A Pattern in the show

Yes, I have stopped watching the show (almost🤣)

Don't blame me. Blame my insta😆

This is not Virat v/s Sai. I'm not supporting Virat. He has made hineous mistakes. But I rarely have expectations from male leads-the reason why I seldom watch TV shows😆

1. A hero makes mistakes and these are romanticized.
2. A heroine is always right. Even if she is wrong, her mistakes are either whitewashed or hidden.

Ghum has done one thing correctly. Virat's mistakes are not romanticized like in other shows where the hero gets the heroine jailed and they play romantic music in the background🤣

But in the department of the heroine, even Ghum makers failed.

Ok so here is what I want to say:

Sai wants to go to Pulkit's house. Nobody knows why. She doesn't tell them anything. She acts stubborn.(Mistake)

Virat grabs her wrist and holds it tightly. He denies her food. (Bigger Mistake)

Sai goes behind Virat's back and lies to him, gets Devyani married. (Mistake)

Virat throws her out of the house.(Bigger Mistake)

Sai hurts Virat, acts insensitive, blames him for two timing, gets his transfer cancelled. (Mistake)

Virat acts insensitive, hurts her with words, and ultimately locks her up in the room. (I'm not sure which mistake was bigger in this case)

In Ajinkya case, Sai did nothing there, as far as I can remember. Virat was to blame.

But I'm not playing the blame game here. All I'm seeing is a pattern. Sai makes a mistake. Virat makes a bigger Mistake. Sai's mistake is covered beneath all the layers.

Why CVs? Your ML and FL both are flawed. Then why do you highlight Virat's mistakes and Sai's mistakes get hidden under his mistakes? You even go to the lengths of showing her blamed falsely, for things she didn't do. You made her apologise for no mistake of hers. Using reverse psychology, you make viewers sympathise with her. But you don't show her being blamed for things she did do. When she can apologise for the mistake she didn't do, why can't she apologise for what she did do? She had apologised for saree incident but you played it to the level where ultimately she got sympathy by making everyone target her again and again.

When Virat makes a mistake, it's not only highlighted, he regrets and apologises. Why can't you show Sai doing the same? It won't make her a lesser human being. It will make her a bigger human being. All the female leads need not be perfect. Imperfection has its own beauty. Then why try and hide her mistakes? Why can't she act like a normal human being? Who makes mistakes and apologises too.

Instead of showing this pattern, let her also grow as a human being. I have seen it, forever. A heroine has to be perfect. Even if she makes a mistake, it has to be hidden instead of letting her accept, apologise and grow. A heroine can also be a human being. She doesn't have to be a superwoman. All her flaws need not be hidden.

So what if she won't look perfect?

So what if her mistakes are not whitewashed/covered.

So what if she's not perfect yet?

So what if she grows as a human being?

Why all the heroines have to be either too sanskari that they are ready to put their heads under others' feet or they have to be too arrogant to admit their mistakes and be better. Why???? Why do you have to show a heroine as the only victim in the world?

*Edited by DT*

DT

Kindly refrain from discussing about other shows/character

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GHKPM DT

Sai's mistakes were neither whitewashed nor hidden.. She was rightly called out both in the show and lot of them were had pointed out by FD..If I am NOT wrong I have many times have mentioned her childish acts in the forum.. Virat mistakes/crimes are highlighted more because he goes beyond the measures..

The problem is we are used to seeing a cardboard heroin all the while.. But Sai is more human.. She is thoroughly flawed.. Sorry if I hurt u I can't label virat as human anymore..He needs to be human to be flawed....Samrat is flawed and he also acted insensitive leaving his widow mother behind for an woman..

Though I agree Sai's impulsive nature is always getting her into trouble.. She needs to think before act.. Virat is her husband NOT her Aaba to put up with her childishness even if it's a deal marriage..She at least should regard him as her guardian if not husband.. He is the man starves for her whole day if she doesn't eat.. He is the man to whom her dying father gave her responsibilities....

Actually the story is circling around since the lady one year.. Virat does something very stupid leading Sai in trouble then a remorseful Virat acts all lovey dovey to his cute wife...

They have spent so much time with each other but still NO respect in their eyes...At least today Sai was great full for what he did for her till date..

They are forcefully introducing mindless track in order to take the drama quotient.....whatever they are throwing NOT so entertaining..

What Sai does can be called impulsiveness at best, what Virat does is pure inhumanity, they aren't mistakes. They shouldn't even be put in same bracket at any aspect. None of Virat's barbaric acts have any good intentions behind it unlike of Sai's so-called mistakes which are always nitpicked, overly analysed through magnifying glasses cos she hardly gives any major reason to bash her that's why she's always being nitpicked to find reasons to bash her to put her in same bracket as Virat just for the ship, so I disagree with Sai's mistakes being hidden. I don't think Virat's inhuman acts get highlighted at all, it's there to witness with our eyes only. Sai's mistakes never gets white-washed or FLs instead MLs of ITV get white-washed the most doing biggest misdeeds, get away, the blame is put on the villain. He was the root cause of everything but Pakhi's now the only culprit cuz she's turned full-time villain. He's enabled Sai's abuses, never put an end to Pakhi's advances towards him. They're always forgiven after shedding few tears & we go like aweleeee bechara he's so sorry of his actions, then he goes doing the same in never ending repeat cycle. Virat's graph is still the same which he was at the beginning.

Also, Sai called him out for sailing on two boats which he clearly does, not two-timing, also his character, behaviour & morals are questionable, he's the same guy who promised to keep his bhabhi in his heart for lifetime 🤔

Also, what's the use of such regret when you keep doing it again & again. Zero growth. Apologizing & crying after a push everytime isn't redemption in my eyes. Lastly, you can't differentiate what's worse b/w domestic violence & locking up in the room and Sai's behaviour on the anniversary episode? Okayyy 😳

Sai being unapologetic is a false notion, she's always apologized even publicly for faking drama of her death to Trimurti. Virat's apology means nothing. Sai was about to apologise & ready to face Virat's anger which she knew shouldn't have done during DevKit's marriage without his knowledge (although bolke kiya faydah he'd have had blind faith in his family & we know what kind of kaabil ACP & his investigation skills are during the fake letter kaand) but Virat didn't give her a chance to share her side of story. So why would she go & apologize after Virat does an inhuman act, treats her like shit? That's not how it works. Sai still shows her gratitude towards the toxic insufferable man-child & his family for letting her study, give her basic necessities, shelter but same can't be said about her so-called husband. Sometimes I wish why Sai hasn't ever reminded him or his family that he's still alive, breathing today only cos of her late father.

Also, if anyone who acts all self-righteous here it's Virat who has zero righteousness in him, all he does is big talks. Talking about being mahaan he's the same ACP who forgave his own criminal uncle knowing his deeds after crocodile tears of his Kaku! No offense you say you're not doing blame game but your entire post reeks of some sort of wanting justice & anticipatory bail for Virat.

Compared to other ITV FLs Sai's still different & imperfectly perfect, unique, flawed FL although she keeps going back & forth in b/w the mahaanta of other FLs at times. Virat's so-called flaws aren't flaws it's plain toxicity & straight-up abuse. And generally ITV FLs are shown victims most of the times cos women are actually the victims in our real-life society as well.

That's exactly what I have been saying for so long and you have written it so perfectly. 👏

Sai does a mistake, we criticize her. Then in the next episodes her mistake leads Virat to do a bigger one and we bash him. Virat will make mistake and apologize. I am tired of it. Sai will do mistake but hardly will say sorry. I am tired of it too. I am tired of the same old formula. 🤢

It's time they show us something different for once. Why not reverse the role ? Yeh kafi hai to bring a change. 🤣 I mean we can't expect much from the writers. 🤣

This topic has been discussed to death in here..since past few days 😆😆

Please do CC the ghum makers

No offense to your post..just saying 😅

Also to add Virat apologises and gets back to being inhuman again every single time...and does not realise his mistake till 10 people tell him or Sai is in danger...So the whole point of apology is lost... That also needs to be worked upon.. For instance he is not realising even after being told how wrong it is to lock a human being , his wife in a room because he wants to teach her the ways of life , for hours... DOnt show him apologizing when he cant follow it.. he gets back to being his abusive self yet again.. Also after saying sorry he asks not to discuss anything about it...is that fine ..when you have the himmat to abuse ..have the courage to listen out to her, if she wants to talk about the abuse...

Honestly speaking.....both their mistakes are handled badly.

Sai's mistakes are never addressed properly.....these two never have a talk after any huge setback. Now, who in real life engages in public spats while reserving their private space for cute nok-jhok?

She absolutely needed to apologise for the DevKit elopement and her 'two-timer' comment.

I'm not at all happy with the way Virat's remorse is handled either.....one apology later SaiRat are back together . And the humiliation and pain of the victim is never addressed. In all the cases, his realization is not unconditional....he realises the gravity of his actions only after Sai has been proved to be correct or having 'saaf dil'. There should have been either sufficient introspection on his part....or should have been shown taking therapy....but he happens to keep repeating his abusive/toxic pattern.

I do agree with the FL part....she should be a person with a lot of flaws just like we all are....need not be selfless....and need not be mahaan.

Originally posted by: MuguetDScorpion

That's exactly what I have been saying for so long and you have written it so perfectly. 👏

Sai does a mistake, we criticize her. Then in the next episodes her mistake leads Virat to do a bigger one and we bash him. Virat will make mistake and apologize. I am tired of it. Sai will do mistake but hardly will say sorry. I am tired of it too. I am tired of the same old formula. 🤢

It's time they show us something different for once. Why not reverse the role ? Yeh kafi hai to bring a change. 🤣 I mean we can't expect much from the writers. 🤣

Exactly. The same pattern over and over and over again🤔

Bold: I hope notbut italics is true though🤣

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

Honestly speaking.....both their mistakes are handled badly.

Sai's mistakes are never addressed properly.....these two never have a talk after any huge setback. Now, who in real life engages in public spats while reserving their private space for cute nok-jhok?

She absolutely needed to apologise for the DevKit elopement and her 'two-timer' comment.

I'm not at all happy with the way Virat's remorse is handled either.....one apology later SaiRat are back together . And the humiliation and pain of the victim is never addressed. In all the cases, his realization is not unconditional....he realises the gravity of his actions only after Sai has been proved to be correct or having 'saaf dil'. There should have been either sufficient introspection on his part....or should have been shown taking therapy....but he happens to keep repeating his abusive/toxic pattern.

I do agree with the FL part....she should be a person with a lot of flaws just like we all are....need not be selfless....and need not be mahaan.

But why makers can't bring positive changes to the story to make it better is a mystery best known to them🤣