves at the core due to the other person. They are highly individualistic people. They have their own way of looking at things. Their actions never caused difficulties to others but while pursuing their choices they hurt each other. They fail to work as a team! And that’s how a couple in marriage eventually learn, to work as a team by understanding what the other ‘expects’ from them. For all other people they might be givers, but they become takers inside their relationship. It is impossible to behave the same with your spouse as you behave with others. Because of the ownership that you get over the person. That’s when you cross the boundaries of abuse.. emotional is easy to cross .
Sai for all her selflessness does expect virat to prioritize her! She expects her father kind of involvement in her life. Also not being his first choice, being younger to him which is identified as her immaturity by virat and hence it plays with her mind too! Living with Pakhi had aggravated her insecurities. She competes with pakhi subconsciously not knowing that Virat never compares them! Just imagine why she will not return to him when they lost the baby?! As nutty said, the fight would have resolved if virat had come to take her back in the bus station and assured about pakhi not involving with the baby. It is simple. But the way she was made to feel in this whole mess needs a deeper understanding of her fears and lack of trust on him. She sees him as a member of Chavan family, as a father who craved for the child, a husband who is mad at her but not as someone who finds meaning in her existence, that irrespective of everything he will still want her!
Virat who is so sensitive about others issues, their feelings and thoughts becomes utterly insensitive to sai’s. He expects her to understand him because he doesn’t cheat or they are good in bed!! For Sai kind of woman, it doesn’t matter unless you don’t give the respect and importance that she deserves in a relationship. Sai was constantly sidelined when he went and helped others . He never made her a partner in his actions! She was made to feel like the third person who gets all his affection but not the importance. For a person like sai this can be humiliating. She cannot tolerate it after some point and threatens to leave hoping that he will stop and show her what she is to him. That’s why when he stopped her by force and right after his bullet wound, she was elated. She needs that assurance that he needs her. Not just as a lover but confidante. Virat doesn’t understand this. And whenever she leaves him he feels she never wanted him as a romantic partner or husband. That she could leave him anytime she wants, even after being conjugal with him and bore his children. He doesn’t understand no amount of his love can fulfill the negligence she is meted out. She is leaving him not because she loves him any less, but she needs more respect to keep her tied to him and his toxic family. It is easy to not respect your wife in a marriage.
this is what KD is all about! It is how you communicate and understand what the other person in the marriage wants. I think this separation will bring that realization in both. That’s why pakhi was never an issue. Their own unresolved expectations was the issue. And this happens in every marriage. Leena brought this out very well. Rono craves physical relationship, not limited to only s*x. The fact that she stays with him, irrespective of circumstances gives him confidence and security. He feels threatened or disposable if she leave him. He doesnt understand no amount of physical love or affection or care can assure Emon of her place in his life. she wants a bigger role in his life. The need to feel that she is worthy of sharing his emotions, his promises to others. The respect that comes from prioritizing her in his every decision. Similarly, Virat should stop worrying that leaving him doesnt mean she loves him or desires him any less. That she can find another man in his place. Instead he needs to understand why she came back to him everytime, why she does so much to his family if he is nothing to her!!
I was going through post ujjanpur track sequences, and the first thing Rono asks Emon after they meet is to spend the night with him. He needs that assurance. Emon feels disappointed that he didnt ask her to come to the house but when he leaves the decision to her, not force her, accept that she has been hurt by his actions, then she herself will say she will stay with him. They kind of understand what each other wanted from them. Rono wants her to stay with him, and Emon wants him to consider her decisions in their life. I dont know how they will show all these here, but one thing the separation should do to Virat is to understand her value in his life. Going by that, he will NOT be mad at her. He lost her to death, not anything less. Sai will understand that, he might look happy and unbothered by her non existence but he will live a half life without her. That she completes him.
Having said all this, Vankar was unsuccessful in bringing these raw feelings in traslation. Not sure whether they can show a man like Rono to Hindi audience. May be showing him too amorous for his wife is offlimits?!. Rono is misunderstood as MCP in KD because he comes across as physically demanding...we forget that he was the man who was ready to let her go at one point of time. Vankar doesnt bring this side of Rono in Virat. His raw passion is lost in the softer Virat. The softer Virat confuses us when he behaves harshly with Sai. If you show his raw passion, then you understand when he accuses her of affair everytime she wants to leave him. You will see his insecurities, his reason to tie her down with a child. Sai is not so much lost in translation, but her jealous side, her fear of not being the most important person in his life is also lost. Emon fights with Rono wildly when she was sidelined by him. Here Sai is shown more enduring. Basically, their issues are lost and the focus shifts to third angle. Pakhi was just a conflict. She was there to highlight the real issues in SaiRat's marriage. Added to that, offscreen equations damages the plot beyond imagination.
NeilSha successfully enacted Sai and Virat till they accepted their marriage. They were so relatable. But After remarriage, their raw and uninhibited side which we see in a couple is not translated well. It is unfair to blame the actors when the makers are not ready to show the emotions properly. Moreover, the surrogacy track is viewed from offscreen equations making it the worst track to endure...atleast in this forum. If you remove this third angle and see, the story is still about SaiRat however badly they translated it.
So my request to forum people is to not bring offscreen equations here. Enjoy the plot for what it is! :)
Edited by sadiltl - 3 years ago
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