Emotionally immune and Insensitive

After a lot of introspection and procrastination, I have reached the conclusion that I have probably become emotionally immune and insensitive. Well that’s what I can deduce from the symptoms. Help me prove otherwise

Today’s scene was not unique, one of its kind. It has been repeated a zillion times and we have watched it in many different settings. A character is misunderstood and his/her family ill-treats them, abusing, calling names, etc. Déjà vu. And there is my problem. It all looks familiar but I just dont feel sad of the poor character. Déjà vu only wrt the scene, but none when it comes to emotions or reactions. Sympathy for Virat - zilch! Why? Can I blame the number of times such situations are shown? Nope. This is an exception. I blame Ghum for this.

Keeping aside the debate of him helping a naxalite and being a traitor. Though here I just want to refer back to the time he pointed out to KJ for ill-treating Jagtap even if he was a criminal. So he can chose the level of treatment with criminals based on his own dynamics. Convenient much!
Yes he has worked it out like a novice. He is an IPS officer, he ought to be smarter than this. And is this how he is going to save Shruti from the police if he couldn’t even manage to hide it from his family? Make me feel sense here.
Then he goes around blowing the trumpet in this mind “I have done the right thing. I’m going against my family and sacrificing everything for my promise, I’m bearing all the torture for my family’s safety. This is a brave act and they will all feel guilty for treating me like this one day. And will apologise to me for treating me this way. Because I can never do anything wrong”! Have I put down all the points to summarise his monologues and self pity talks? Why do we even need a rule book or any other reference points? Why worry when “Mahaan Virat Chavan” is here? He is a single point absolute repository to define right and wrong.

Its been atleast 1.5 years (please forgive me, ghum gets my mind do zumba in terms of timelines) since Sai has started to live in CN. And its only been since the past few days that I feel the the guy has a voice to defend against Pakhi. I don’t deny he hasn’t in the past. There has been a progression from “mute” to “bas” to “bas Patralekha”. With the recorder “tum meri dost ho”. What kind of dosti, I still need to figure out. How is she a friend, well no idea. Probably no one ties a friendship band to him on friendship day. So maybe that’s the purpose. Or else I don’t think anyone sensible will be friends with someone forcefully. He gets the voice to defend himself. He knows Pakhi is instigating to he retorts, she tries to place the blame him and he snubs her. Where was this voice when Pakhi called Sai a nurse, gold digger and what not? Convenience? She was somewhere right when she she blamed Virat for Sai’s misery. He is indirectly and directly the reason always. Though I did laugh when she said that she never thinks ill of anyone🤣🤣

If I have to put down this in short , how to sort this in a few straight sentences without revealing the entire story that would have really helped the situation

1. Shruti is not my wife

2. Sahas is not my son

3. Shruti is my friend’s wife and Sahas is their son

4. My friend is no more, so I have to help them as I promised him. (The world knows about his pakki zubaan)

5. There is some threat to their lives, hence the secrecy. And I’m unable to divulge any more details

Is this that difficult when most of it is out in the open? Is it any more tongue twisting than. Without sounding crass, trying to derive the meaning of his jalebi words (the ♾repeats) without a background.
1. “Shruti aur mera waisa rishta waisa nahi hai”. To bhai kaisa hai? Bhavani wanting a grandchild and Sai was not yet ready to give the marriage a chance. Was this an alternate to help Sai by fulfilling Bhavani’s wish?

2. “Maine kuch galat nahi kiya hai” - Sai was right in assuming the meaning. And she still defended him. Its not wrong to love someone. And if this marriage was a compromise and with a due date she can’t expect him to not have a personal life of his own. He has a right to live his life as well.

3. Shruti aur Sai ki barabari kar bhi kaise sakti hai - Exactly! One is a wife owing to a promise given to guru, a responsibility. The other is someone here has fallen in love supposedly. How can one even compare right?

Connecting the dots! My logical brain only connects this way with the given resources and explanations by the “Great Virat Chavan”. Guess the family is as dumb as me. Don’t even know how to “connect the dots”🤦‍♀️
Ninad talking about his death, now I know where Virat gets his emotional exploitation from. Exactly what he does to get reaction from Sai. The sadist in him loves to see Sai getting emotional at the mention of him being in danger. Sadist? This word is so overused now. Can we have a better one. He qualifies for a unique one.
But despite all this I fail to feel sorry for Mr Mahaan! The makers trying to make the family treat him badly, Devyani pushing him down etc, is all to gain sympathy and for the family to regret their actions in a big way. But I failed to sympathise today and I know I will regret their guilt and apology tomorrow when the truth is out! What’s wrong with me??????

I think the conclusion that you are insensitive or immune is incorrect. Its impossible and completely rational for us all to NOT feel any sympathy for a guy when he has not even attempted to reassure his wife/family. If he had tried hard to placate them and shown guilt on his monologues for hurting them instead of arrogance, I'd feel bad for him. In this whole situation he is the one who knows the full truth , they dont. So even if we put aside the ridiculous naxalite sheltering and assume that virat had no other option to protect an "innocent" Shruti other than pretend to be husband/father of her child and cannot reveal the full truth- EVEN then the onus falls on him to speak to the family and Sai in a manner where they feel reassured. He needs to calm them down. Their questions are appropriate. No one is going to watch silently if he comes/goes as he pleases or chooses to ignore his own wife and family for something that they have found out is not even official- because DIG flat out said- he didn't know any Shruti and Shruti isnt related to the case.

So in such a situation if he displays arrogance, self importance and self pity where hes speaking in this condescending manner to all- no one will take it. In his head his narrative is - ki tum sab toh mere mortals ho, mein devta hoon aur jab aapko pata chalega, you will all have to apologize to me, fall at my feet and regret your behavior, eat your words. Thats his attitude. So when he talks to the family he spins stupid jalebis that dont give anyone any clarity. Theres a lot he could have said without revealing everything. He is making them believe he is involved with Shruti with his vague responses.

How hard is it to say- You guys know I love Sai, I would never cheat on her. This woman is not really my wife. I cannot tell you more now but just believe that I only love Sai and would never cheat on her with anyone. Simple.

Instead he says theres no comparison between Sai n Shruti. Ok . But why?! Say something to demonstrate how they are different in your life. Show us that Sai is your priority. He has utter lack of guilt or sympathy to see how broken Sai is but instead he blames her for not trusting him. How can she if you don't give her any security, any information.

He didn't even care to run after his wife Sai despite seeing how shaken she was at the hospital.

So how does any sane person feel sympathy for this kind of guy?!

I just can not resonate this character...just can't 🤢

Extremely self absorbed, always wants yes people around him that's the plain truth..

His love for Sai is just a fantasy that's it.. Virat admires many qualities in Sai but doesn't want to live with those.. Because sai is not the person who would satisfy his ego..She is idealistic and very honest..

I have concluded that he is the breed of his own and there is none like him..his bg score should be plates tootna why instead of those aaaaa👹🎵🎶 as asmi pointed out

I think it's pretty much clear that they are trying to hit Virat to new lows, make audience and family hate him, then voila, sahi waqt arrives and he was not that bad afterall, everyone feels guilty. Each of the other character including Pakhi is getting sensible dialogues, the audience's voice, except this one. There is no sense of sympathy, reasons are obvious, rather there is irritation at him when he starts his self victimisation talks and talks about kismat and stuff. It is not kismat but informed decisions.. decision to keep promise above duty, decision to keep other lady above family and wife, decision to not tell the truth, rather project it as if you are having an EMA, decision to live in with her. I still don't understand what is the reason to be so proud of betraying the country and portraying a wrong picture of the police department, as some cruel entity, fgs you are not being a martyr or patriot but a selfish sadist who wants other's apologies for your wrongs. I think the level of hate or disgust or irritation one can feel for a particular character is also reached its threshold, now it doesn't matter, especially with Sai not around to see her husband's behaviour and scandals, so it doesn't matter that much.

The main issue is in the writing. Just to bring up the melodrama quotient, the writers mess up their own work with these unnecessary jilebis. Are they really that stupid to not see what this is doing to the whole plot? Even today they had the golden chance to help Virat dig out of the hole he dug himself in- Just give him good lines. But NO! We just believe in continuously butchering him and alienate viewers. Was the initial Virat suffering from such a huge Mahaan complex? Well he still had it but not this huge right? Or did I miss something? We are again back to stretching gum just for episode numbers and trp. Ugh!!!

OH all and everything I want to say, but honestly no patience. Everytime Virat goes with mera dard dukh, with Aa aaa aaaa aaaaa aaaaa in background I want the CN wasis to slap him... I wish Kaku gave him one while shutting him up. Kaku was bang on there to give his bakwaas a shut up call. And Aai as well when she said he likes people when they support him and do not when they dont...That is what it all has been like right., be it ousting drama or locking up drama... Regarding Pakhi I have always said, he speaks when he wants to, he choses to just let it be.. EVen he can shut up the family when he wants, the way he fought for Shruti and her rights, he has never done it for Sai.

True that!

One line . That he loves Sai and she is his only wife. Period. He could have gone on maun vrat after that🤦‍♀️

He refuses to speak clear statements. Its always indirects, like playing crosswords. The rare times when he speaks something sensible it lacks conviction. He becomes meek. What will one make out of it.
Another thing I dont understand is that he can quietly stand and listen to all such allegations, but he doesn’t have the courage (will) to confess his love? Which sounds more difficult? Confessing love or being character assassinated and misunderstood?
As u mentioned, and I have spoken about it before, he is the only one who knows the entire truth, yet he refuses to see or acknowledge the pain and hurt of others. Instead is blaming them. And Sai with her limited knowledge and understanding of the truth is being considerate and doing her best to save others from pain. Thats what makes him even more disgusting. ME n only ME and rest can go take a hike🤦‍♀️

I swear! He admires Sai’s qualities but he can’t live with them. Because they dont resonate with his thought process. He wants someone who will customise themselves accordingly to his whims n fancies. Like the bff.

The bg just gets on my nerves. 💿🔨

But that’s the twist. The audience knows the entire truth unlike the family. And yet they cant feel sorry for the “manhandling” by Devyani or the taunts and allegations by the family. Which the makers fail to understand

Originally posted by: sherry_24

But that’s the twist. The audience knows the entire truth unlike the family. And yet they cant feel sorry for the “manhandling” by Devyani or the taunts and allegations by the family. Which the makers fail to understand

Waiting for more 'manhandling' in the form of atleast a slap from kaku... would be well deserved for the character..the way they are writing the character and the actor is performing, can't feel an ounce of sympathy...be it by manhandling or death threats... nothing is working. And whatever 'insult' he is facing, seems less as compared to what he has done