Sai kam se kam do dhai kitaab toh padthi hai. Yeh na books padta hai, na logon ko.
I am sorry to say that I have always been disappointed with him in this regards.
If he had to, he would have already. If he didn't, then he will have to learn his lessons and that day, I won't feel sorry for Virat.
If he did and trying to ignore it is wrong.
Trying to ignore her thoughts, her advances for any reason is wrong. She stays in CN or not, whether he promised or her not, brother's wife or not, he has been encouraging her thoughts indirectly and hence wrong.
He is married and so is she. She is married to his brother. I have always been confused, though I have been surprised with his statements. I was confused if I should be happy or angry with him. I have had a mixed feeling about it.
"Tumhaari sacchai kya hai, mujhe nahi pata, yeh meri sacchai hai."
What does it mean? That you doubt she could have something in her mind? You have a doubt that she hasn't come out of her past? Or what is it?
"Mein aur Sai pati patni hai, humarey rishtey ka izzat karna seekho, ACCEPT kar lo"
I understand, "ACCEPT" karlo, though sounded too good, raises a lot of questions in my mind.
He thinks she is not able to accept it, is fair enough. Does he think she isn't doing it because of waada or because of their past?
And if it is their past, he is referring to, then even if his intentions are right, he shouldn't have ever spoken to Pakhi the way he has been. He shouldn't have said, chalo Pakhi tum Samrat ke baare mein kuch baat karna chahthi thi na and take her out to go and talk.
Just like how I am having a mixed feeling about his understanding of Pakhi, looks like he too is having it. If he has it, he shouldn't barge to her room even to complain about Sai in his jealousy. He wouldn't look at his mom and Pakhi shocked, when his mom said, that he need not be having his food in her room.
These mixed feelings of whether he knows about her thoughts or not has been there since long, not only when he uttered these dialogues, from his expressions and many things that he spoke in past. Even on the day of admission, he said, no one should have a problem if me and Sai spend time together and looked at Pakhi. That day, I really liked it and he did draw a line. He wasn't to be blamed for her mistakes and advances. Especially those days, he was very clear. Would have been good if he continued to be that way.
The night after Amay's incident, he was too emotional, but please, a simple statement, leave me and my wife alone would do. Even if she means that she will pack her suitcase, let it be. If he has so many expectations from his wife, that he had just expressed in anger, he then should also know how to build a foundation in that relationship. Asking a 3rd person to stay out of it, just the way he did to Bua or Aai earlier.
And do you know the most hated dialogue by Virat for me?
"Do dhai books padne se kuch nahi hota hai, logon ko padhna aana chahiye." This is why I started with that statement too.
I hardly use 18year old tag for Sai. Use it when she was broken after her Dad's death, not to justify her behavior, but to feel her pain, her grief.
In this case again, I am using it. Dude, she is 18 years old and you expect her to be able to read people, you are 28 or 29, and you don't even know to read people? Read the person who keeps roaming around you like a bee roams around a flower? I am supposed to look at it and ignore it as a flaw in him? Look at him as an innocent guy? Just let it go because he is loyal to his wife?
He is in police and his senses would be alert in every way.
Grow up dude, first understand who are friends and how to make friendship. I understand his waada, his motive behind making her a friend, his guilt but I will never be able to understand or approve if he continues to befriend her if he has an inkling of what is in her mind.
I have looked at it in two ways. It is not like I did not give him a chance. I did. This is how I had tried to understand him, but even then, not quite convincing.
He has accepted her as his friend. Friend is someone whom we would extend support under any circumstances. May be, he thinks that he should help her come out of the past being a friend. He thinks that it is the duty of the friend to stand by her even if she was developing an obsession, to stand by her and help her in making her face the reality that he is married.
Another way to look at it, I have promised to be her friend, I have already broken my other promise, cannot afford to or will not break this way. Or that he has not even thought, just doing it all in a flow, naturally continuing to consider her as a friend because he has made her his friend, ignoring her thoughts and her state (unable to move on from the past).
I have no issues with his friendship with Pakhi because I never can even think or doubt Virat's intentions or loyalty. Till date, I have never done that. But, there is only so much a person should do and when needed, lines have to be drawn or even relationship should be broken. He can become her friends later.
In real life, there are many I know of, who have had this issue of ex and then becoming friends, when they notice the ex hasn't moved on or not able to move on or still thinking about them and pursuing them, they end their friendship. Not exactly end, it is like making them face the reality. That is also friendship, their duty. By ending it, they are still being a friend showing them the right path when it is needed. Otherwise, there is no stopping, this is exactly what is happening in case of Virat and Pakhi. There is no stopping Pakhi.
And in real life, when they see their ex has actually moved on or they are not trying to pursue them, they start moving with them and start to extend support as a friend.
It might look like it is too early for Virat, nevertheless, he could have and should be doing it. Please let's not even bring the tag that he is an emotional, kind hearted person.
Emotional and kind hearted person should also know how to be stern, really really stern and if it is needed to be harsh, have to be harsh. He would be doing good, not for him, but to Pakhi. And being a friend, he should do this for her. He is not the lone supporter of Pakhi. Pakhi is not all alone in the world. If she would leave the house, so be it. If he has to answer his brother, face it and answer it.
I am not sure if I even answered your question or if this is what your question was, I started to write and then wrote and wrote 🤣🤣.
There are a few qualities in Virat, which I do not like and won't support him in it, just like how I wouldn't support Sai in all her actions. We want to play fair, play fair. Point out and accept all the qualities in a character, good or bad, rightful ones or flaws of the characters, favourite or not.
