Purani Yaadein...

Good Evening Everyone;

Hope you guys are enjoying your weekend!!! Becoz I m not...

Some questions are eating me up..regarding the character of Sai; so I wanted to know the original writer and what inspired her to write these characters..so I went digging at first, obviously on internet😂

Found the writer of the original script was Leena Gangopadhyay and she is 114 years old 😲and apparentaly still writing😅.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leena_Gangopadhyay

Kudos Women Empowerment😇

I did not found about much of her personal life, as to if any incident in her real life has given birth to these characters..

Leave how the actors have played there role; but how deep and knotted are all these characters..

And then I remembered the promo...

Check out Sai and Virat's unconventional married life - Promo on Hotstar! https://www.hotstar.com/ca/1260049427

How apt are these lines...In public eye; Sai has everything a girl can ask for yet...how dark is her life..

Why Sai, in real life how many Sai's we know , who walks with us on roads, marketplaces etc..

Also, I remembered an episode from Satyamev Jayate..I don't remember the exact episode; but there was a victim a women she was 24-25 years old in Delhi.Her in -laws were well educated people her FIL was a high court judge and both her MIL and husband were doctors, moreover her MIL was a gynacologist.. She herself was an engineer in a government job..

She was telling her story; how she was tortured in her pregnancy because her MIL did a sonography and knew it was girl child;her own family sent her back to the house due to society pressure because her husband did not had a problem with girl child and finally when she was 8 months due , her FIL and MIL pushed her from top of stairs while her husband stood thete saying nothing..

The fall was so damning that not only she lost her child but was also crippled for life..

Later no police station was ready to launch an FIR for 2 years..

And its not only about girls many Males face same kind of problem..

Its Domestic Abuse and when we do not talk about it..we do not complain it just fuels the wrongdoer..

Coming back to the topic..how right was this promo.. to say "All that glitters, is not Gold"

The question that is coming to my mind along with several others is why?? Why Sai is not sharing about Devi Tai and Pulkit Sir when Virat has given her assurance and he is making it loud and clear from his side to eveyone along with Sai that she matters to him...Why Sai is been so stubborn..

So to cheer myself up, I started watching earlier episodes from GC days and then moved to episodes after sairat marriage.

And then mere yaadon ki baarat khul gayi😂 and I remembered this incident from my teenage days..a conversation between me and my grandmother..

So we had a couple living as our neighbours and we lived in a close knit neighbourhood in the 90's.

This couple the wife was very beautiful and classy but was whenever anyone praised her husband she would start badmouthing him and she never saw how many people were sitting or how peoe were taking her outbursts.

The husband, I called him Bhaiya was the most hard working man i used to see, like when i saw males of all other households ordering women around, he used to fetch water, wash clothes, cook breakfast and whenever we went offered us food, choclates and he was not even shameful about doing that work and he did all this before going to work.The couple had a daughter, he even used to make her ready for school as well.

His wife, Bhabhi also worked

, though good at heart she spoke politely with everyone loved all the children of neighbourhood, but when it came to her husband she treated him like servant.Also, she was very strict with her daughter as if she was not 3 year old but in army practice..

One day it again happened and I was so pissed at that women, that I started ranting about to my grandmother; and i asked does she even consider how lucky she is to have such a understanding husband because at that moment I was drawing parallel between Bhaiya and the other men , I saw around me..

Than my grandmother told me about them; she said: "Log aksar ateet bhul jaaya karte hai" People forget history!!!

She told me when Bhabhi came newly wedded she was so meek that when they used to visit , she would hide behind curtains but the same bhaiya whom I am praising, used to treat her like shit ,because apparentaly he married her in family pressure but he actually loved someone else.

He once actually beated her so roughly that she was hospitalised..

I was shocked, because the bhaiyya I saw bought gifts for bhabhi on valentine and birthdays.He used to ask her on trips, but she would flately refuse.

Then my grandmom explained to me , when a girl gets married she is so sensitive leaving her family coming to new family, that in her life a girl remembers her whole marriage based on her initial months of marriage.

I was still not satisfied, so I asked her if Bhabhi can't forgive him than why is she still living with him she is torchering both herself and him and now the baby too.

She again explained, they had a baby because she forgave him and loves him but why do think Forgiving is eqavalent to Forgetting.

I did not understand than what my grandmom was saying maybe because of the age or because i believe in mantra of Moving On...

But today, when I was visiting Episode 66, I remembered what my grandmother said that day..I was able to draw parallels.

Check out Virat Rebukes Sai on Hotstar! https://www.hotstar.com/ca/1000255791

Today we have a problem, why Sai is not sharing her problems with Virat???

But remember this episode, she went to share her problems willingly with her husband..and what happened what did Virat said that day???

Sai is a modern day girl not like the Bhabhi I knew, but one thing is common they both were in a sensitive place during and after there marriage...both for different reason

Add the age,death of her only family member and conditions of marriage in the mix for Sai..

Isn't it true "First Impressions are Last for some" and "Once burnt; Twice Shy"..

Does'nt it applies here.

Why does Sai always saying thank you and i will return the favours, when Virat is all about I am your husband, its your right!!!

Check episode 59 ; Sai asks Virat with so much Haq "Aa hi gaye hai, toh suitcase utaar dijiye" and then also grumbles jitna bolo utna hi karenge..

But after Patralekha came back , when have we seen her using such Haq on him..

Never not atleast consciously...until she is forced to admit; she never even acknowledges Virat as her husband..

Virat had a problem when Sai was not bringing him food, not eating with him but we forget one day when as wife she took that plate of food for her husband..which he threw..

It does not mean, the Virat we have today what he does goes out of the window, slowly and steadily it allows Sai to lower her guard but as soon she starts lowering the guard, something happens to bring the shield up with twice strength.

For example: Trip, i do not believe for one second , that she got ready for trip because Virat forced her, she did because she also wanted to spend time with this new Virat she was hesitant because of Pakhi...and after the fiasco when Aai came to ask Virat to take Sai seperately somewhere, she stopped removing the bangles, she wanted Virat to say "Yes" but when she saw his hesitancy, the walls were back up with twice reinforcement..

Than add the money tantrum..to list.

The wall came down a little with family, sorry , tears and chaat party..but this is second time they have not lowered down fully..

Now hopefully, tomorrow with Ninad's hand holding scene the wall might crash, but again with the throwing out of house..Virat has to put his life on line to bring her back..

Note: I am not justifying or saying that without telking Virat what she is doing is right!!

SAI has Forgives easily so people think its a FL thing , but we forget Sai is also a Grey Character she easily Forgives but she never Forgets.

Atleast in KD, that was the reason the confession took Sai to go to coma, but no it was an episode during that time where Virat realises how damaged there relationship is?? Because Sai never Forgets..

NOTE: I AM NOT SAYING VIRAT IS WRONG OR RIGHT, THEY ARE HUMANS WITH EMOTIONS WHICH CAN NEVER BE BLACK AND WHITE.THIS IS JUST MY SIDE OF ANALYSIS FOR THE REASONS SAI IS SO ADAMANT ABOUT SOME POINTS.

Let me know , if you guys agree or disagree!!

Even in the episode where Ashwini insists on Sai going on the trip. Before Ashwini says that, Virat didn’t even consider that it could be a possibility. If I were in Sai’s position I would have definitely felt bad. That’s why she says to Ashwini that no one is talking about me going on the trip then why are you bringing it up.

just for a second I felt bad for Sai.

Virat probably had a lot of things on his mind etc. At times more than words certain actions that he does in front of PP has lasting impression on Sai and creates MU

Originally posted by: notaquitter

Even in the episode where Ashwini insists on Sai going on the trip. Before Ashwini says that, Virat didn’t even consider that it could be a possibility. If I were in Sai’s position I would have definitely felt bad. That’s why she says to Ashwini that no one is talking about me going on the trip then why are you bringing it up.

just for a second I felt bad for Sai.

Virat probably had a lot of things on his mind etc. At times more than words certain actions that he does in front of PP has lasting impression on Sai and creates MU

He has called PP pyaari cheez and blamed her for sending pp away. Also told her he loved her during their argument in the same episode. Virat sometimes conveniently forgets all this but Sai madam remember s each and every thing.

I really like the way you explained it. Yes fighting can be forgiven but couldn't be forgetten completely.... I want to add completely bcoz after sometime, when situation changes and nature of the person changes , we might not forget the words spoken during the fight but they will surely fade out. I won't support virat for what he did in last few episodes but at the same time we can't count few things as his mistake... For example: the pushing of the plate in DIG track, in that situation he did pushed the plate but not intentionally his career was in stake for which he worked hard for all his life, at that time we can't expect him to act calmly but yes blaming sai for marriage is wrong... But pushing plate is not ,and sai should understand that and forget about it because here it's not a mistake but an outburst... Similar to the outburst of sai during her Abba death... Virat went out of the board lot of times but same virat stood against everyone only for her before and after marriage.... And both of them said alot of stuff to eachother which couldn't be forgotten but as I said ,as time passes and bond between them becomes stronger these words will fade out and will be replaced by some beautiful memories.. I can't judge ur baiya and bhabie as I don't know them... But I believe once the person changes for good and even then if we keep on poking them for the bad they did, at some point the changed person will again tend to bad only because he can't get comfort from the person for whom he/she changed..☺️☺️

Very true. Virat has apologised for the big mistakes like the trip cancellation and the food denial/hand holding etc but all these things leave an impression on Sai. She will forgive and understanding that hes under pressure but that doesn't mean she will share everything with him. That will take time. She keeps reminding herself of his "commitment" which he told her when they got married. That statement of Virat is SO ingrained in her that even when she sees him support her sometimes and respect the maryaada of the relationship with pp, she will never forget that she was not the first woman in his life. She was not his choice. She was an obligation. And she will never forget the many small instances where he has not spoken up and let PP get away with taunting Sai because hes so choosy about picking his battles. sai probably thinks that theres no point involving virat unless theres no option or watee is over the head because in any case, if the issue is small he will let it slide. She didn't share her "doubts" about pd and everything devi said because when she tried he brushed it off as "veham". If she had told him it us very likely he would told her off for her detectivegiri and said dont get involved.

In the past he dragged her away from devi and basically told her "apne kaam se kaam rakho".

He wants her to share but when she does he doesn't always understand. Especially when its about his family members or pp. He always gives them the benefit of doubt because he is caught in between. He only truly sympathizes and listens when its about her aabaa.

Virat is not wrong but he doesn't realize that there are many little things that go into developing a relationship of honesty, trust and this "unsaid emotions" padhna. If he cant do it at his age and eith his life experiences yet, how will Sai. It takes time. And if he is under so much pressure balancing family, work and Sai, its the same if not worse with Sai. Everyone is against her, the house/city is new, virat himself is not someone she knows too well. She also has her college and studies. I loved that he acknowledged that Sai is "dukhi" when he was explaining to kaku why he wanted to take Sai along but the trip cancellation and everything in the aftermath now has in no way helped. Shes still dukhi. Hope he remembers that and CVs do as well!

I hope they show something in between where we get lighthearted Sairat. Either a trip/holi celebration/ devi pulkit marriage prep. Something where Sai can forget her worries and stress for a while.

Fabulous post!!

what your grandmother said to you was so amazing!!

I completely agree, the girl ever since she has walked in that house has been through so much crap, virat has never questioned his family in a serious way as to why. But like we know he has a soft spot for his family...

But when it comes to pp why does he see the need to give her clarification for anything. To him it shouldn’t matter what is happening in her mind.

yes sai let’s her guard down with Virat but then he rebukes her and her guard is back up..

She isn’t like that with aai because aai understands her..

I really hope they don’t butcher these characters

UnRes

Wonderful post 💐 Thanks for the detailed analysis.

Just not sairat even in real life couples don’t forget that easily and in fights they do have tendency to bring back the old wounds.

One of the main things in sairat relationship is for Sai, she doesn’t have fond loving memories of Virat to fall back on. The marriage happened in forced circumstances and was not out of love. There is third angle to their marriage. And that other woman not only lives under the same roof but constantly taunts her and brings her down every chance she gets. To top it husband doesn’t defend her all the time. I don’t want to talk about the C-gang here.

Even though Sai and Virat characters seem to be forgiving in nature, for couples to forget and really move on from nasty fights they need to have some basic foundation and good memories about the relationship to fall back on. Which Sai doesn’t have and many circumstances she has been left to feel like a third wheel even though she is the wife.

The love yous between calls, random hugs and small talk does wonder in any relationship. With sairat none of it has happened. All she is made to believe is that she is Virat’s responsibility.

In the initial episodes Sai complains about Virat scolding all the time. And Virat calls her immature and wanted Pakhi to guide her! I mean that was sathyanash on Virat’s part.

Lot of couples move on from nasty fights and find their equilibrium in their relationship but only few really forget and move on when love and respect is unbound.


I really hope sairat will have more moments to fall back in love and PH and CV’s don’t disappoint us with regressive content and angst.

Originally posted by: KBBofRCIBC

Did you know Leena Gangopadhyay is the writer of imli Bengali version?

Res

will comment later

between Amazing post 💐

Yes.. i knew but what about it..

Originally posted by: Saichintalli

I really like the way you explained it. Yes fighting can be forgiven but couldn't be forgetten completely.... I want to add completely bcoz after sometime, when situation changes and nature of the person changes , we might not forget the words spoken during the fight but they will surely fade out. I won't support virat for what he did in last few episodes but at the same time we can't count few things as his mistake... For example: the pushing of the plate in DIG track, in that situation he did pushed the plate but not intentionally his career was in stake for which he worked hard for all his life, at that time we can't expect him to act calmly but yes blaming sai for marriage is wrong... But pushing plate is not ,and sai should understand that and forget about it because here it's not a mistake but an outburst... Similar to the outburst of sai during her Abba death... Virat went out of the board lot of times but same virat stood against everyone only for her before and after marriage.... And both of them said alot of stuff to eachother which couldn't be forgotten but as I said ,as time passes and bond between them becomes stronger these words will fade out and will be replaced by some beautiful memories.. I can't judge ur baiya and bhabie as I don't know them... But I believe once the person changes for good and even then if we keep on poking them for the bad they did, at some point the changed person will again tend to bad only because he can't get comfort from the person for whom he/she changed..☺️☺️

Thats the point Virat is not wrong its his character flaw its embedded in it.

Like Sai's flaw of not letting go easily, not forget These are their character flaws..

Like all of us nobody is perfect...we all have our flaws..

You make an interesting point about Sai not being able forget. Yesterday there was a whole discussion on why Sai is not confiding in Virat about Pulkit-Devi. Some views were that Sai is yet a child-woman, therefore not aware of / giving as much importance to marital relationship. Your point about it being Sai not forgetting seems equally convincing.

I understand that in KD, Sai-Virat relationship remains a pendulum - MU followed by reconciliation and again MU - until the end of 12 years of marriage. This could only happen if Sai also had a major flaw that would act as a deterrent in smoothing out their relationship. Her flaw mat be this inability to forget. We all know Virat's flaws.

So while we are expecting a strong bond after SaiRat separation, it may actually continue to be an on-off relationship of sorts throughout (I'm reminded of Ross and Rachel from friends). 🥺

I think wikipedia got Leena Gangopadhyay's age wrong. In another site, her year of birth was written as 1970 (as opposed to 1907 in wikipedia).